to wish tall people would all F off sometimes

[LaMaG]

OK, I know I am BU. I am 5'3", so not tiny. I went to a gig last night to a group that I was a huge fan of as a teenager and as soon as I arrived I realised there was no televised screen therefore I would not see anything. I should have seen it coming, it was a summer festival tent, not a venue as such with facilities. I moved around a bit eventually catching glimpses of the band every now again only to be immediately blocked again by a big person standing in front.

This weekend I also had my DD's gymnastics display which was a local thing with fold up chairs in a gym. A child sat in front of me and only then did I realise the huge relief I felt as I had been anxious a big man would sit in front and that was it ruined for me. Yes I could have craned my neck and been uncomfortable but DD would not have seen me and she was really nervous and needed to keep looking to me for reassurance.

It just got me thinking of all the times in my life I have paid to see something but just spent my time looking at the back of big stupid necks and shoulders, of feeling like my face was shoved into an arm pit. I have lost interest in live music and certain other things for this very reason but we are supposed to just put up with it, tough luck its your fault for being smaller.

Would it really be unreasonable for allowances to be made. I get there are many working problems with segregation by size but it seems to me that its not completely unworkable. For example there could be a priority viewing area in the front of gigs for people under 5'5", if they chose to move there. Or in a more casual setting, would be it unreasonable to ask - God forbid - that a taller person sits on the back row. I find it hard to believe tall people are all so selfish, I'm sure many would comply but this needs to be organised and normalised. It would be no more unfair than a person paying for a ticket not to see what they paid for.

So I wouldn't be able to sit next to my brothers? Or possibly, my dc after puberty. My oldest brother has stopped taking busses because his thigh is a lot longer than the space between seats.

I find short people usually have sharp elbows and just barge in where they like.

Take a booster cushion next time OP or wear some high heels

@Avondale89 because you are not paying for comfort or legroom. You are paying for the journey.
When I go to the theatre I am paying to SEE the performance. So to have my view obstructed is to miss out on what I paid for. Your journey still got you from point A to point B.

I know my title and some of the post is aggressive, but it is a bit tongue in cheek and I do say I know its unreasonable.

But I do think there is a fair point in here and it is really aimed at venue organisers. I also do understand that sometimes taller people choose the seat at the front because of the leg room. This would be another example of an allowance, maybe there should be certain rows for those who want longer leg room, first come first serve at booking. Just as there may be a section for smaller people, only if people choose to avail of it of course.

My dh is tall and complains about flights but that's a few hours a year and as someone says it's not the same as literally not seeing what you have paid to see.

I understand OP. 😂5ft1 and all the seats I’ve had to strategically book. However, I have to say at standing gigs I always get separated from my friends and pushed to the front. There have also been some lovely tall people who have moved seats to accommodate me. At least plane rides are more comfortable. My partner is nearly 6ft4 and I feel so bad for him.

What a nasty post! I’m 5’8 and yes, I do try and not block people’s view. However, I’ve paid for my seat and I’m sitting in it.

@HarlanPepper If there weren't any tall people, we wouldn't have tall shelves, we'd have "second stories" (with stairs/elevators)! 😂

Theatres with poorly arranged seats / hardly any banking frustrate me. I accept that in a standing concert I might not be able to see anything, but at least I can move around.

One smurf to another get over yourself 😅

Tongs are my best friend

Ahh the days when I used to take my 'big stupid neck' to standing gigs - I've lost count of how many times I acted as a 'human shield' bracing my arms either side of small friends (and sometimes strangers) so they weren't buffeted by the crowd. I guess I should have just lurked at the back instead and left little people to get crushed.

Obviously no one can do anything about it but it is annoying. Especially when you’ve found somewhere that you can see and after the gig starts people move around and stand right in front of you.

I'm short, I rarely bother going to theatre or music shows any more as I can never see anything.

A band I used to go and see had a 'women only' rule for the mosh pit, which helped.

I assure you most of us hobbits are eternally grateful for this kind of assistance

I feel your frustration. I’m 5ft 0 and I get so annoyed when a really tall person sits in front of me at a show or somewhere. Especially when they have a choice of where to sit.
i think it’s rude and selfish.
people on this thread can give me hate all they want but there is definitely prejudice against short people. Especially short men. I also hate that people boast about their tall sons as though it some sort of achievement 😆

You should only go to concerts in Lilliput.

At gigs I usually stand by a post or beam so I am not blocking anyone, but there is always someone taller who might stand in front. There's always someone taller.

I was always tall compared to my friends and would bend my knees in group photos so I didn't look like Mother Hen, but they for some reason would do the same. I would go lower and so would they. I would end up doing some terrible plié just to get to the right height. Drove me crazy.

What a horrible post. Us tall people can't control our height, but you can control your attitude

You could have been much more polite to make your point, OP. It really does come across as very nasty.

Tall people have issues to deal with just as short people do - seating on flights/cinemas/theatres being completely unaccommodating, clothes not fitting and there being no option to take down (short people can take things up), people staring and making comments, being shy and not blending in even if you want to.

There are bad and good things about both.

Nasty post.

Imagine if the title of this thread was "to wish fat people would all F off sometimes." It would have been deleted almost instantly.

I guess us tall people don't deserve the same consideration, and we actually have no control whatsoever over being tall.

YABU for using big/huge to describe tall
people. And stupid. Your post is mostly just nasty tbh.

I’m a taller than average woman. We paid a small fortune for good seats to see Bruce Springsteen last week. Sort of corner seats angled to the stage. View would have been amazing if several not particularly tall but quite wide people had not decided to stand for the whole thing. They weren’t dancing, just standing. Why not get standing tickets? I didn't want to stand for three hours.

YABU, bring a cushion 😂

To all you shorties saying tall people should be more thoughtful about where they sit in a theatre which seats do you recommend? My DH is 6ft5 and we always try and get an aisle seat for him so he can sit sideways and have a fighting chance of not getting deep vein thrombosis from trying to cram his legs in the tiny space between seats.