Friends Baby Shower Nightmare

[Popcornlassie28]

Hey Everyone.
I am in a sticky situation and don’t want to come across as a mean person but don’t want to be walked over either.

My friend is currently pregnant with her third baby and asked me to help her Mum with organising her baby shower.
She gave me her Mum’s number to message her and her Mum stated she had organised most things but left me with some loose ends to organise (decorations, shower games, cake etc).

I found her quite unresponsive to messages and has been hard to organise with but ploughed on through. Anyways, she left all of my messages on read even ones that are asking simple questions such as ‘What time do we get the keys to the venue so we can start setting up?’

She told my friend she’s found me unhelpful (I’m so confused as I’ve been left on read on every message with zero communication) and doesn’t like what I have done so far and my friend has asked me if I could return some things and re order. It’s partly a surprise so she said she couldn’t go into detail about what it was as she ‘didn’t know.’

I sent a message to her Mum and was again met with nothing. Until today, in the WhatsApp group chat for the event she sent a message out saying that she’s organised everything by herself with NO help and to ‘bear with her’ but she’s proud of what she’s achieved by herself.

1. She hasn’t done it by herself and some of my money has gone into this? Why would she say this?
2. All other people invited thought I was helping so I feel like I don’t look like a good team player and left the task to her. This isn’t true but it’s being made to look like this.

I am really confused. I don’t want to message her Mum and upset her (she wouldn’t reply anyways) and I’m worried my friend will be upset with me.

I feel awkward to even attend!!
I don’t even know details to even help set up so I would now be turning up at the same time as the other guests and I’m worried there is going to be a situation.

EDIT: I’ve only met her Mum twice before and she’s been fine with me on both times.

I sincerely hope you print screened the private messages, the ones insinuating that you’re thick and your input is no longer required, for the group chat too!

What a truly nasty piece of work this truffle snuffling hound is!

ps. Where do I come for cake? 😉

@Tophy124

Exactly, it isn't scaremongering, it's real life and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I never felt anxious about my pregnancy in any way but always kept in mind that it was never a given until baby was safely in my arms. Didn't want too much stuff in house before baby born for same reason, not superstition just protecting my heart for in case the worst happened and I had to donate all the stuff

The decorations were baby pink and not pale baby pink! Is that for real?! I hope your friend and her mum see this thread and know we all think they’re rude entitled brats

How much was the cake? They should be paying back all your expenses whether you eat it or not! Is it this coming weekend?

This is proper batshit behaviour and your friend sounds like her mum might be controlling and narcissistic.
Happy to share cake!!

Have you thought about advertising the cake for
Sale on Facebook?

Maybe you will at least recoup some money

Fancy sending the decs back

It's not a wedding. Or London Fashion Week. How long is the party...two hours?

Definitely put into the group chat that as her Mum has 'sorted everything herself' you'll be cancelling/getting refunds on the things you've doubled up on due to messages not being responded to.

That way she CAN'T blame lack of anything on your in-action. If you don't, she absolutely bloody will as a way of drama-seeking and gaining attention/sympathy!

Talking of both sides, is it a gender reveal cake?
if so, invite everybody you know round for a get together on the morning before the baby shower and cut the cake. That’s what I’d do - and then share pics all over social media 😂

(I wouldn’t really share pics but I’m
still giggling at just the thought of it) xx

But only cut it up after you've taken a photo of it and yourself with icing all over you face and send the photo to all the group.

😂😂😂

Oh dear one of your kids helped themselves to a chunk of cake 🥮 all over fb before the party 🥳

Ignore me. She wants “pale baby pink” 🤦🏼‍♀️

I’ve had a very long day (and couldn’t work out how to delete my og msg)!

I was with you there until you chickened out of putting the photos on social media, it's exactly what the 'friend' and mother deserve!

I know! Why doesn’t everyone just bloody talk to each other anymore!

Paq maybe reading is just as important?OP says the mother wouldn't answer her calls on the very first page of the thread.

If you read OP's posts you will see that she tried to speak to the mother, but the woman wouldn't answer her calls. That's why she was reduced to texting.

Cross-post @CrackerAndPudding

She’s not stuck in the middle, she’s getting a third birthday shower and dictating what she wants and using her mother as a scapegoat

Oh, I’d definitely put the lead up pics and the knife in the cake pics, just not the actual reveal.
However, unless the friend just loves pink, it would seem that everyone knows she’s having a girl anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’d be out! Not a great friend imo so I wouldn’t got to the party and I’d dial back the friendship.

When they go low, you also go low.
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Yep. Respond in kind. There is no way I’d slink away quietly - this is utterly ridiculous.

Better yet – flip the OFF switch.

A''Baby shower'' for a third baby seems just greedy.

A first, possibly, but a third?... She sounds a but attention seeking.

All new items as well?

You are well rid!

Who gets upset by baby pink/pale baby pink for decorations?

Enjoy the cake!

If it is a gender reveal cake please eat some and post it if SM the morning of the shower

Who really cares about ''Gender reveal'' anyway?

Wait til the actual birth, and as long as the baby is healthy , that's all that matters.