To find this rude? (Light hearted)

[ThisHeatIsKillingMeOff]

Anyone else find this rude?

Have a family member who rifles through my kitchen cupboards and helps themselves to all sorts, they do this on a Day by day basis.
This week they've made themselves sandwiches, food, took a unopened big bottle of coke home with them, snacks for my kids have gone all without asking just picks it up and takes it home.
It's costing a small fortune to keep replacing everything that I can't afford to keep doing!

Today actually they asked to take the last of something home and I said no, to have a sarcastic comment about having to drink from a hose pipe instead.

AIBU as in I should have a open house policy or does anyone else get annoyed with people taking stuff from their cupboards home with them? I don't mind making cuppas etc when they're here but taking it home seems to be taking the biscuit they aren't short of money neither.

It's not made up she just comes on over!

Thanks everyone for the advice, I've ordered the locks and they are going on the cupboards today!

I think she may of gotten the hint as she offered to buy a takeaway the other day and said she needed to do her bit after the hosepipe comment as I yet again explained to her with the cost of living crisis and DC diabetes I do not have the means to keep refilling my cupboards every few days I'm simply not made of money and would rather spend money on doing nice things with dc rather than keep buying food & drink... however the locks are still going on!

Could you maybe not invite them round or put notes in the fridge to say for x see if that stops them.

This is very bad etiquette, it's even mentioned in the etiquette books. Perhaps leave one of these books on the counter when they come over, leaving this page open.

They are disrespecting you. Don’t allow it as this kind of attitude will manifest itself in more wounding ways in the future.

Is being called a mug really offensive? I think maybe people are too sensitive. She is getting played so therefor being a mug, not rude, not nasty just how it is.

Locks on your food cupboards will certainly get the message across! Let us know how that goes.

How does she get in? Why do you see her every day? It doesn’t make sense to me, sorry.

Very rude and stressful. And more so as you have a diabetic child. We do t have anyone around unless they’ve arranged. Maybe implement this to this visitor and definitely make it clear they are not to touch your food without asking. If they’re cheeky enough to take food home then I’d not feel uncomfortable in the slightest telling them it has to stop

Good for you!

Another idea is to give her a shopping list of the items she has helped herself to, and asking her to go and buy them (and she has to pay for them!) for you. This would teach her that it takes time and effort and wear-and-tear of your car, and the cost of petrol you had to lay out, as well as the inconvenience of replacing them.

Does she not have any friends or does she not socialise or have any hobbies? Sounds as though she is lonely and you are her 'entertainment'. Maybe she could volunteer with a local charity?

This person has literally been taught no manners, comes whenever they want and eats the food from your cupboard. I would make a comment like (is your mum not cooking for you at home)...

Lock the door

@Kaiserchief she lives round the corner by herself she just walks in I don't keep my doors locked in the day... maybe I should. 🥴🤔

What?! Good grief. She can and does walk in whenever she wants, so she sees your home as available to her at all times, like an outbuilding of her own house. So she sees your food as hers too. Lock the doors so you have control over who comes into your home!

It is funny that you’re putting locks on the cupboards but not using the ones on the doors op 😂

Can you store the food somewhere else for a few weeks until this person gets the message?

Well done @ThisHeatIsKillingMeOff .

This isn't even a light hearted matter really. x

It is pretty ironic. 🥴
To be fair I do lock them in the mornings after the school run, she used to come round early and stay all day.
I don't have the energy for that! I don't even speak to my parents every week let alone every day. She can be lovely don't get me wrong, but take the hint once or twice a week is plenty! 🙈

My mum lives 5 mins walk away and we see her every couple of months 😂

Lock your doors (do this anyway!) and start not working from home!

Light hearted? More a Bloody cheek! I think …

The only place we help ourselves with food is my parents and then it's just for the kids for snacks, usually a jam butty or some biscuits. Out of courtesy I always ask.
It is not normal to just help yourself though.

Change the house door locks.

Is she struggling for money or does she think she’s entitled to it as her son paid for some of it? Bizarre behaviour.

No wonder they aren’t short of money !
They don’t have to spend money on shopping as they take stuff that’s yours ( including things for your diabetic daughter)
What is worse, they know what they are doing and try and make YOU feel guilty when you try and put an end to it.

Cup of tea ?fair enough likewise biscuits but whole unopened bottles of coke and kids snacks ? I'd offer to show them how to do an online shop and if they won't take the hint you will have to learn to say NO, you can't have that, I have plans for it. Have they always been so entitled or is this new cf-ery from them