To expect DH to get any job to contribute financially

[Sazzle2012]

My DH was made redundant just over 2 years ago. He got a large payout as he'd worked there a long time. That money helped go towards mortgage and bills but it ran out a year ago and DH is still unemployed and hasn't contributed anything financially.
In those two years though he's spent most days job hunting, he's had a handful of interviews for a variety of roles related to his career area which haven't gone anywhere. He's had career coaching, help from the job centre, help from me with his CV and getting him in for a chat with my boss for potential opportunities, and still nothing.
For context, after I'd had both DCs I didnt have a job to return to (I had been on a fixed term contract) so found some online work, and studied for a qualification while they were both preschool. This led to bigger contracts and I have worked full time in this industry for the past five years. The initial money wasn't great but enough for me to contribute, pay for holidays (basic UK ones) and stuff around the house. I paid for a new kitchen (old one was falling apart), carpets, beds, furniture for kids room, all of which he said we couldn't afford on his (then) salary.
Since he was made redundant, I have paid for most of the bills, plus a new bathroom and sofa. I've had to move jobs recently due to stress and will now earn a bit less.

Bills and mortgage have all gone up and I'm starting to stress about money.

I'm starting to feel really resentful about this situation. He says he's trying his best to find work but I have told him enough is enough and just find anything to bring in a bit of extra money to take the pressure off. I found work and a new career for myself from scratch while bringing up two young kids, so what's his excuse?!

AIBU to ask him to find any job now just to help us financially?

It didn't mention not being able to drive in the OP and I've missed that in the follow up posts. I was using my Uncle (who does drive!) as an example.

Let's go back to store assistant rates then. Waitrose - £11.48, Sainsury's £11 an hour, Lidl £11 - £12 an hour.

Same principal applies. Same store discounts apply.

Don't be an arse.

That’s the issue. You are enabling him. He does not work and he does not do anything in the house as anyway you pick it up. Be clear you won’t do these anymore till he is at home but then follow through, let things fall apart and holidays not planned. Majority of people at the point would pick these up. If he does not I am not sure why you are staying with him, really. You don’t need another child.

He absolutely should be widening the job search so he can help out with family finances.

But he isn't - what reason does he give?

Is he still holding out for the 'ideal' sales job? In which case: yes, he needs to get his lazy arse up and make a career change. It's disappointing, but there's got to be some middle ground between 'nothing less than perfect' and 'literally flipping burgers for minimum wage'.

Or is he feeling beaten down by years of jobhunting/rejection and can't find the motivation for anything any more? If it's at all possible he's struggling mentally, he should go to his GP - depression is a slippery slope, and you need him well if he's going to be a good partner to you.

If it's at all possible he's struggling mentally, he should go to his GP - depression is a slippery slope, and you need him well if he's going to be a good partner to you.

@NathanielSitsOnASpike OP says he's on antidepressants.

It all sounds so much like my dad. @Sazzle2012 How was your parents' relationship? Was your dad dependant on your mum in some way? I find I often end up with lame ducks, and I probably stay in those relationships longer than other women would.

If he doesn’t get of his arse and do something Op will end up depressed too.
Then who is going to do the ‘heavy lifting’?

He had ample opportunity to learn how to drive. Why hasn’t he bothered?