To find this rude? (Light hearted)

[ThisHeatIsKillingMeOff]

Anyone else find this rude?

Have a family member who rifles through my kitchen cupboards and helps themselves to all sorts, they do this on a Day by day basis.
This week they've made themselves sandwiches, food, took a unopened big bottle of coke home with them, snacks for my kids have gone all without asking just picks it up and takes it home.
It's costing a small fortune to keep replacing everything that I can't afford to keep doing!

Today actually they asked to take the last of something home and I said no, to have a sarcastic comment about having to drink from a hose pipe instead.

AIBU as in I should have a open house policy or does anyone else get annoyed with people taking stuff from their cupboards home with them? I don't mind making cuppas etc when they're here but taking it home seems to be taking the biscuit they aren't short of money neither.

Either don’t let MIL in or put a lock on your cupboards as “things keep disappearing”!

Your MIL is not that poor, I presume?

Alternatively you could start billing her.

That is so cheeky. I would have told them to piss off long ago.

Have a look on Amazon. There are some good fridge magnets stating, ‘step away from the fridge’. Nice picture of pig too. Few of those stuck on cupboards and the fridge might get the point across.

nothing lighthearted, it is beyond rude.

What is she doing in your house in the first place? I wouldn't even let her in, saying I am busy that day.

sarcastic comment about having to drink from a hose pipe instead.
reply: why is it ok for ME to drink from a hose pipe?

Your have 2 options.
Start a war by telling her to her face it's an absolute no, she will get angry and upset, and make your life hell for the next few years. If your husband is already not supportive now, he won't be supportive then.

Hide all the food somewhere else. Buy a fridge for the garage, put a lock on it, and hide the fresh food there. Put a lock on the fridge in the kitchen "so the children can't access it".

No way my in-laws could go through my cupboards!

Write down everything they have taken work out the cost and send it to them. Also put a lock on your kitchen door to stop them going in there if you can't watch over them the whole time they're there.

Your DH has to tell her that the next time she takes food/drink without asking she won't be coming again. He can explain how expensive and inconvenient it is, and perhaps ask that she brings stuff over instead.

Time for one of those snack lock boxes people get when they are on diets. If nothing else for your child’s snacks for their diabetes

Soon will get the message hopefully

It's bang out of order op

Why does your MIL have unsupervised access to your home. It's bizarre.

I think your DH really needs to step in here. His mother, his problem.

So they do their grocery shopping for free in your cupboards.

If I had the privilege of being allowed free reign to someone 's kitchen, it would be cups of tea, a few biscuits, a sandwich.

Not taking home an unopened bottle of coke. That's CF territory.

This is awful, especially taking the special snacks meant for a diabetic! Has your husband had a word with her about it? Perhaps get some cameras in to film her pilfering so you have evidence (and threaten to expose her If necessary)

Let her carry on eating them in fact get more in just for her as she'll get the runs.

I would never do that whoever the house belonged to, my daughter calls each week for a coffee and will sometimes ask if there's a biscuit, she wouldn't just pick up the tin and help herself!

So any victim of theft should simply buy more to cover the theft? I am constantly amazed by the stupidity of some MNers!

Put locks on all doors into the kitchen, & use them when she arrives.

I'd ignore the faux rage at the word 'mug', some people on here are never happier than when trying to be sooooooo superior with their very false 'niceness', in real life they're probably horrendous.

I’d be incandescent with rage

This phrase is rather overused on MN. I often wonder who first wrote it down and though it looked good rather than stupidly dramatic

Wtf? I can't imagine anyone having the cheek to do this. It's literally theft. Don't let her in.

Shocking behaviour. Keep an itemized list and bill her.

Mi casa su casa for all my family members. They are allowed to help themselves to anything. I realise I am in a minority.

Certainly my MIL can take anything.

Oh I see I must be stupid as well. People have different notions of hospitality. If I was in any family member's house, I could help themselves to their fridge too. I don't. But I could.

However taking it home seems a bit odd? Is she short of money?

They are trying to tell you something by taking away “ kids snacks big bottle of coke and cans of drink. “
Those things are not needed in a child’s diet.
You should listen to them.

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Recent thing or long standing? If recent has something changed in her life?
It certainly doesn’t seem normal to rifle through another person’s food cupboards.

None of my family members would take snacks meant for a diabetic. You should lock those. They might make a sandwich, grab a drink to take back, eat biscuits or fruit.