To feel pissed off that everyone is spelling my new baby’s name wrong?

[Algor1thm]

We’ve named our new baby a name which has several legitimate and well used spellings. The spelling we’ve gone with is actually the original spelling, but is the second most popular spelling in use in the UK currently. Think Isabelle versus Isabel for example. It’s not a made up or unknown spelling, and is completely phonetic. The name itself isn’t particularly unusual.

Almost everyone is already spelling the baby’s name wrong - over half of our new baby cards are spelt wrong. I’ve literally texted people “meet baby ‘Isabelle’” and right below they’ve written something like “congratulations, ‘Isabel’ is beautiful” etc.

I knew the spelling would be an issue going forward but I sort of expected people might be able to read what I’d written and spell it right the moment they were told the name. It’s probably just my hormones, but AIBU to think it’s quite rude not to make the effort to spell the baby’s name correctly in the new baby card?

It is annoying, but a lot of people do this. My name has 2 spellings and mine is the more common one but I still occasionally get emails with the wrong spelling (to my email address that has my name spelt correctly....)

I get both my first name and surname spelled wrong all the time, I have a first name that can have an H or not and a surname the same as someone famous, so I get his spelling. I constantly have chase emails (they've usually added and extra letter in the middle) and correct the spelling because it's just NOT MY NAME when it's spelled wrong. However, after 60 years with the names (I didn't change when I was married) I just laugh it off, I don't think it's rude, just careless.

I have a name that people misspell far more often then not - in a variety of different ways.

It's honestly never given me a moments concern. So what if I get a birthday card with the wrong spelling? Or even with just my first initial?

Don't sweat it, OP.

If I don’t want to post my child’s name on here I don’t have to 🙄 Seeing as I’ve revealed my child is newborn and the name isn’t overly common (not top 100) and I’m using the rarer spelling, there’s a fair chance it could be identifying if someone I knew saw this thread, yes.

I have a pretty common name popular in the 60s. There's only one correct way to spell it, but occasionally people still spell it wrong. It's never bothered me.
They say it right.

If it’s any consolation OP, my own dad thought my brothers middle name was spelled differently (think along the lines of Philip/Phillip)… my brother is 36 and my dad is a lot older but apparently none the wiser 😁

and not once has my uncle spelled my DD18s name correctly, but he is quite severely dyslexic.

Doesn’t bother me at all (DD also has a name that can be spelled many ways). I do occasionally joke that I should have just named her Bob though.

This is just people, unfortunately.
My name can be spelled with a K or a C, mine is spelled with a K, but people ALWAYS assume it's a C.
And usually assume it's a similar, more commonly used name. I'm known by the abbreviated version of my name, so l can understand it, but it still annoys me.
I'm 64 and l still get family Christmas cards spelling it with a C. And using my maiden name, 34 years after l got married....

People are sending you new baby cards, that’s a reason to be grateful. People have stuff on their minds, busy lives, worries and heartbreaks, and they’re still sending you cards. I understand it’s frustrating, but have faith - it’s all smallfry in the big scheme of things. People shorten my middle daughter’s name all the time, I gave her a beautiful name because it’s a beautiful name, I didn’t want it shortened and lost, but also, life is short and I don’t want to be sweating the small stuff

My best mate has been spelling my name wrong for 25 years

Some people are thick

Ha we thought of a name for our oldest, agreed it, liked it for 6 months or so, then when it came to let everyone know about the birth we realised there are multiple spellings, so we just texted/emailed everyone with the one we thought. Then someone came back "you know that's the American version?" So we changed our mind to the British spelling. But not before every relative in the country wrote the original down!
That's slightly less annoying because it's our own fault.

Second time around we picked the name we liked, then checked the top 100 baby names list to get the most popular spelling IN ADVANCE. So we didn't mess it up this time. Well done us.
🤓
But yeah names are special, so it's nice if people respect them!

Wow, somebody sent my little darling Bealzebub a card and spelled it with two z's, do you feel sorry for me?

WfTs the fkn name

I get this too it does my head in! I’m like my name is literally written at the top of the page!

No your not.. People are just furking annoying they don't listen or look. Just will need to repeat repeat repeat.
My ds is called Taylor... not Tyler... see different spelling and name.

Like Lindsey/Lindsay? Easy mistake - get used to it Op 😂☠️

How do people manage to get complex, highly qualified jobs that involve processing lots of important information, if they can't even read and write one simple name? The mind boggles.

Me too. Everyone has always spelled my name wrong. I let it pass now, so many more troubling things out there...

My name has several spellings & my entire life I've had to tell people which one - it used to REALLY upset me as a kid when people got it wrong - especially family members! Can't really give a monkey's now. 1st world problems & all that.

BUT I would DEFINITELY check I had the spelling correct in a 'new baby' card!! I get why that's niggling you!!

I get this. My sister has known my child for his whole life but still spells his name 'her' way (which is actually the Italian & female version)...I'm sure she does it to wind me up!

A lot of people are just really stupid and careless

It appears you’ve made it to the news @Algor1thm

https://apple.news/AwhyyhMxYS6u2pkfOguYGEg

My name's like this and I just accept it either way. I never correct people, waste of time. It just annoys them.

I don't understand why people get so offended. "Claire with an I" etc. Life's too short.

No-one is intending to be rude, it's just mistake.

My guess is Madeleine and it’s being spelt Madeline. 🧐

I'm 51 and still get this. There are several variations to the spelling of my name. Even family still get it wrong. Annoying.

Surely that's a good thing? You haven't been horrible about anyone. It might make them think, whoops better get the correct spelling.