To ask for 50% of pizza cost from friend?

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I had a friend over who's actually my SIL also.

She suggested getting a Papa John's when I said I could do us a just salad for lunch

I said that sounded nice, so ordered it from my app on the just eat app.

It came and I went to have a slice. She had plated herself up with half the pizza, despite me mentioning previously that I'd give DS a slice or two when he came home, as a treat (he really likes cold pizza!)

She hasn't mentioned paying me back, at all

When she was finished eating, all of it was gone

We ordered a large pizza

AIBU to ask for 50%? She also drank most of the 7UP

Why haven't you asked for her half?

You really have to ask??

If you host a visitor then you provide the food. It would be completely awkward and inappropriate to ask her to pay towards the meal.

I think you would be within your rights to ask but I would
probably let it go.

Why on earth would you think it unreasonable to ask for half the cost of she ate half the pizza. Surely the adult thing to do is tell her how much she owes you whilst she's still at your house having just eaten the pizza.

Should've mentioned that I said 'isn't that really expensive?' And said I had pizza in the freezer (obviously not the same)

She said 'come on! Have a treat'

You invited her over for lunch so I’d say you pay, but she should have offered half as she didn’t leave enough for your son.

I suppose because if it was me, I wouldn't need to be asked and would be paying without someone promoting me

*prompting

Presumably you know this is the type of person she is though if she's your SIL it can't have come as a surprise?

One pizza between two is hardly generous anyway, let alone hoping for a couple of leftover slices. YABU

It was large? And was actually really big!

She sounds really greedy and cheeky. She should have paid for half.

If you paid on an app then she probably doesn't know how much it cost? Just message her with the amount she owes and your bank details if she doesn't have them already.

Really? Op was planning to make something, not order something.

You could just as easily turn it round and say if you're a guest, you eat what's provided and don't insist on your choice of takeaway.

I think you'd have needed to have sorted it out at lunchtime,- her "shall we get pizza" you "that sounds good let's go halves".

It seems a bit late now to be chasing her for money. And it also sounds as though your someone who's maybe not that assertive- why didnt you take a couple of slices for DS and put them aside?

It's one of those thing where she's not behaved very considerately, but if you'd been gently firmer on your expectations then the misunderstanding followed by feeling cross could probably been avoided.

The big mistake here is you saying 'yes' and ordering one. You should have let her order it and pay for it.

You should have sorted out at the time who was going to pay what.

Hmm this is all very true

For me it would depend if you know she'd return the favour. If this was me and my closest friend, I'd not ask her for the money as I know a time would come up soon where she'd supplying drinks or food or buying us a coffee so it all evens itself out I think. Not that we keep tabs on those things. However, if it was someone I wasn't as close with, it would go without saying that we split costs

Is this one of those threads where the OP just posts snippets of extra information and doesn't do anything about their obvious answer boggle?

You know the answer OP. Tell her she owes you some coin and get money upfront next time.

@DustyLee123 if you're invited for lunch to accept what you're being offered (allergies/veggie aside) You do not suggest takeaway them not pay or t least contribute to it!!

She's a CF and you would be entitled to ask for half the cost, but you should have do so before you ordered. Once its paid for the opportunity has passed.

This.

I agree.

I think the moment has passed now. You know for next time.