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to wish tall people would all F off sometimes

328 replies

LaMaG · 19/06/2023 21:07

OK, I know I am BU. I am 5'3", so not tiny. I went to a gig last night to a group that I was a huge fan of as a teenager and as soon as I arrived I realised there was no televised screen therefore I would not see anything. I should have seen it coming, it was a summer festival tent, not a venue as such with facilities. I moved around a bit eventually catching glimpses of the band every now again only to be immediately blocked again by a big person standing in front.

This weekend I also had my DD's gymnastics display which was a local thing with fold up chairs in a gym. A child sat in front of me and only then did I realise the huge relief I felt as I had been anxious a big man would sit in front and that was it ruined for me. Yes I could have craned my neck and been uncomfortable but DD would not have seen me and she was really nervous and needed to keep looking to me for reassurance.

It just got me thinking of all the times in my life I have paid to see something but just spent my time looking at the back of big stupid necks and shoulders, of feeling like my face was shoved into an arm pit. I have lost interest in live music and certain other things for this very reason but we are supposed to just put up with it, tough luck its your fault for being smaller.

Would it really be unreasonable for allowances to be made. I get there are many working problems with segregation by size but it seems to me that its not completely unworkable. For example there could be a priority viewing area in the front of gigs for people under 5'5", if they chose to move there. Or in a more casual setting, would be it unreasonable to ask - God forbid - that a taller person sits on the back row. I find it hard to believe tall people are all so selfish, I'm sure many would comply but this needs to be organised and normalised. It would be no more unfair than a person paying for a ticket not to see what they paid for.

OP posts:
Meeting · 19/06/2023 21:09

Tall people pay the price anywhere seating is involved. Flights are hell.

MessyBunt · 19/06/2023 21:10

What a nasty thread.

HarlanPepper · 19/06/2023 21:10

But how would you ever get anything off a high shelf if we did?

CountryStore · 19/06/2023 21:11

What if you want something off a high shelf though, OP? 🤔

EmpressaurusOfCats · 19/06/2023 21:11

5ft 3? Try 4ft 11. I simply don’t bother going watch anything if I’m going to have to stand in a crowd.

CountryStore · 19/06/2023 21:11

Ha, x post @HarlanPepper

bibbityboppityboo · 19/06/2023 21:11

😂

I'm over 6ft, I'm not sitting on a back row of somewhere just because I'm tall! I already feel awkward enough in so many life situations, it's super unnecessary to start segregation by size.

I already pay a fortune in specialised tall clothing brands, only being able to fly certain ways, larger beds / houses / cars etc.

I'm sorry you've felt so personally victimised by tall people, but it's just other people trying to live their life.

Vintagecreamandcottagepie · 19/06/2023 21:12

🤣

drpet49 · 19/06/2023 21:12

I kinda agree. Went to the theatre recently and saw practically nothing because of two tall people sat in front of me.

thecatsthecats · 19/06/2023 21:12

I'm 5'9" and I'm with you OP!

Especially gangs of six footers at gigs all huddled together in the middle. Stand at the side you outsize bastards.

Sapphire387 · 19/06/2023 21:12

Nah, my DH is 6'4 and the most gorgeous man in the world, no offence to anyone else's.

He is conscious of his height in the sense he will tend to sit more towards the back, try not to sit directly in front of someone, etc. At gigs, it is harder, and I am only 5'4 so we have to try and strike a balance somehow.

Leg room and travelling on the tube (we live in London) can be a problem.

EatThoseFrogs · 19/06/2023 21:13

Wow, ever thought about how awkward it is for us tall people at concerts? Constantly feeling you're in the way, constantly trying to move so people can see and inevitably pissing off someone else?

That's before we get to the fact a lot of seats aren't made for taller people. At least your legs aren't literally cramped under you so you fit in a seat

ProfessorXtra · 19/06/2023 21:13

So you want gigs to charge extra to short people?

CleverLilViper · 19/06/2023 21:13

HarlanPepper · 19/06/2023 21:10

But how would you ever get anything off a high shelf if we did?

Never underestimate the will and determination of little people. I’m 4ft 11 and I will climb shelves, use brooms or long-handled things to get what I want. You learn to be crafty when you’re little.

Simonjt · 19/06/2023 21:13

Lots of gigs have a golden circle area at the front, so on many cases you can already buy a ticket to be near the front. Seating by height would mean families were split up, it would also mean children were sat at the front without supervision. I’m six foot, my eight year old isn’t!

Clymene · 19/06/2023 21:14

The should split gigs down the middle. All the tall fuckers on onesie, all the shortarses on the other. That would give everyone a fair chance.

hoophoophooray · 19/06/2023 21:14

I like to see gigs with my short friends, why should I be split up from them?

Houseahome23 · 19/06/2023 21:14

@Simonjt exactly!

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 19/06/2023 21:15

I'm 6' and always look over my shoulder to make sure I'm not blocking people's view.
We face our own lifetime of inconvenience so don't slag us off too much. We can hardly do anything about it....

Clymene · 19/06/2023 21:15

One side! Not onesie.

As for shelves, I use empty cardboard packaging to hoik things forward.

Tannedandfake · 19/06/2023 21:15

‘Tall people are so selfish’
Dear god! Like they have chosen to be that height

KnitMePurlMe · 19/06/2023 21:16

So if have to stand at the back while all my short arse friends got to enjoy being at the front? That would be fun 🙄

Tinkietot · 19/06/2023 21:16

Nope as a tall girl that can’t wear a play suit as it cut your vagina in two I have no sympathy.

There needs to be some benefit to being tall occasionally. I can’t shop in normal clothing stores as many don’t stock tall it’s all online. Any type of travel is always fun.

Owlplant · 19/06/2023 21:16

Good to know. At 6'2'' I've usually felt self-conscious and uncomfortable at gigs for this very reason. I was right to.

BlinkeredBay · 19/06/2023 21:16

drpet49 · 19/06/2023 21:12

I kinda agree. Went to the theatre recently and saw practically nothing because of two tall people sat in front of me.

So when they didn’t ask your height at booking, did you not realise this was a potential issue!

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