To think the parents of children who are in childcare would like to see them more often?

[tori32]

I CM and have several sets of parents who finish work early on many occasions who never collect their child early. I know I am paid and it does not bother me in the slightest to look after them for their agreed hours, I just feel sorry for the child because they are missing out on this extra time with parents who work full time.

I was a working mum for 3 months (as in not CM) but always collected dd early when I finished early because I wanted to spend time with her. AIBU?

I suspect CMs want their pesky mindees to go home early - so that they can get back to their 'research' on mnet.

I used to pick my children up early on occasions. at other times I didnt - i'd get the shopping/have a coffee/whatever. I think the OPs attitude is highly judgemental and I certainly wouldnt pay someone with her views to care for my precious children.

My childminder never went shopping. SHe felt that it was her job to look after the kids and so she devoted all her time to doing so.

Sorry meant shopping whilst minding.

mabe some CM's prefer pick ups at alloted time,
instead of turnign up early?

andimustlosehalfastonemore no that is my point, I have it all to do outside working hours with dd 2.1yr. I shop on line at tesco or take dd to the butchers/grocers in town and we combine it with feeding the ducks

No Bubble

Surely it would be so they could take their tired little cherubs to tescos to enjoy some quality time with them!

LOL Soapbox. I'm going to be saying to clients "I know you are paying me for this, but why don't I send you round your own copy of the Companies Act with some stickies in the most used sections and see if you can work it out yourself. You're the blardy General Counsel - you are supposed to like law".

TOri - I hope you pay back to your employers any money they have paid for you to be on MN?

If I finish early it comes out of my annual leave. Does MNing come out of yours? Those parents are paying for you to be looking after their children, not on MN (I don't mind any other childminder coming on here - just ones that judge other parents for wanting some downtime)

hercules that's what I meant tori is paid to look after the children not drag them round tescos or watch her hoover

I was a "lazy fecker" - DS had 3 nursery sessions at a private nursery per week for a year when I didn't work. Still Tori you might allow me those - as they were to try and improve DS's delayed speech - for some reason all the health pros etc thought nursery would be a magic bullet

that's not what you said tori

My first child arrives at 715 and the last leaves at 1715. I still have to do chores, cook meals, etc with all children in tow and shop and still find time to go on MN I must be superwoman.

Does the same apply when dc are being looked after by grandparents? as opposed to nursery/cm?
My mum looks after dc a few mornings a week while I'm in work. I'll talk about plans for the weeks etc. She will then say she'll have the boys for an extra hour, so I can got to bank, post office, supermarket etc. This makes my life easier.
And quite frankly, anything that makes my life easier, is welcomed.

'I am talking on a regular 2-3 times per week regular basis where 1 or both parents have finished early, not the occasional time. '

you didn't say this in your original post, tori, i sense some backtracking going on.

Sure SAHMs have to get their shopping, cook etc with dcs underfoot. But I dare say SAHMs have more time to fit dcs into their activities and the inevitable delays that would mean - unless they have the good fortune of dcs who are happy to play by themselves or join in whatever boring chore you are doing without complaint.

WOHMs have less time to fit those chores into and so have to be more efficient in doing them.

No one way is right or wrong. It is just a different way of STRUCTURING your week.

And also I LIKE to be able to give my dcs undivided attention and can afford to organise my day in such a way as to do this.

tori - you are being so judgemental it is unbelievable. Is there a nice view up there on your pedestal?

they might do household tasks or things like the post office or bank. why not ask them?

Excluding children from everyday chores does not make them easier in the long term. Kids who have always gone to the supermarket, bank, helped with housework and preparing meals will behave better than children who never experience these things.

Apparently I'm being arsey on the childminders thread....

They might even be having sex.

oh and just making excuses. Sigh.

I used to think that childminders were a god form of childcare, but obviously the emphasis is on multi-tasking with the children . Is this common to all cms?

I have to say that I think that one of the differences will be that if you have already paid for your dcs childcare and you have some chores to do, then it makes sense to get chores out of the way so that you can do somethign fun with the dcs. If you were paying by the hour, then there is more reason to turn chores into fun. But yes, whilst i can shop with children in tow, why would i want to if I had paid for someone else to look after them at that time? It isn't the same as paying a babysitter in order to shop child-free.

nicetry - perhaps they could take their kids to their place of work as well then......

Tori do you get your mindees to help with your housework etc? shouldn't you be paying them!?

as a single mother of three that works full time i dash around the supermarket on my own between work and picking up my dcs from after school, it's preferable to taking three hours to do it and having to look at every book/tomato/pick and mix sweet in the shop. Our quality time is at weekends when we do the duck feeding/museum dragging.