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Boyfriend says I'm ignorant -aibu to think I'm not?

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aaratty · 10/06/2023 10:04

Tomorrow there is a big concert in our city.
60,000 so hotels are now all full or ridiculously expensive.
A week ago a "friend "(hasn't spoke to him in 10 years ) messaged asking if he could park his camper van on our drive tonight and my partner said yes (which okay it's fine )
Now tomorrow we are also going to this concert and I'm really excited and bought a new outfit and want to look nice.
The plan is to head into town around 1pm (we are lucky it's a 5 min walk to town and 15 to stadium )
Now he is saying they are coming inside for breakfast and a chat -I said okay no worries but in the morning il be getting ready (I want to do my hair /make up nice etc -I don't feel confident without makeup and would never be out with strangers without some make up on)
Partner has said no that's ignorant come and sit with us before you get ready and have breakfast and then quickly get ready.
I said no I'm getting ready then I'll make some breakfast -he said from what he remembers his friend likes early breakfast
Oh well -
Aibu here ?
What difference does it make if I'm getting ready whilst he is chatting with them?
I don't even know the guy

OP posts:
monsteramunch · 11/06/2023 23:25

@Keitharingsbitch

Just because loads of people use it incorrectly doesn't make it mean that. It just makes you look stupid to people who know the actual meaning.
I really enjoy using slang and picking terms up, but I think it's really important to actually know proper meaning, as then you can't know when you use things incorrectly and just look stupid. But I mean if you're cool with that, that's absolutely your look out.

The irony of calling the use of the alternative use of the word 'stupid' when it's a dictionary definition...!

Boyfriend says I'm ignorant -aibu to think I'm not?
NoMoreLifts · 12/06/2023 04:41

Grew up with ignorant being used to mean rude (East London /Essex).
Given all the other posters saying this too, if it is regional, then feels like that 'regional' here means almost everywhere.
re: breakfast: they can go out / either male can cook breakfast in their own facilities for each other or just themselves. Plenty of solutions that don't involve OP cooking breakfast for others when she doesn't want to eat it. On her day off. For someone she doesn't know / didn't invite.

MrsJHarker · 12/06/2023 08:06

Keitharingsbitch · 11/06/2023 23:20

Just because loads of people use it incorrectly doesn't make it mean that. It just makes you look stupid to people who know the actual meaning.

I really enjoy using slang and picking terms up, but I think it's really important to actually know proper meaning, as then you can't know when you use things incorrectly and just look stupid. But I mean if you're cool with that, that's absolutely your look out.

No, you look stupid.

KellyanneConway · 12/06/2023 08:18

You’ve planned your day off to include a lie in and leisurely bath/ get ready, that’s what you want to do with your down time before the concert. Fair enough you get up at 5am usually. He wants early breakfast with his old friend. You have not included cooking and hosting early breakfast in your plans. As other people have said, each do your own thing and you pop in at some point and say hi. If he insists you use your down time in a way that suits him, he is being a dick

PicturesOfDogs · 12/06/2023 08:29

Keitharingsbitch · 11/06/2023 23:20

Just because loads of people use it incorrectly doesn't make it mean that. It just makes you look stupid to people who know the actual meaning.

I really enjoy using slang and picking terms up, but I think it's really important to actually know proper meaning, as then you can't know when you use things incorrectly and just look stupid. But I mean if you're cool with that, that's absolutely your look out.

Now this really is ignorant.

In both senses of the word 😉

Hopelesscynic · 12/06/2023 08:44

OP do you really need to ask for opinions?
Your boyfriend I'd a CF for asking you to get up early and make breakfast for HIS guests in the first place. He is also a tw*t for insulting you and pushing you to fo this. Stop going over the subject with him, just tell him you're not doing this, he can host his friends and that he is the one being ignorant of your needs and feelings.
If that's how he normally treats you though, I'd be seriously considering leaving him. You're not his maid.

MrsJHarker · 12/06/2023 11:40

@Keitharingsbitch are you going to come back and admit you are wrong after calling me stupid.

OP, I hope everything went well.

Boomboom22 · 12/06/2023 17:42

Keitharingsbitch · 11/06/2023 23:20

Just because loads of people use it incorrectly doesn't make it mean that. It just makes you look stupid to people who know the actual meaning.

I really enjoy using slang and picking terms up, but I think it's really important to actually know proper meaning, as then you can't know when you use things incorrectly and just look stupid. But I mean if you're cool with that, that's absolutely your look out.

🤣 do you know how stupid you sound? Because you don't understand how words work? Ignorant has always meant socially ignorant. The word you mean is idiot. When you're talking about general knowledge you might sat either but social knowledge has always been ignorance as all dictionaries show. It is not a regional variation if ysage but the proper meaning. The bf is a knob but he clearly has a better understanding of the English language than you do.

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