To find this rude? (Light hearted)

[ThisHeatIsKillingMeOff]

Anyone else find this rude?

Have a family member who rifles through my kitchen cupboards and helps themselves to all sorts, they do this on a Day by day basis.
This week they've made themselves sandwiches, food, took a unopened big bottle of coke home with them, snacks for my kids have gone all without asking just picks it up and takes it home.
It's costing a small fortune to keep replacing everything that I can't afford to keep doing!

Today actually they asked to take the last of something home and I said no, to have a sarcastic comment about having to drink from a hose pipe instead.

AIBU as in I should have a open house policy or does anyone else get annoyed with people taking stuff from their cupboards home with them? I don't mind making cuppas etc when they're here but taking it home seems to be taking the biscuit they aren't short of money neither.

Is this an older child who's moved out of home?

OP, you don't have to let this person have a key or leave the back door open for them.

Take back their key next time they come over and tell them enough's enough, they don't take anything without being offered.

Why are you inviting this person I to your home, let alone allowing them to rifle through your cupboards?

I'm betting its an adult child? I honestly cant imagine anyone else being so cheeky. If it is an adult child they need to be told very clearly that they have to pay for their own stuff and it might be news to them to learn that they are adults and no longer dependants! YANBU at all OP

It's the mother in law.

Not a teenage child, not old enough for that yet! I'd never begrudge my own children though.

Calling a person gullible in whatever form is an insult. You didn't really think it was a compliment did you? Its certainly not helping OP

This would piss me off immensely. As would having my MIL (or any family member) visit every day.

Take their key away if they have one.

I certainly feel like a mug, but as it's the mother in law I'm not sure how to address it! DH has told her before that's it's the kids stuff she's taking, now she's resulted in taking it by stealth mode.

Knew it'd be mil

So she is stealing from your home then, depite being told not to. You have to say something OP, and I would definitely be taking her key off her. I cant believe the cheek of her! 😵‍💫

Start doing the same to her. Everytime you call around bring a packet of biscuits or a few cartons of yoghurt home with you.

Yes, I think it does help OP.

That’s what AIBU’s for, calling a spade a spade.

Doesn’t mean everyone’s not on OP’s side.

She's taking hypo sweets from a Diabetic child!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously, what if they were to go low and you had nothing available to give them straight away, does she know how serious that can be????, is she a fucking idiot????? It's tantamount to stealing medication!!!!

Don't let her in your house or put a lock on the kitchen if you can. Seriously. You've told her and she isn't willing to listen. She's stealing snacks for a diabetic child...this woman doesn't give a shit.

I know the Euromillions numbers after the event too.

Time to be firm. Your husband needs to tell his mother to STOP. Say if she does it again you will contact the police for theft. Because that’s what it is.

Why is she in your house every day? Can you not stop that?

When you say family member, do you mean someone who lives with you, or an external relative?

I don’t know anyone who would come in and help themselves to food etc. it’s not only rude, it’s also weird. You need to stop them, speak up, and don’t let them help themselves. Get cross and angry with them, if needed. Don’t be afraid of their reaction. If they get cross, so be it.

Omg I’d be incandescent with rage. How dare she do this!

Is she struggling with money or is she just very entitled and thinks it’s hers to take?

Why she is coming?
Does she have a key?

Nailed it well done!

I’ve had similar with DB’s IL’s, not them but their DIL (Their DS’s wife) when I’ve stayed before I’ve noticed fruit I’ve bought for me disappear out of the fridge and an expensive bottle of wine I’d brought to share with IL’s she swiped too. Didn’t realise I’d brought both and just rifled through. I mentioned it to DB to have a word and next time I stayed she asked about stuff in the fridge, a bit in a petulant way though!

This isn’t something to be lighthearted about, it’s theft. She’s a thief. Theft is a criminal offence. And surely someone stealing from their son and his wife and children is the absolute worst.
Does she steal from other people’s houses too? Or has she convinced herself that since it’s her son’s food it’s her food?
Either way, I wouldn’t want her in my house, but if you won’t do that then I’d make very sure that the fridge and cupboards were empty next time. Even if I had to put it in cool boxes in the shed.

She’s a very cheeky fucker and there is nothing lighthearted about this situation.

Find your backbone and either tell her to stop doing it or stop letting her in the house. This isn’t just affecting you, it’s putting your diabetic child at risk if there aren’t the snacks/food that they need as a matter of urgency.

OMG OP this is ridiculous levels of CFery. If it was an adult child who had recently left home I'd understand it but your MIL needs to buy her own food. Is it possible that you're beating around the bush too much with sideways comments about needing to go to Tesco and she's not getting the hint that you're sick of her stealing your food? I think you need to be blunt with her (or get DH to do it).