Guess how much money my partner spent..

[Itssnotunusual]

...On his fucking Xbox in the past year. I'm furious. Absolutely furious.

Goodness I am so sorry. I was posting my jokey post about my childhood antics and this hadn't appeared yet or I wouldn't have 🙈

I'm very sorry. My ex was like this. I remember walking around in holey clothes and he danders in one day with a brand new xbox. The next year I'm still dandering around in half holey clothes and in he comes with a PlayStation and some virtual reality thing for it. Trust me. He would be unlikely to change. I think you've done the right thing but I'm very sorry you're going through this.

What on earth has he spent that much money on?

Games are circa £70 (if the latest, most are mich cheaper). Is he buying in game purchases? Or is he buying new headphones/controllers etc? It takes a lot of work to spend that much.

The big issue he is that he had lied to you. Whatever people may think about gaming, it's his hobby and he enjoys it. Men/Women like spending their money on different things, I almost fell of my chair when the missus told me how much she spend on some special moisturiser. Then she told me about her skin care routine and I just chuckled. I personally think it's an awful amount of money but if that's her thing, then so be it, I will support her. Unlike this situation she hasn't hidden anything from me

We have a young son who will be 2 in August. I'm fortunate to live with my parents- which we were doing to save money for a deposit. There's no questions as to who gets to stay at 'home'- fortunately.

4 years of my fucking life. I should have called it quits long ago- after I ended up in debt. He seems to move from one addiction to another- weed, booze, alcohol but I now realise that if I stay with him I will never be able to provide a good life for our son.

Well he has proven himself not responsible enough to own an x-box.

Imagine if that was a child racking up the bill. it would be immediately binned.

He is a grown man behaving like an irresponsible teenager. Treat him as such and chuck the bloody thing away.

If he can't game on it like a fucking adult, he cant game. How does he propose to earn the wasted money back? I'd be livid. He must of been on the thing all the bloody time too. And when you were struggling financially. What a waste of space.
Hardly attractive!

You've made the right decision @Itssnotunusual

I didn't think it could get any worse until I read this. How disrespectful to your parents too that they have been letting him live under their roof to save money and he repays them like that! You're a better woman than I am. I'd have chucked his clothes in the bin on top of the xbox.

I'm so sorry you're having a shit time Op - you are right to end the relationship and kick him out, it's no fun being married to a gambler or someone who has no control or respect for family finances. Good luck!

I'm guessing it's more the lying, disrespect and irresponsible behaviour 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yup, that and loads of other things. Thank fuck she has the brains to do it, too.

Op, never, ever take this man back. He will never be anything more than an anchor around your neck.

Do you know what?

Don't be sad.

Be happy you've made a really positive decision for you and your son.

You've made a brilliant choice for your future.

Don’t be a nasty twat. Honestly.

Obviously it's the lying about it which is the problem. The actual thing he's been spending on is immaterial, it could be designer trainers, or getting his bits waxed, or a fancy sports car, or alcohol. The point is that you'd had a discussion and he said he would't do it, and then did.

All this nonsense about getting the "ick" - whatever the hell that is - over a hobby is just crazy. Lots of people game, lots of people game for an hour or two each night. Lots of people game and don't spend any extra money.

How do you know she didn't end up in debt because she covered his debts? It seems a more plausible scenario to me.

Congratulations on having enough strength of character to call it a day.
Its not only his weakness of character but the fact that he has deceived you and has deprived you and his DS of a share of the money. Where is the trust?
Take care of yourself OP and I’m sure you’ll provide a better future for your DS.
Asap apply for maintenance. Don’t let him continue to waste all his money on his games.

I'm so sorry. You're moving ahead to better things now though. Don't look back.

Well done, OP.
You're well rid of this one.

Oh wow. I was going to say it's OK to spend on a hobby so long as you can afford it & you get the same to spend.

But over £4k when you're living with parents to save up a deposit!? What on earth was he thinking. Does he want to live with his in laws forever?

Fabulous way to repay your parents kindness too (although I'm sure they are more than happy to have you & DS there).

I don't like your tone at all. And it really doesn't change very much - this is clearly not a keeper.

The debt was approximately £1600 to fix his car and me eating into my overdraft as a way to make it through to the end of the month. I'm not going to pretend I've never spent money on anything for myself but it's been the odd new to me item of clothing or less than or a couple of Shandy's a week whilst I watch the local rugby team with my dad and my little boy.