To think the parents of children who are in childcare would like to see them more often?

[tori32]

I CM and have several sets of parents who finish work early on many occasions who never collect their child early. I know I am paid and it does not bother me in the slightest to look after them for their agreed hours, I just feel sorry for the child because they are missing out on this extra time with parents who work full time.

I was a working mum for 3 months (as in not CM) but always collected dd early when I finished early because I wanted to spend time with her. AIBU?

Nicetry: "Blueshoes - Why does she not send her child to a different nursery to the one she works at? If you read my post that was the exception!"

Read my reply, I said she does not work in any of the rooms ie 'she is not there'.

And Chelsy, it is Because she is the nursery manager and doing her best to organise the care for the children (I do believe that she does a great job) that she is prepared to use it. She would never get the staff to give her son preferential treatment. In many respects, the staff have to put the parent's children first. Trust me, parents would leg their children out of there if they thought her son was being cared for in priority.

I gave up reading this thread after about 20 posts.
It always amazes me when childcare professionals criticise people who leave their children in childcare.
Errr... biting the hand that feeds you?
What the hell business is it of yours what the mother/father does in the time you're being paid to look after their child?
Don't you think your care is good enough or something?
Unless you have valid concerns about the welfare of the child in your care, why should you worry - would you give them their money back if they were picked up early or decided not to send in their child for a day they'd booked, just for the hell of it?
Because I know my son's nursery wouldn't!

I could pop round!

I'll just drop the kid off somewhere...sure he'll be fine...he's used to the neglect!

I'm struggling with the idea that because nursery nurses/managers only place their own children in the nursery where they themselves work that it somehow proves that actually nursery care is really crap and no insider would ever use it otherwise. If you work in a nursery and have children where else would you send them???

Elffriend, I'll take some choccies if they're going. I could use the sugar rush .

Blueshoes - of course she is 'there' she can pop in whenever the mood takes!

Thanks for the link MsHighwater. However having worked in childcare and then had my own kids I stand by my view. I believe that in general kids are better off cared for by their parents. I do not mean to criticise all those who do not or cannot make that choice. I think it but by no means do I seek to get others on board. Lets all be happy with our choices. Now I am off to drink a big glass of wine and watch Atonement on DVD am hopiing it lives up to the hype. Good night all.

Complete aside...

Is everyone else getting that advert to the right of this thread about the couple on hols and the first choice babysitters?

Is is just me who wants to punch them in their smug faces?

Sorry. As you were.

Wordsmith Goback and read the whole thread and you will find all the responses to your post have been answered from me.

I agree blueshoes, she won't get/give her ds preferential treatment, but she will be sending her son to her nursery as she works there, same as the mums scottishmummy refers too

I wish we could find out how many nursery workers send their kids to nurseries they don't work in??

not too many I guess (although I know I'll be told its cos they don't get staff discount there - right)

Okay then, does anyone know of an ex or retired childcare worker who puts their baby/toddler in fulltime daycare? (Or sends them to a childminder)

poor parental choice if you use them!!! (joke)

Tori - are you kidding? there are 960 odd messages.

NiceTry - I could "pop in" to the nursery where my dd goes any time I want. They have a policy to that effect. I don't do it because I think it would confuse her if I turned up early and then left without her. Doesn't mean I think she's unhappy there, of course.

mshighwater, you aren't 10 steps away and within earshot all day though are you?

this is NOT the same as an open door policy

Ms Highwater 'confuse her' to see her mother! ROFL and you all think I'm mad!

Yes Elffriend I agree. Pukesome aren't they?

most nursery workers are on minimum wage, nursery/childminders bloody expensive. I think the question to ask a nursery worker is, Can you afford to send your child to full time nursery, then you can see what the response will be. Then ask them about choices of nursery/childminder.

Wow, Tori- Did you thing you'd be a 1000er when you started this?

NiceTry.

Nicetry - OF COURSE it confues them. If they see mummy (or daddy) then they want to be with mummy/daddy and cannot understand if you do not then take over completely/stay to play. Your child(ren) is not in this position so you don't know. It is not mad. It can be hurtful to all those involved.

I don't think you are mad. A bit black and white though certainly. Fancy a go at any of my questions?

back to the reason nursery workers don't send their kids to full time nursery is down to the cost

believe it if you want

now this is really where I get irritaed

viggoswife the reality is your view is just that your view and you may believe that you are right but unfortunately a study that looked at the developmental outcomes of 7000 children says that you aren't which would I give more weight to this is why people get annoyed essentially you are not prepared to accept that your view may not be supported by the actual reality you just think that you are right

i wanna be the 1000 poster, anyone gonna race me to it?

viggoswife, I can't claim credit for finding the link. andiemustlosehalfastonemore posted it many posts back but it was on another page when I posted and I could not recall her name to give her a namecheck.

The evidence simply proves that choosing to put one's child in childcare is not, in principle, a wrong choice. In fact, there may be circumstances where it is better than for the child to stay at home with mum.

chelsygirl, let's cut the crap. Do you have any evidence to back up your claim that no child carer would ever put their own child in child care unless it's where they themselves work? If not, I reserve the right to think it's probably hogwash. A few anecdotes or the fact that you don't know anyone who would isn't going to change that.

Nurseries obviously don't value the work of their employees (minimum wage etc.) How does that make you feel as a parent using these facilities?