Guess how much money my partner spent..

[Itssnotunusual]

...On his fucking Xbox in the past year. I'm furious. Absolutely furious.

£7045?

It's also very easy to play the Xbox regularly and NOT spend money on add-ons! This is not a "Xbox-thing" or a "gaming-thing" - it's an irresponsible spending thing.

Have we had the comment yet about only teenage boys playing Xbox?

Whatever amount it is, I bet the OP hasn't had £3k+ to spend on her own entertainment in the past year and that's what's wrong here.

Just because its XBox, it doesn't automatically make it a waste of money, he could be drinking or smoking the same amount or spending it on books or naice bits from John Lewis, it's the fact that it's more than they can afford and also that he's had a huge chunk of personal money that is likely more than what the OP's had and at the detriment of a family holiday, days out, savings, or even essential bills.

It would be fine if they both had a decent amount of personal money and that was what he spent his on, but it sounds like this is not the case here, which is the issue. And a very big one at that.

£4326 just fucking say!

Do I get a prize for the closest guess?? Do I get the Xbox?

Eleventy five?

8 million and four pence.

Does he play guessing games on the Xbox?

Can you see from bank statements that it's all on the XBox?

Or could it be something like drugs, gambling, sex, and he thinks gaming is a more acceptable explanation?

😩 oh I'm so sorry that's really shitty behaviour. My DH is a gamer but he's pretty strict with himself with what he spends.
Is your husband willing to put strict limits in place now or does he think he's entitled to just carry on?

It could be bitcoin.

Or cheese.

Or he works for MI5 and spent it on spy-pens.

He might not even be real. He might be AI.

Sooo many things we can guess...

Sorry everyone- I went for a walk to the shop whilst he packed his clothes.

£4079.

I'm absolutely furious and heartbroken all at the same time. We had a right patch a couple of months ago due to financial issues. He still spent over £400 after we agreed to try again and sort our shit out monetarily.

She didn't say it was 2k a month. She said he was on 2k a month which is his salary

It's all on Xbox by the way- I suspected something was off when I saw a bank statement very much by accident and totted it all up this afternoon. You can look through your purchase history on there.

Well you've just taken me right back in time with that one 😅 I was also guilty. That, along with buying wallpaper/logos for my aul Nokia from magazines. I was nice enough, I made the ringtones myself and eventually started charging friends to put them on their phones to pay back what I owed my parents 🙈

So you've kicked him out already before you went on a walk?

Job done then.

I'm glad he's leaving, @Itssnotunusual and I can't believe the number of people behaving like you owe them a full audience while you're dealing with this shit in real life.

Anyone else get the ick from grown men being this obsessed with computer games😑

That's so much!

Glad you have chucked him out.

Sorry you are going through this

I do- I find the manchild deeply unattractive.
Wouldn't get to a second date.

I get more ick from grown women loving Disney

Not really. People like all kinds of shit. I spend loads on books. There's nothing inherently wrong with enjoying gaming, it's quite sophisticated these days.

What is wrong is spending money a family can't afford on indulging a secret habit.

That's where the wrongness lies.

I don’t do X-box, but I do play free games on the iPad.

Many of them offer in-app purchases. They are designed to pull you in slowly….. they offer you a package of boosts for 99p, but show you how much better value it would be to get the £1.99 one, then the £3.99 one, and so on.

I totted it up one month and realised I had spent over £100. I recognised that I was vulnerable to the intentionally addictive qualities of the game.

I went cold turkey. Still played the games, but didn’t do the in-app purchases. I relapsed once (about £50 worth) and then deleted the game which tempted me the most.

My point is - some people are more vulnerable than others to these tactics. Caught early enough, and if they recognise there’s a problem, it’s possible to escape.

But if they don’t see it as a problem, there is no hope. In that situation, you have to do what you have to do to defend yourself and your kids.

What did he spend it on? Loot boxes?

This is his problem rather than yours and you were right to kick him out but he probably needs to access some kind of gambling addiction support.

Oh no not the magazine ringtones! Wow that takes me back. If the gen Z could see what we went through.

I don’t think my mam knows the extent of the Habbo problem, I was gold member Habbo club and had loads of fire breathing dragon ornaments and pod chairs. Now as an adult I wince at the price of a meal deal. How I’ve matured 😂