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to wish tall people would all F off sometimes

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LaMaG · 19/06/2023 21:07

OK, I know I am BU. I am 5'3", so not tiny. I went to a gig last night to a group that I was a huge fan of as a teenager and as soon as I arrived I realised there was no televised screen therefore I would not see anything. I should have seen it coming, it was a summer festival tent, not a venue as such with facilities. I moved around a bit eventually catching glimpses of the band every now again only to be immediately blocked again by a big person standing in front.

This weekend I also had my DD's gymnastics display which was a local thing with fold up chairs in a gym. A child sat in front of me and only then did I realise the huge relief I felt as I had been anxious a big man would sit in front and that was it ruined for me. Yes I could have craned my neck and been uncomfortable but DD would not have seen me and she was really nervous and needed to keep looking to me for reassurance.

It just got me thinking of all the times in my life I have paid to see something but just spent my time looking at the back of big stupid necks and shoulders, of feeling like my face was shoved into an arm pit. I have lost interest in live music and certain other things for this very reason but we are supposed to just put up with it, tough luck its your fault for being smaller.

Would it really be unreasonable for allowances to be made. I get there are many working problems with segregation by size but it seems to me that its not completely unworkable. For example there could be a priority viewing area in the front of gigs for people under 5'5", if they chose to move there. Or in a more casual setting, would be it unreasonable to ask - God forbid - that a taller person sits on the back row. I find it hard to believe tall people are all so selfish, I'm sure many would comply but this needs to be organised and normalised. It would be no more unfair than a person paying for a ticket not to see what they paid for.

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LaJolieMuse · 21/06/2023 10:50

Honestly OP I agree!

I was at a gig on Sunday night and felt so, so small. Could hardly see a bloody thing and it was really stressful. Managed to manoeuvre myself into a position where I could see a screen between a few people and then someone came back from the bar and swapped places with someone and I was suddly 3 inches from a blokes shoulder blades. It was just a wall of tall people. I actually tapped him and asked him to shuffle over, and he did! My DH was mortified but he's not in my shoes.

It puts me off going places like gigs. Also all the tall people complaining they can't get clothes that fit, do you think that's different for small people? I usually look like I'm a kid who has tried on my mum's clothes 😂

TattyOne · 21/06/2023 10:51

I'm only 5'1 so I know what you mean!

In my next reincarnation I'm coming back as a giraffe so I can finally see over everyone else's heads for a change!

KimberleyClark · 21/06/2023 12:27

By the way, not everyone who is short has “stumpy little legs”. I’m 5ft1.5 but have to wear regular length trousers - short stop above my ankles - and I don’t have huge amount of legroom in theatres and on aircraft.

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