To think the parents of children who are in childcare would like to see them more often?

[tori32]

I CM and have several sets of parents who finish work early on many occasions who never collect their child early. I know I am paid and it does not bother me in the slightest to look after them for their agreed hours, I just feel sorry for the child because they are missing out on this extra time with parents who work full time.

I was a working mum for 3 months (as in not CM) but always collected dd early when I finished early because I wanted to spend time with her. AIBU?

tori
you did it for 3 months though. not long

I would have thought most mothers would prioritise seeing their children than supermarket shopping. Also, surely the best way to relax after a hard day at work is to spend time with your family. It sounds as if they are a terrible inconvenience to you - if you work full time any extra opportunity to spend time with them, and for them to know you came early just because you could not wait to see them is invaluable to them.

But that's you Tori. Just because I'm not you doesnt mean I love my child anyless.

Being with your children is being a martyr, hercules?

Flum, that makes perfect sense to me.

as a SAHM/carer i think working mums get enough guilt trips thrown at them without another working mum throwing more their way.

Nicetry - you are making so many judgements about me, it's very hard to have a reasoned discussion with you.

tori32, my dd does not want to help me cook dinner, she wants to play Guess Who. And if she is interested in cooking that day, she won't be interested for the Whole Time it takes me. It just means tears for her and stress for me, a lose-lose situation, if you ask me.

No, but supermarket shopping with your children is.

Flum - I think there is some truth in that, but it's also that if you are working full time you are more likely to have a tighter schedule for doing things like housework and can't afford to take as long over it as you can if you're at home with the children all day.
That was my experience anyway.

Yes, I would have been a martyr if I'd picked ds up each time I'd finished early and dragged him around tescos screaming just so I could say I was desperate to see him.

3 months working full time is nothing, sorry. THat doesnt place you in the same place as people who work full time for years.

Sorry YABU - silly thing to think. When I finished work early I would go home and do the housework then collect my DD so that when we got home together she had 100% of my attention and I could sit and read books and play bricks with her to my hearts content without having to get up half way through our fun to do boring stuff.

NiceTry, I think you're nuts (search facility won't work so I can't find out if you're a troll).
Of course spending time with my kids is more fun than shopping, but we have to eat!

Nicetry, are you a mum who works full time?

My dh is an angel when with his childminder, who incidently takes him to the feckin hairdressers with her. if I even enter the 'big blue shop' [tesco] then boy doesn't the whole world know about it!

Anyway, if I pay a c/minder to 5pm then why the hell shouldn't she kind him 'til 5pm? Don't be so up your own arse & holier than thou!!

Some day it'll come back to bite you on the snowy white arse!

As soon as my dd is picked up from nursery she expects things to be done as they usually are - the usual routine

30 mins after home dinner, straight after dinner bath, after bath some quality time with mummy and brothers and then bed

Picking her up early would be a disaster!

Taking her shopping with me when she wants to be going home and eating would be horrid (because no matter what the hour, if you leave nursery that is what you do next - go home and eat)

When I was on Mat leave and could do all of the shopping / banking / reading etc around her needs then that was fine, but now to do that in the I Am Tired And Hungry hour would be hell

YABU

mind him, not kind him\2

i'm going to take a few days off while DS in in nursery (i work full time) to paint the lounge. now would you rather he helped me? i'm sure he'd find all that messing around with gloss paint and white spirit great fun

now, how about my smear test next week, i'm sure he'd love to accompany me to that. very educational.

as you can probably tell, i don't have anyone close who would look after him for a little while, while i do things that have to get done and are either boring/ unsuitable or dangerous for him. that is what i pay you for.

i can't believe i'm hearing such judgemental attitudes, i'm glad you're not my childminder, if you were, i'd sack you.

Tori do you refund the mothers if they come to pick up the child early/keep it at home when having a day annual leave?
If not then are you suggesting that mothers pick their children up early because you want to be paid for not minding your child?

I am not commenting either way on what I do as a working mum who uses a nursery. None of anyone else's farking business!

sorry but lol at your dh going to the hairdressers with your childminder. WHat does she do with teh kids?

i am a stowaway on this thread as I am a sahm. but dd has respite and I miss her when she is away but the break is when I recharge and when she comes back i am a better mum.. so If a parent finishes work early why can't they have a break. it doesn't mean they don't love their child less. but maybe they know the break will make them a better parent when they pick little johnny up.

Excellent - this is a SAHM vs WOHM argy bargy Via The Back Door.

Would anyone like to go one further and ask me why I go to work in the first place rather than look after my own children? Because that is the logical corollary of the OP.

I dont see anyone criticising sahms though.

'because you want to be paid for not minding THEIR child'
I am self employed and if I sat in judgement on my clients like you, I wouldn't have any!!