To ask for 50% of pizza cost from friend?

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I had a friend over who's actually my SIL also.

She suggested getting a Papa John's when I said I could do us a just salad for lunch

I said that sounded nice, so ordered it from my app on the just eat app.

It came and I went to have a slice. She had plated herself up with half the pizza, despite me mentioning previously that I'd give DS a slice or two when he came home, as a treat (he really likes cold pizza!)

She hasn't mentioned paying me back, at all

When she was finished eating, all of it was gone

We ordered a large pizza

AIBU to ask for 50%? She also drank most of the 7UP

So if she didn't eat half, you wouldn't be asking her to contribute towards it?

MN bingo: "no wonder we have an obesity crisis in this country" and "we've lost sight of what a normal portion looks like".

The point being that there were only 2 of them, therefore one pizza wouldn't be a stingy portion.

But, but, but... that was YOUR choice. If someone expected me to give up some of my lunch so someone could have it cold later they'd get short shrift. If they were going to be there eating with us, then I'd have said we should order an XXL or whatever would be enough for three people. So when you looked and all the pizza was gone, that was because she (quite rightly) had taken her half, you had had yours and made the decision to leave some of yours for your son. You made it sound like she had taken her half, you had taken one slice and then when you looked again, all the pizza had gone. Which clearly wasn't the case. You are complaining she ate her half, but then complaining that you couldn't have the same amount as her AND have some left for your son. Goodness!

Also, just pizza? Why on earth wouldn't you chuck some salad out too? Maybe then your SIL wouldn't have eaten all "her" half and also incorrectly thought that since you had planned to provide lunch then you would get the pizza instead... Just message her and say, lovely to see you, the pizza was X amount, just send it over when you get a chance.

Also, just pizza? Why on earth wouldn't you chuck some salad out too? Maybe then your SIL wouldn't have eaten all "her" half and also incorrectly thought that since you had planned to provide lunch then you would get the pizza instead... Just message her and say, lovely to see you, the pizza was X amount, just send it over when you get a chance.

A large papa johns pizza is big. Anyway, salad and a few other bits were also on the table too

A large papa johns pizza is big.

In your opinion. Clearly not in your SIL's.

Anyway, salad and a few other bits were also on the table too

Ah, a nice drip feed. So really it's not about the money, you just think your SIL is a greedy pig who should have willingly given up some of her pizza for your son and not guzzled most of the pop.

To be fair, if someone invited me over to their house for lunch; I wouldn't expect to pay for said lunch.
Salad and bits doesn't seem like lunch to me, its usually to accompany a meal. Also, I have to say a large pizza doesn't get shared in my house. I have a large and finish it by myself.

How long have you been friends?

It’s too late to ask for the money now.

Just order the same at her house next time and get her to pay and don’t pay your half. Say ‘oh it’s your turn to get this one’

The Papa John's website says a large is 13.5 inches? That would only serve 2 moderately hungry adults in our house, so YABU OP

It would be tight to ask for money now. Just ask for her to pay the next time.

I feel bad now for previous post. I had thought SIL ate all of the pizza bar one slice. Misunderstood that one! So OP is annoyed SIL ate half a pizza, the same amount she would have eaten had she not decided to keep some back for her son. Is that it?

My DDs could polish off a large pappa johns pizza between them when they were 5 & 7 yo

Next time you arrange a lunch date say great let’s do xy or Z and your treat this time.

My parents always taught me if you cant do something with taste, best not to bother.

It sounds like the biggest issue to you is the money... Inviting someone for lunch which would have consisted of salad leaves and a few extra's isn't lunch. And complaining hours later over a few pounds is such poor taste. You sound really hard up and its okay, but if that is the case; don't host 'Lunch' and get stroppy that guests want to eat an actual meal.

I think she's a cheeky fucker.

You offered her a salad, she suggested getting a Papa Johns. You then offered to cook her a pizza from your freezer, but she persuaded you to buy a Papa Johns. And then expected you to pay for it all.

I feel its a bit too late to ask her for money now, but next time she suggests lunch I would say to her that it's her turn to pay. And in future tell her you can't afford a takeaway, so it's salad, freezer pizza, or nothing!

Your SIL and your friend, can you really not shout her half a pizza 🙄 next time don't order it if you don't want to.

Absolutely ask for half.

Did you invite her for lunch though? Or did she outstay her welcome?

Next time tell her you’ve got no food in and no money to order a takeaway.

I’m guessing she never hosts and wouldn’t spend a penny on you? People like this never do.

A: she should have sucked it up and ate what you offered
B: you need to suck up the cost after you agreed to it and chalk it up to the price of hosting.

C: wow this all sounds so petty on all sides

And how do you know the salad is just "salad leaves"? Could have been a big hearty salad with lots of veg, cheese, chicken, etc.. But that doesn't even matter anyway. The point is, you don't go to someone else's house suggesting/requiring a takeaway and paying nothing towards it! That's a super rude CF behaviour, if anyone did this to me I'd probably wouldn't invite them again.
OP, your friend/SIL is definitely a user. How could she be insisting and assuming you're happy to pay all of it, or that you can afford it?
Next time tell her, "I'll let you pay for this as I covered the cost last time".

You don’t know that OP invited her for lunch though.

She was a rude guest to ask for pizza when what was offer was salad. Eat what you’re given or pay for it. Basic manners.

Being able to polish something off doesn't mean it wasn't a large portion.

I would never charge a guest for their lunch.

Absolutely.
I can't imagine refusing what a friend offered me to eat and saying nah I actually want a Papa Johns and then letting her pay for it!

And exactly how far would you expect a pizza to go, even if it was large?!

If they are uninvited and ask for food then they’re not a guest.

But if they didn't like what you were offering and said they wanted to order in instead would you not think that was exceptionally rude?

And would you do the same yourself if a friend offered you lunch and you didn't like what was offered?