to wish tall people would all F off sometimes

[LaMaG]

OK, I know I am BU. I am 5'3", so not tiny. I went to a gig last night to a group that I was a huge fan of as a teenager and as soon as I arrived I realised there was no televised screen therefore I would not see anything. I should have seen it coming, it was a summer festival tent, not a venue as such with facilities. I moved around a bit eventually catching glimpses of the band every now again only to be immediately blocked again by a big person standing in front.

This weekend I also had my DD's gymnastics display which was a local thing with fold up chairs in a gym. A child sat in front of me and only then did I realise the huge relief I felt as I had been anxious a big man would sit in front and that was it ruined for me. Yes I could have craned my neck and been uncomfortable but DD would not have seen me and she was really nervous and needed to keep looking to me for reassurance.

It just got me thinking of all the times in my life I have paid to see something but just spent my time looking at the back of big stupid necks and shoulders, of feeling like my face was shoved into an arm pit. I have lost interest in live music and certain other things for this very reason but we are supposed to just put up with it, tough luck its your fault for being smaller.

Would it really be unreasonable for allowances to be made. I get there are many working problems with segregation by size but it seems to me that its not completely unworkable. For example there could be a priority viewing area in the front of gigs for people under 5'5", if they chose to move there. Or in a more casual setting, would be it unreasonable to ask - God forbid - that a taller person sits on the back row. I find it hard to believe tall people are all so selfish, I'm sure many would comply but this needs to be organised and normalised. It would be no more unfair than a person paying for a ticket not to see what they paid for.

👏🏻

6'4" DH, 5'9" me and 5'3" DS are going to the theatre soon. Foolishly I booked us all seats in the same row (don't worry short people it's near the back of the stalls) I had no idea that I should have put DS near the front, me somewhere near the middle and DS at the back. What a great family day out that would make!

Being short or tall both have there dis/advantages.

The only way off getting to front off concerts is these days is paying VIP prices, so that's segregation off can/can't afford it.

I love going to the theatre but being in the cheaper seats, non stalls is so uncomfortable that I don't go as can't afford it. So tall people should get a discount to sit in the stalls!

Most annoying thing at concerts is people holding their phones up, does anyone exactly watch what they've filmed,

Tall people can't make themselves smaller, maybe they should kneel down. Short people can make themselves taller, I know uncomfortable but wear 6" heels you can make yourself taller

Wow what a horrible post. Try being tall like myself and finding out it isn't great for other reasons!!!!!

Fat people should also be put in a separate area because they take up extra room and it's not fair on skinny people.

Or not. Because that would be quite mean and silly.

You do realise that heel height makes no difference when you're sat down 😂

I’m like you OP, I just accept I’m never going to enjoy events where I have to stand behind people taller than me (i.e. everyone).

But, life is swings and roundabouts. I am more comfortable on planes and trains, I hardly ever have “mind my head” and I take advantage of all the people who underestimate me because I am dinky.

6ft5? Back row. At that height choosing anywhere else is inconsiderate unless you know it's steeply raked.

What about if your partner is 5ft?

I'm shorter than you and had this panic last year when I went to see a much loved band live. There were screens but, the audience was composed of very lovely people who pretty much ushered me to the front.
shame they didn't usher me onto the singer but you can't have everything

They aren't 'outsize' though

What an odd comment

Try being 5ft 1 then get back to me..

Seriously though, I just plan for it. I only buy theatre seats at the front row of the upper circle. I buy VIP cinema seats with better views. I don’t go to standing gigs, too long to stand anyway. People can’t stop living because they are tall, you just have to deal with whatever attributes you have.

Then partner sits at the back with them obviously, and hopes they don't have another giant in front of them!

My DH is tall and we sit in the front half at the theatre. This is because Im visually impaired and I would see nothing at all further back, its not great as it is. He could leave me by myself and sit further back but funnily enough he doesn't want to leave his visually impaired wife in a semi lit theatre by herself.

I'm 5'8 too so I would probably piss you off as well. But as a disabled person I'm used to my existence pissing people off.

@Peacepudding giant?

Nasty thread

I'm tall and always feel awkward when at the theatre. It's something that cant be helped unfortunately lol

I’m just under five feet tall and I think YANBU. I always let small children stand/sit in front of me so they can see. Some tall people do the same for short people, but most don’t.

I couldn’t see one bit of DD’s nativity play from my seat because tall people somehow blocked every gap in front of me. I’m slightly deaf, and couldn’t hear the dialogue either - being able to lip-read might have helped. I ended up standing against a wall, watching the play sideways on. I couldn’t understand much at that angle, but did get the odd glimpse of DD’s hands and face as she and her classmates stood in a row and performed a song.

@Cattenberg but standing up at the back or down the sides in an awkward position is EXACTLY what people want taller people to do!!

The same! Not good enough for you so why should others do that so you get a better view?

If I had somebody 6ft5 sitting in front of me they would seem like a giant, yes.

Theatre seats aren't allocated on arrival. You have the choice where to book - no need to feel awkward that you're blocking people's views if you choose considerately

No, want them to sit in the back rows.

I was most annoyed by the mums who saved seats near the front for their very tall husbands, who turned up at the last minute to block the view.

Everyone on MN seems to have a 6ft+ DH. It’s quite odd when you consider the average male height is around 5ft 10.

OP I’m 5ft 1.5 and agree it’s a problem. Stalls seats just aren’t steeply banked enough in many venues. I always try to get seats as close to the front as I can, but you can’t be sure you won’t end up with a tall person in front of you.

Bizarre, make your way up the front like we all did at gigs as small teens.
I'm taller now and love that, but I pay the same to buy seats as you, just buy priority seats close to the stage. I had to pay a huge markup once to go with my daughter and not stand.

Why should they all be segregated and shoved at the back?

Where are you putting overweight people?

Mums with babies?

Black , white and Asian?

How does your people sorting system work?

I’m short too, 5’3”, I have a spaghetti spoon that is used for everything except spaghetti. Need the kitchen window closing? No problem, I hook the spoon round the handle and pull it shut, great for retrieving packs of dried goods at the back of the shelf. Got dodgy knees and can’t bend down so well to pick stuff up off the floor or getting stuff out of the washer or drier a problem? Use the spoon.