To find this rude? (Light hearted)

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Anyone else find this rude?

Have a family member who rifles through my kitchen cupboards and helps themselves to all sorts, they do this on a Day by day basis.
This week they've made themselves sandwiches, food, took a unopened big bottle of coke home with them, snacks for my kids have gone all without asking just picks it up and takes it home.
It's costing a small fortune to keep replacing everything that I can't afford to keep doing!

Today actually they asked to take the last of something home and I said no, to have a sarcastic comment about having to drink from a hose pipe instead.

AIBU as in I should have a open house policy or does anyone else get annoyed with people taking stuff from their cupboards home with them? I don't mind making cuppas etc when they're here but taking it home seems to be taking the biscuit they aren't short of money neither.

Why is this light-hearted? I would be furious if someone thought it was OK to do this to me.

What do you do when this person takes the stuff? Do you just let them do it? Not sure how this is lighthearted. You're a mug.

It depends on how close or distant the family member is. My mum helps herself to the fridge and cupboard and I’m perfectly happy with that. I do the same in her house.

This is ridiculous behaviour. Absolutely do not tolerate it any more. They at least need to ask!

Why the need to include a personal insult?

I don't even know, they just pick it up and take it with them when they go off home usually when I'm in the garden or another room.
I'm not sure how to address it! Their comment about drinking from a hose pipe really just grated on me, so only just thought about it.
I've even stopped buying certain things like cans of drink and bottles of water just to stop them!

This is incredibly rude CF behaviour. It sounds like their comment about the hose pipe was meant to make you feel guilty.

If it's a family member you see everyday, are you not close enough to say that you can't afford to keep replacing all the food they take?

Sibling or parent?

I've said multiple times to them it's getting expensive having to keep going food shopping as they moaned how many times I go but they don't seem to register it.
If I go once a week I'm out of most things 4 days in and it's getting so bad, I have a diabetic child and they've even helped themselves to their low snacks which I've told them off for but then they just carry on! I've had to take their snacks and hide them.

His is this situation lighthearted?

My adult siblings sometimes make jokes about going to Mams instead of tescos but they don't actually steal her food behind her back in a daily basis. It might be something a few slices of bread to save them going to the shops, mam specialist buys in certain types of sweets for the grandkids and the odd one might playfully pretend to be sneaking one, like a quality street from a massive tin type of thing.

The person wouldn't be visiting my home if they were behaving like that on a daily basis with my things and then getting huffy when called out.

Stop letting them in!

Never known anyone cheeky enough to take it home with them.

I'm happy for visitors to eat everything while they're there but if someone took stuff then I'd bar them

Don't let them in. You are letting another person steal food from your children which is not acceptable.

Is it their father?

Unless they're paying for it, ie it's your PARTNER tell them to fucking stop !

Grow some fucking ovaries !?!

So they help themselves to your food then complain about how often you go shopping? The cheek is astounding! Absolutely ridiculous as well that you've had to resort to hiding your DC's snacks.

The fact you've raised the issue and they keep doing it implies it's a deliberate lack of consideration, and for that reason if it were me I wouldn't want this person in my house so often. Is that not an option here?

Who is this family member and what is your relationship like with them?

Don't let them come in

Who is it?
I can imagine an older teen who's moved out doing this maybe, but that's about it.

Dont let them in....

This is very very strange op.

Is there some detail you're missing like it's your partner or something?

What a cheeky family member, why do they think that you should keep them in snacks and food daily ?, No way would I be allowing this.. But I can see why you would just stay quiet, family arguments are the worst right ?.

The way I would address it is start writing prices on the items, when they ask what's it about, say oh that's my prices .... When they look confused simply state well you don't get to lift them from the supermarket shelves so why do you think it's acceptable to do it in my home ??, Oh and as you can see my prices are a tad more expensive, I've to factor in transport, restocking, labour and theft ..... Laugh it off as a joke if you must but then state in all seriousness you aren't joking.

Ah, teenage child makes sense.

Use the words:
No
Stop It
put it back
give me x pounds to cover the food that you have pilfered from the children's lunch

does this person live with you? what's their relation to you

Why don't you feel you can't confront them?

How would this person react if you did the same thing in their home? If you ever visit them in their home, I suggest you rifle through their cupboards and fridge and fill a large shopping bag.

How is 'mug' an insult? It's just means a gullible person, which OP is based on her actions.