To stop contact if he can’t keep to the time?

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My ex has our kids every other weekend but he keeps dropping them back late. It’s supposed to be 6pm but he’s usually at least twenty minutes late. It’s a long drive so I have to give them their tea and get them ready for school on Monday.

AIBU to say he can’t have them if he can’t keep to 6pm?

Is the ex on a power trip, deliberately being late just to show he can? Still controlling?

Sorry but yabu. You say him being 20 to 40 minutes late bringing them back gives you barely any time with them. He has them every other weekend, so you get every other weekend plus week days with no time limit. If he was late collecting them I would get it or if he only lived around the corner fine, fact I'd when traveling a distance traffic can be fine then suddenly an accident happens in one location and all traffic is diverted messing up several other routes.

He has a two hour drive and kids who haven't seen him for two weeks to pack back into the car have you seen how many parents can't even get their children to school on time? Why should it be controlling?

Yep she only had 17280 precious minutes before dad sees them for his 2880. Think loosing 20 to 40 is really tough on her

I voted YABU only due to it being 20 minutes, to me that’s not the end of the world.

my ex literally was hours late when he was meant to pick up/drop off our son and on some pick up occasions literally didn’t show up! So I can completely understand the frustration!
I would just mention to the dad “I understand there’s traffic etc, but could you please try and get little one back for 6pm?”

I would make it clear that he needs to stick to timings if it’s becoming a regular problem..

Exactly then they would have a 2 hour journey before school assuming no traffic what a ridiculous suggestion

Plenty of kids this age cope being in childcare until 6 go home then have a snack bedtime routine and back at childcare for 7am 5 days a week your looking for excuses

So when you pick up you get there early to try cutting his time down and have the ache that you have to wait. Why not get tea ready to eat as soon as you get in or stop on the way back especially this time of year you could have a picnic

Kids are always tired after contact visits when they don't happen regularly enough who moved away

You are turning this into a problem because you resent having to allow your ex to see his children.
It is once every 2 weeks.
Get everything ready for school before they come home. I have no idea why they have to be in the house for you to do that.
Prepare a simple supper that they can eat as soon as they get in the door.
You and your DH can eat together a bit later, or even have a big Sunday lunch together earlier in the day.
Put them to bed slightly later.
No rushing, just keep calm, settle them down and all will be fine.
My DC had dinner early 5 days a week because their dad worked till 7pm and got home around 8pm. It was fine.
We didn't all eat together in the evenings for years while they were little. That is perfectly normal in a lot of families.

This thread really upset me. So glad most people agree she is BU.

Also, multiple posters have asked the question, who moved away? And she seems very unwilling to answer that. Like someone else said, I think this is a troll poster and the whole thing is made up, it’s too bonkers to be anything else