I spent the petrol money on food

[WellNoprawnsleftthen]

So now I’m the wicked stepmother

SD’s are 13 and 15. Here EOW. This weekend the plan was dh taking them out yesterday then eating out. Today DH was taking them early for an activity they wanted to do and this afternoon a family bbq.

Yesterday morning I did the food shop for the bbq.

Got up this morning to find they had eaten about 75% of the food , were talking a massive box of strawberries, big pack of mango and pineapple , pack of meringues and ice cream. Crisps, Prawns, sausage rolls, half of a pasta salad, cheeses, deli meats and cooked the bread and had that. After having a meal out ?

Apparently they were hungry. We’re on a tight budget so I have used the money set aside today for petrol mostly (plus some for drinks snacks etc) and replaced it all. I’ve now gone out in the car for a coffee and to get away and will go back soon just before my family get there.

Im now the evil stepmother. I told DH get an Uber and use your own money if you still want to go out as I’m furious he didn’t back me up at all just said ‘well they are teenagers ! But I had SAID to everyone what fod was for today and there were other snacks available (full fruit bowl, yogurts, cereal bars etc)

For the love of god, will people please RTFT

OP’s husband was there - he enabled this. He was the adult there.

Shame on the posters still speaking this way about the teenagers after the OPs updates.

I baked Christmas cookies when my children were young and homemade Chex mix, fudge and lots of food. Funnily enough, my kids never felt entitled to eat it all up before the holidays.
Growing up, as a teen, I ate three meals a day and occasionally had cereal, a piece of fruit or a PBJ sandwich if I had missed a meal or was hungry. I certainly did not eat everything in sight, especially food that was bought for a special occasion.
This excusing everything that teenagers do just boggles the mind. Thank goodness not all parents do that crap!

Just reposting the update in which the OP tells us her DH was there.

OP writes that DH joined in, but given it’s his house, he’s an adult and their father, him taking part means that he allowed it. Why would they have any reason to think otherwise?

If my dh lets my kids do something I wouldn’t, I would not blame my kids.

So he let them eat the food, ate some himself, refused to take them in an Uber AND let them take the blame?

Absolute twat.

I would pointedly tell him if he fucks off without pulling his weight preping the bbq you will let everyone know what a selfish prick he is.

Bullcrap! Action have consequences. Since it seems like their birth mother and Disney Daddy isn't going to teach them right from wrong, bravo to the OP for standing up for herself and not kowtowing to 3 immature, disrespectful and selfish people.

The fact that the poster above is actually saying "at least they didn't eat all the burgers and buns." As if that was a positive? "Oh, don't be upset that the little darlings set fire to the kitchen. At least it wasn't the whole house!" "Oh, don't be upset that the little darlings got arrested for assault. At least they didn't kill anyone." "Oh, don't be upset that the little darlings got arrested for shoplifting. At least it wasn't armed robbery." Ditto "excuses" for stealing cars, driving drunk,
bullying another person, destroying other people's property. Nothing but excuses.

I think they did it on purpose. I highly doubt they ate all that food. Would not be surprised to find out some was trashed. They basically ate enough food for a minimum of six people?

It was spiteful, greedy and nasty of them to have pigged out the way they did, no matter how much they actually ate. They knew, unless they are not mentally sound or have a low IQ.

Either a total lack of reading comprehension or they are just ignoring the facts so they can pile up on a step-mom. They are just so hungry to try and smash the step-mom. It makes them look VERY poorly and not too decent.

Now, THAT would make sense. Explains some of his whining and sulking too.
If not, I am betting they did throw some away.

For the last time, RTFT T, yes the DH did eat the food.
Chrisssakes...
There's a see all button for the OP's posts.. please use . Thanks..

Looks like she’s commenting whilst she reads the thread, give her a break.

It's easy to click 'see all' on the OP's posts before starting to read the thread... OP updated it a while ago but there's still a sea of 'did the girls really eat it' comments.

@WellNoprawnsleftthen I am so shocked at the replies on here. MNetters are very anti step mums so you will never win.

I would be livid if my kids did that, they are 17 and 15 and would never be so rude as to just eat loads of food like that. They have their regular meals and snacks available but they don't just raid the fridge of stuff thar has clearly been bought for a BBQ or occasion. They have always been able to help themselves but would always be considerate.

Teens don't eat so much that they need to have such a huge snack after a nandos, that's just greedy.

For some reason the OPs last posts didn't load. Wow DH was bang out of order there. What a dickhead.

OP already said, multiple times, that her DH would have most probably just gone off to his activity and NOT replaced the food. Then what does she do when they come home 30 minutes before the BBQ? Or worse, stay out and miss it?
It shows what a crappy husband and parent he is if the OP cannot even trust that her DH would have her back and replace the food. He's too busy being a Disney Dad trying to buy his NVDD's affections.

If a thread is more than a couple of pages, it’s always worth clicking the See All button at the bottom of the OPs post.

The vitriol pored onto two teenagers by grown adults on this thread is just horrible.

@WellNoprawnsleftthen I think you should ask MN if you can get this thread deleted.

Their father said they could eat the food in his house.

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Absolutely fucking ridiculous to allow them to consume that amount of food. Should have left it and went out, told him you assumed it was cancelled as all the food has gone (unless he got off his area to replace it himself).

Madness that people think this is an acceptable amount of food to eat as a snack after a meal out - it's sheer greed.

Christ, can people not read OP’s posts before posting? One PP’s posted about twenty times, absolutely baffling.