To think people should be BANNED from MN

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…. If they can’t read the full thread before bloody commenting???

Lightheaded (but also slightly serious lol)

grrr! I know it’s a mistake and at times difficult to read a long thread and all the comments, but why do people not bother properly reading the OPs comments or at least their first post before commenting something they’ve already said?

I’ve noticed it so often recently! The OP could make a post saying they are 30 years old. And there will be a number of comments asking how old they are. Or the OP could say they have a German shepherd. Cue 10 comments asking what breed the dog is. There’s actually a thread I just saw where the OP mentions antihistamines they’ve been taking and they mention the exact name of them. ITS IN THE OP. To which someone comments on the first page saying that it’s not clear if the OP is taking any antihistamines or not? 🤦🏽‍♀️

it’s happened on some of my posts where at least 30% of comments are people asking things that are IN THE OP and another 30% of comments are people telling them to read the OP.

i appreciate that people are only trying to help, but if they can’t be bothered to properly read the OP before commenting then it’s actually more unhelpful not to mention incredibly frustrating to have several comments that are questioning, suggesting or criticising things that are in the OP already

so I suppose my AIBU is, AIBU to get so frustrated by this??? Does anyone else?? 😆

any need to be so sarcastic to the OP?

Just be nice and keep the nasty comments to yourself.

I bump ancient threads. What it is, I often find I have perspectives that haven't been contributed on the thread, and it's not always worth starting a whole new one over. Even if the, say, the DS mentioned in the thread is now years older (e.g. 20 not 14 and not sleeping till midday anymore), I think it's worth contributing if others in the same situation are searching for a Mumsnet thread with a certain theme on Google and they can only find old ones.

Also, sometimes it's amazing to ask the OP for an update on a 2017 thread and actually get one (it has happened). I'm not sure why it bothers other posters so much? If it was that bad I'm sure MNHQ would ban it or disable the option to post on old threads. Just my two pence

I rest my case. Does it make you feel good putting people down? you've proven my point beautifully! bravo!!

Too, some OPs are quite long and if a person has cognitive impairments, they won’t remember everything in the OP. So to assume everyone can remember everything they read is ableist.

It's not ableist to assume that if you're posting a reply to someone then you at least retain the pertinent information to do so.

Also you get people where the OP is "I have three children and my youngest, 7yo DD, is being bullied by 5 other girls in her class. They mostly just exclude her from games but one has pushed her over in the playground but claimed it was an accident when the supervisor asked her what happened. I never had this issue with my older children and DD doesn't want me to do anything. AIBU to ignore her and speak to the teacher anyway?"

This is then followed by half a dozen replies;

How old is your DD?
How many children do you have?
Why are you getting involved in your son's issues?
How many other children are bullying her?
Is it physical or verbal bullying?
Have you spoken to the teacher yet?
What is the AIBU?

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No trouble! You’re very welcome!

Is this about reading comprehension in schools? Has the OP written a formal letter to the head teacher ?

As a stupid and irritating person I find this offensive. Maybe you should be banned for being perceptive and realistic.

I have lost the ability to tell who's being deadly serious and who's totally taking the piss on this thread.

you must feel so good knowing your post was deleted. are you a bully in real life also?

@tuvamoodyson
your username speaks volumes!!! lol 😆

I cant work out if you’re being serious?

Anyway - resurrecting zombie threads is really irritating, no matter how wise you consider your insights to be

100% serious. Why is it so irritating?

Because most people access threads from active and you’re wasting people’s time by bringing back long dead threads in order to share your wisdom.

It's not necessarily wisdom (I'd like to think my thoughts were at least a bit helpful though XD) it's just opinions. Sometimes I have a question for a poster that no one else has asked them about or clarified in the thread. Even if it's years old it's sometimes worth a shot at asking - they may well never come back to you but if you don't do it they definitely won't.

How is it wasting people's times? Do you mean cause the situation is no longer an issue for the OP? I mean, this is sometimes the case but not always - often it'll just be a generic question (especially on "chat") which is pretty timeless.

People access threads from active.

They assume they are current and that the OP is looking at the thread.

They don’t read the dates.

They spend time reading a potentially long thread, they go to add their thoughts, they realise that the threads two year old, the OP’s challenges with sleeping or breastfeeding for example are unlikely to be an issue anymore and that the thread is in active because you’ve been fannying about with old threads.

Stop it!

I suspect the "lightheaded" is a case of good old Autocorrect doing its thing. Either that, or OP is admitting to posting while tiddly. Shocking I know, but not unknown, and definitely not a banning issue - except sometimes.

I've been caught by zombie threads before, especially if it was posted in the same month of a different year (I can be a bit number blind at times). Fortunately I normally read the entire thread if I intend to post on it - or skim at the very least - and hopefully get a clue that way. Rather poignant when you recognise the name of someone who you know is no longer with us. More cheerfully, once I read a really sensible, well constructed response and was going to post supporting it, but realised just in time that I had written it myself some years earlier. (Not as classic as the poster who advised her younger self to buy a certain model of washing machine or some such.)

@tuvamoodyson

you're awful quiet. Do you not want to bully me anymore?
Seriously, the mind boggles!!😁
Have a lovely evening 😁

People accessing threads from active and not reading the metadata is another problem.
I noticed some very vocal ignorants in black mumsnetters, who were very surprised they aren't in AIBU.

In the ideal "advanced mumsnet" it wouldn't be a big deal to reopen old thread.

LaMaG

Tbf, OPs often drip feed info over 10 pages. No one is reading all that, surely, just on the off chance that they might be able to pick up all the facts - some of which often contradict.

I didn’t even finish your post let alone RTFT.

You need to be more succinct.

I mean... you can just read OP's posts all in one go? You don't have to sift through ten pages or whatever.

I don't get the point in commenting when you know you might not have all the info that's available.

The trouble is, they are very often not about the OP’s own life. There are many, many threads where the OP is just a little too novelistic, too well constructed and piques your interest at so many points that within the first couple of posts you’re hooked. Relationships and AIBU are the worst for these. I have been on MN on and off for many years, and remember a mother-daughter relationship that rivalled Mommie Dearest, tales of toxic teenagers and innumerable cruel husbands, improbable fake marriages and batshit school run mum groups. Anyone thinking this isn’t entertainment is being naive.