I spent the petrol money on food

[WellNoprawnsleftthen]

So now I’m the wicked stepmother

SD’s are 13 and 15. Here EOW. This weekend the plan was dh taking them out yesterday then eating out. Today DH was taking them early for an activity they wanted to do and this afternoon a family bbq.

Yesterday morning I did the food shop for the bbq.

Got up this morning to find they had eaten about 75% of the food , were talking a massive box of strawberries, big pack of mango and pineapple , pack of meringues and ice cream. Crisps, Prawns, sausage rolls, half of a pasta salad, cheeses, deli meats and cooked the bread and had that. After having a meal out ?

Apparently they were hungry. We’re on a tight budget so I have used the money set aside today for petrol mostly (plus some for drinks snacks etc) and replaced it all. I’ve now gone out in the car for a coffee and to get away and will go back soon just before my family get there.

Im now the evil stepmother. I told DH get an Uber and use your own money if you still want to go out as I’m furious he didn’t back me up at all just said ‘well they are teenagers ! But I had SAID to everyone what fod was for today and there were other snacks available (full fruit bowl, yogurts, cereal bars etc)

It’s utterly astonishing the lengths people go to on here to allow step dc away with every and all kind of appalling behaviour

the kids were greedy, they knew exactly what they were doing and there were consequencegood for @WellNoprawnsleftthen

Bloody hell, is this really a hill you want to die on? Just buy more next time, they're teenagers, let them eat.

It's disgusting how they keep calling thr kids "little brats "

Mzhz, what does greedy really mean?

Sorry just fully caught up. OP you go above and beyond. Your joint costs shouldn't include his costs towards his children - they are his payments and his responsibility.

It's all very well people saying RTFT but the fact remains that even when people thought they actually did just eat all the food they still seem to think it was perfectly OK behaviour.

The DH is clearly the dickhead but the OP in either scenario has done absolutely nothing wrong!

You know this isn't a feature on the app... so I take your point but it's not that easy

Eating an entire dessert they all knew was meant for the guests.

Why should OP have it deleted ? It’s an anonymous forum.

Is it because 89% of people support OP?

Their dad said it was okay

Their dad.

In his house. He ate the food with them.

Its on him - not the girls

FFS

I can't believe he let them take the blame the gutless prick.

@Lacucuracha This post should be deleted because of the disgusting language used about a 13 and 15 year old doing something that their dad had allowed.

The words used about these two girls have just been awful. Imagine if one of those girls ever found this thread?

And, yes, it’s an anonymous forum. But journalists and users on other sites such as Reddit and Twitter regularly repost content from this site. So even if this thread was pulled off MN, there’s a chance that two people might read the horrible abuse posted about them by strangers, adult strangers, for eating food in their dads house that their dad allowed them to eat. That he sat down and ate with them. That, in the case of the bread, he cooked.

What disgusting language has been said about them? I know they were called greedy, but is that really disgusting?

He's a real peach, that dud! Peach being one that fell from the tree three weeks prior and has rotted through and now all wormy and buggy, but the peach still thinks it belongs in a pie. That type.

I cannot believe that he let his kids take the blame for his actions. Granted, the girls are still carrying fault too, but Disney Dad really took a shit on them.

@Lacucuracha in your post at 13.07 you called the girls twats.

The op has handled this very well with firm fair boundaries. The girls seem to be understanding the natural consequences are fair and responding reasonably, naturally they are upset about their dad lying and throwing them in the shit without owning up himself. Your partner on the other hand op- did you want another child in the house who seems to actually be supposed to be a parent and instead he’s more of an immature asshole? Because you’ve got one.
congratulations on firm clear boundaries without being mean.

This, what a fucking tosser. I don’t know how you can even look at him OP, my fanny would seal right up at someone like this, how unappealing

Acknowledged. But I also called the DH a dickhead and the twats applied to all 3.

Hardly anyone has said the OP is in the wrong- it’s clearly the DH who’s to blame.

And yet there are endless posts abusing the girls from people who haven’t read the thread. He ate the food with them then deliberately let them take the blame and now people on here are piling on the girls because they can’t be bothered to read the updates. Really grim.

I'd like to know what else NVDH ate. That still leaves a LOT of food and dessert meant for at least six eaten by the girls or the three of them. Add in sausage rolls, crisps, pasta salad, prawns. The girls are not innocent in this either and I would love to know who actually "started" the pigging out. So far, he had deli meat, cheese and bread...

I'm glad at least one of the girls feels bad, but they still did a massive F-up.
Unless NVDH ate a lot more than he or the girls have said he ate, they still ate food they knew was for the BBQ. They all behaved as selfish and greedy asshats.

Loads of people have said it was fine as teens need to eat loads, that was before the OPs updates. I don't think it would have been fine at all.

Whoever ate the food is extremely selfish, obv that was her DH and not the girls it turns out (well they also did but with permission)

I admit I did not read the whole thread, so I have asked the PTB to delete some of my posts.

I apologize. I was commenting as I read. You're right I should have clicked on the "read all" button. I have requested that most of my posts get deleted.

Yes, that is what I did. Thank you for your grace. 🙏