To feel pissed off that everyone is spelling my new baby’s name wrong?

[Algor1thm]

We’ve named our new baby a name which has several legitimate and well used spellings. The spelling we’ve gone with is actually the original spelling, but is the second most popular spelling in use in the UK currently. Think Isabelle versus Isabel for example. It’s not a made up or unknown spelling, and is completely phonetic. The name itself isn’t particularly unusual.

Almost everyone is already spelling the baby’s name wrong - over half of our new baby cards are spelt wrong. I’ve literally texted people “meet baby ‘Isabelle’” and right below they’ve written something like “congratulations, ‘Isabel’ is beautiful” etc.

I knew the spelling would be an issue going forward but I sort of expected people might be able to read what I’d written and spell it right the moment they were told the name. It’s probably just my hormones, but AIBU to think it’s quite rude not to make the effort to spell the baby’s name correctly in the new baby card?

I reckon the name is Madison or Elowen

YANBU. I occasionally have this issue with my own name... and it does annoy me if I'm honest. I quite like the name Rebekah but only spelt this way...despite it sounding exactly the same I don't like Rebecca as much! It's always a gamble when choosing a name that is at risk of this :(

Same here, my first name has two variants, of which mine is the less common. I'm almost surprised when someone DOES get it right. She's going to have to put up with it throughout life, , and I'm afraid it's no-one's fault but yours!

Is it a bit annoying? Yea I suppose. But you knew this was a possibility. I’m sure a lot of us have written emails to people, and we’ve had a reply with our name spelt wrong, despite the fact we put it in the email and it’s the same in the email address. It happens. YABU

It's like Clare and Claire. I'm so used to the latter spelling:

Nobody cares how your child’s name is spelled , that’s the thing.
it really doesn’t matter.

congratulations on your new baby

Depends on if it’s close family doing this or friends/colleagues.

I often can’t remember how friends spell their kids’ names. In fact, I recently wrote in a 1st birthday card and I put the baby’s 5 year old sibling’s name in the card by mistake 🙄

Of course I spell all of my nieces and nephews names correctly.

I have an unusual name that's similar to a common name. Think Derren and Darren. I even have the banks telling me I've spelt it wrong on applications!!!

I bought a Post Office Travel Card recently. They did a passport check and I had to transfer money from my bank account for it to open. They set the new card up as Darren, despite all the evidence they had.

So, sadly, you have to learn that this will happen all of the time.

I have the same problem with my little girls name Annabelle she’s now two and I’ve just accepted people will spell it wrong. Although I still think it’s very rude

Many years ago, one of the neighbours was holding a party. My NDN was there on his own as his wife was at home looking after their fairly new baby. For some reason, while we were there we all had to sign a card for something completely unrelated. He went to sign the card with his name, his DW's name and the baby. I had to point out that he had spelt his baby's name incorrectly. So it's not only friends and extended family who get it wrong!

DD and DH both have names that have alternative spellings and people regularly spell them wrong. Annoying but it's one of those things

You knew it would be an issue but went ahead and saddled your child with thus for the rest of their life. Your choice and yes it is rude if you have sent a text with the little one's name on it but not everyone will see your child's name in written form. Now you have to live with the annoyance.

Sorry if it’s impacting negatively. For next baby choose something easier.

I'm 53 and people still call me by the shortened version of my name and spell it wrong! It is what it is unfortunately

Coming from someone whose name can be spelled over 30 different ways (it’s true!). You’ll just have to just suck it up and pray that you never have to try and find a keyring with their correct spelling, I’m 41 and I haven’t found it yet 😂

@Algor1thm My granny (my dads mum) never spelled my name correctly. I think it was my 21st and she sent me a card with different spellings inside and it said, please tick appropriate box. None of them were my spelling 🙄

Ohh is it Casper and Caspar? Because if so, we’ve picked the same spelling and are having the same thing! It doesn’t bother me too much though, in fact it’s the opposite - I just really appreciate it when people get it right. It is a lovely name - I love it too.

Just to say, if it is Caspar, apparently there were 77 born last year in the UK with that spelling, so people won’t know it’s you on here. And in my opinion it is the prettier spelling (& I like the fact it’s the original spelling!) don’t worry about it, it’s really not a big deal and isn’t a sign of people not caring. Life is too busy and short to sweat things like this!

It's just something you and she will need to get used to unfortunately. My first name is a classic C or K issue and my surname has multiple spellings. Wanted easy to spell names for DDs but I've ended up giving DD2 a name with multiple spellings so I've burdened her with the same issue I have 🤦🏻‍♀️

My daughters 27 and some people still spell her name Kendal instead of kendel and that includes family.🤷‍♀️

I agree OP! I don’t let it get to me but I always make an effort to spell people’s names right in cards, letters, social media etc but the amount of times other people spell mine or my kids names wrong is unbelievable! One of my best friends of 35 years STILL spells my surname and my 16 year old daughter’s first name wrong! 🤦🏼‍♀️ I do laugh!

I've had this my whole life - it doesn't bother me at all and I just roll with whatever version I get!

Caterina/Katarina/Katerina.
Claire/Clare
Kiera/Keira
Katy/Katie
May/Mae
And that's just for starters!

When I registered the birth of mine, they asked me how I wanted to spell it. Your good friends will remember but no one else will give it time. I met a teacher once who deliberately spelt my child's name wrong so "they'd get used to it".🤦‍♀️

And this is before we get started on Kaytee or Summa...

As soon as I read the OP I thought of my DM, who is Anne, who gets people insisting on Ann, and there was your post 3 posts in!

OP I’m afraid there are just people who are like this. If they’re not going to bother getting it right with a 77 year old woman they’ve known for years and whose name they’ve seen written down countless times, why would they with a baby whose name they’ve only just been told? It sucks but it’s just how some people are. Thoughtless/lazy/full of preconceived ideas/shit spellers or any combination of the above.