Boyfriend says I'm ignorant -aibu to think I'm not?

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Tomorrow there is a big concert in our city.
60,000 so hotels are now all full or ridiculously expensive.
A week ago a "friend "(hasn't spoke to him in 10 years ) messaged asking if he could park his camper van on our drive tonight and my partner said yes (which okay it's fine )
Now tomorrow we are also going to this concert and I'm really excited and bought a new outfit and want to look nice.
The plan is to head into town around 1pm (we are lucky it's a 5 min walk to town and 15 to stadium )
Now he is saying they are coming inside for breakfast and a chat -I said okay no worries but in the morning il be getting ready (I want to do my hair /make up nice etc -I don't feel confident without makeup and would never be out with strangers without some make up on)
Partner has said no that's ignorant come and sit with us before you get ready and have breakfast and then quickly get ready.
I said no I'm getting ready then I'll make some breakfast -he said from what he remembers his friend likes early breakfast
Oh well -
Aibu here ?
What difference does it make if I'm getting ready whilst he is chatting with them?
I don't even know the guy

Why don't the people who want to debate the meaning of the word ignorant go and do it on another thread, so that the OP can get some actual useful advice?

Those of you that don't enjoy a long time to get ready - great for you. OP does. She gets up early every day and wants a leisurely morning. That's her choice.

OP tell your boyfriend to get to fuck and make his own breakfast.

You know, you don't have to waste your life on men who treat you like a maid. There are other options. (LTB).

That was helpful.

Did it make you feel good?

the only "ignorant" thing here is that you are daft enough to stay with him.

@Riapia I get up daily for work at 5am
I can be ready in 5 mins if I want -the point is I don't want too
I want to take my time

Is he expecting you to make breakfast for everyone?

Take all the time you want, hope he doesn't spoil the day for you.

I can’t believe how many people are saying it’s rude to not entertain someone you barely know and make yourself uncomfortable. It’s not!

as for the make up, I understand OP. For me, I have bad skin that makes me feel horrible about myself so am never seen by anyone other than my husband without. Just basic covering for me but still. Hope you have a good time!

Judging by this thread, plenty of people seem to be obsessed with the definition. I remember it being used to mean rude when I was a child so 50 years ago. Presumably from a lack of knowledge of manners or something?

Perfectly normal use of the word ignorant in much of Scotland. I presume it's short for 'ignorant of the normal social conventions'

Why can’t CF take your partner out for breakfast while you get ready as a thank you for saving him a shed load of dosh?

Is it because he's not seen or heard from him for 10 years that he's actually a bit worried the conversation will dry up and wants you there to help out?

And you’re quite right. This is your weekend, your treat, your chance to have a lie on. Your partner is a weak little people pleaser. Does he not recognise he’s being used by this old acquaintance?! And he’s expecting you to dance to his tune, too. Pathetic.

Do what you want. It’s your day off. And you’re already letting the freeloader pitch up on your driveway.

I know, thats what I am saying. She has already had breakfast foisted upon her without discussion and is being berated for not wholeheartedly agreeing. If she has an idea of what might happen she can prepare a response or have a discussion beforehand. She may be fine with drinks or them using the shower, maybe it's just the early morning bit she's not up for, but I would imagine breakfast won't be the only interaction.

Well then the father could take them.

The posters vehemently expecting the OP to bend to the will of both her stupid boyfriend and the freeloading ‘friend’ is depressing.

OP tbh if your bf is often like this, making decisions about how you spend your time, who and when you cook for - it doesn't sound as though you are compatible.

Tbf a lot of women wouldn't want to be compatible with that!

The word ignorant has a specific meaning. They way your boyfriend is using the word is incorrect. He is clearly ignorant of its proper usage.

YANBU for not wanting to spend time with your boyfriend’s friend who has imposed a time in you without consultation. I do think it’s a bit sad not to be willing to be seen without makeup though.

Random friend has just asked for somewhere to park his van, it’s BF who wants to show-off how good he has it with a GF who gets up to cook him breakfast. Or who is just too lazy to do it himself.

Is the friend coming down the night before? In which case you’ll have already met him/them, and just tell him you won’t see him at breakfast because you’ll be having a lie in, but he can remind BF to bring you up a cup of tea at 9 o’clock.

Many posters have been quite keen to display their ignorance of the meaning of the word ignorant.

ignorant adjective

1. lacking knowledge or awareness; not educated
2. very bad manners; discourteous or rude

You do what you planned, OP. But also you’ve not answered the question - why can’t your BF make breakfast?

Completely
missing the point here, but why isn’t the randomer cooking breakfast in his campervan for your DH. It’s the least he can do.

Why the fuck is he expecting you to cook breakfast? Tell HIM to stop being so ignorant and learn to cook like a grown up, rather than expecting you to be his maid.

East London/Essex and it’s used the same way here, ignorant to mean rude or bad mannered.

Didn’t realise it was a regional thing either 🤷‍♀️

Totally fair enough if you ask me. This guy sounds like a chancer. Tell him to sort his own breakfast.

You should absolutely ltb. And as well as being a sexist and controlling arsehole, your boyfriend is the ignorant one, as he evidently does not know what ignorant means!