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To ask for 50% of pizza cost from friend?

242 replies

rainonmetonightnel · 09/06/2023 21:16

I had a friend over who's actually my SIL also.

She suggested getting a Papa John's when I said I could do us a just salad for lunch

I said that sounded nice, so ordered it from my app on the just eat app.

It came and I went to have a slice. She had plated herself up with half the pizza, despite me mentioning previously that I'd give DS a slice or two when he came home, as a treat (he really likes cold pizza!)

She hasn't mentioned paying me back, at all

When she was finished eating, all of it was gone

We ordered a large pizza

AIBU to ask for 50%? She also drank most of the 7UP

OP posts:
catsnhats11 · 09/06/2023 21:35

She was cheeky but it's too late now. Next time she suggests it, say great, you order and pay this time...bet she'll suddenly be happy with salad.

AAAAABBBBBCCCCC · 09/06/2023 21:35

She's greedy..you're tight.

Mirabai · 09/06/2023 21:36

If you wanted your son to have a piece could you not have given him a slice of your half?

That aside - CF assuming you’ll pay.

Mirabai · 09/06/2023 21:37

Next time you go round say “Let’s share a pizza, I paid last time this one’s on you”.

Sierra26 · 09/06/2023 21:37

  1. of course ask her, just text her saying “before I forget, it was £11 each for the pizza”

  2. you could have said no to the order if you’d wanted

  3. it’s unreasonable of you to expect her to eat less because you want to keep some for your son (doesn’t matter if he really likes cold pizza - who doesn’t). I couldn’t just eat less than half a pizza for a meal and I’d be pissed off if someone tried to restrict me because they wanted to create some leftovers. She probably assumed you would save some back from your half.

ThursdayFreedom · 09/06/2023 21:38

@Diorinthecountry should she have just delicately nibbled at half a slice? I'm

towriteyoumustlive · 09/06/2023 21:43

Just get her to order and pay next time!

Mangogogogo · 09/06/2023 21:44

Ugh is this one of those where op is trying to get everyone to moan and groan cos the sil ate half of a ‘really big pizza’?

ThursdayFreedom · 09/06/2023 21:47

@rainonmetonightnel

Do you actually need the money (ie you'll be short of food money/electric/school lunch money) if you don't get her half. That's the only time I'd ask for it now.

otherwise I'd just assume she'll
pay next time.

then in future sort it out beforehand!

if you want to save some for your DS, you need to take it out if your half!!

3luckystars · 09/06/2023 21:50

Let it go. Its a good value lesson.

Cosyblankets · 09/06/2023 21:50

I couldn't get worked up over this
Surely if you're friends sometimes you go to hers and sometimes she comes to you

3luckystars · 09/06/2023 21:50

I’d definitely eat half a pizza.

DelilahBucket · 09/06/2023 21:50

She was cheeky but I think it's too late now. Next time be upfront. If it was me with my friends, we would automatically split the cost, wouldn't even give it a second thought. The person who didn't order would already be on their banking app sending money to the other before the order has gone through.

CountryParsonPetal · 09/06/2023 21:50

It's too late to ask now, you should have sorted out the money at the time.

YoucancallmeKAREN · 09/06/2023 21:51

I would never expect a guest in my home to pay but that is me not you. If you feel she should pay half then you must tell her. Is it worth possibly souring family relations over ?

TheMurderousGoose · 09/06/2023 21:53

AAAAABBBBBCCCCC · 09/06/2023 21:35

She's greedy..you're tight.

I think this sums it up.

Dacadactyl · 09/06/2023 21:54

Blackbyrd · 09/06/2023 21:22

One pizza between two is hardly generous anyway, let alone hoping for a couple of leftover slices. YABU

What?! A pizza in this house does 4 people (with garlic bread and salad).

nocoolnamesleft · 09/06/2023 21:54

If I were the host, I would pay. If I were the guest, and suggested it, I'd offer to go halves. But surely your son's serving could have come out of your half? Given it was such a massive pizza?

Falafelfiend · 09/06/2023 21:55

Cosyblankets · 09/06/2023 21:50

I couldn't get worked up over this
Surely if you're friends sometimes you go to hers and sometimes she comes to you

This! I don't keep score of food with friends unless it is a Michelin star meal.

Dacadactyl · 09/06/2023 21:56

But in answer to OPs question, I'm surprised she didn't offer to pay.

When my friends come round whoever hosting will get minimal alcohol in for everyone and then everyone will bring their own to top that up.

Also, if we go to each others house for takeaway we pay for ourselves.

caringcarer · 09/06/2023 21:56

You should have said 'shall we go Half's'? before you ordered the pizza on your phone. Next time you will remember.

Scrambledegghead · 09/06/2023 21:59

how much pizza did she eat altogether? Either way I think you should’ve asked at the time, but you say she plated up half and by the time she was done it was all gone- did you not get any? If so, could you not have saved DS a slice or two from your half?

Andanotherone01 · 09/06/2023 22:01

Why did your son’s ‘slice or two’ have to come out of her half? Why couldn’t you have saved some? This presumes that you also ate half the pizza!

JudgeJ · 09/06/2023 22:01

NewIdeasToday · 09/06/2023 21:19

If you host a visitor then you provide the food. It would be completely awkward and inappropriate to ask her to pay towards the meal.

But if the guest requests the food then they should pay at least half.

wutheringkites · 09/06/2023 22:03

Did she eat more than half? If she did, that is very unreasonable, especially as she didn't pay.