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To ask for 50% of pizza cost from friend?

242 replies

rainonmetonightnel · 09/06/2023 21:16

I had a friend over who's actually my SIL also.

She suggested getting a Papa John's when I said I could do us a just salad for lunch

I said that sounded nice, so ordered it from my app on the just eat app.

It came and I went to have a slice. She had plated herself up with half the pizza, despite me mentioning previously that I'd give DS a slice or two when he came home, as a treat (he really likes cold pizza!)

She hasn't mentioned paying me back, at all

When she was finished eating, all of it was gone

We ordered a large pizza

AIBU to ask for 50%? She also drank most of the 7UP

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TheMurderousGoose · 09/06/2023 22:06

Falafelfiend · 09/06/2023 21:55

This! I don't keep score of food with friends unless it is a Michelin star meal.

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Yes. Unless someone is perpetually taking the piss, why would you stress over a few quid?

tillytoodles1 · 09/06/2023 22:06

When I have visitors I cook, if we have takeaway we share the cost.

Florissante · 09/06/2023 22:06

Did she also use more napkins than you did?

Strawberrydelight78 · 09/06/2023 22:06

YANBU

WiddlinDiddlin · 09/06/2023 22:07

I am confused, did she have half or more than half, how much did you have?

You should really have said at the time but I would still send a text saying 'sorry, forgot earlier but your half of lunch was x, can you stick it in my bank/paypal, cheers!'

As for 'that'd serve four people with garlic bread and salad @Falafelfiend -

But the OP did not have garlic bread and salad. And how big a pizza? Is it a main meal or a lighter meal?

Not all pizzas are equal, a large pizza without much topping might not be that filling. A smaller one absolutely stuffed, might be.

And what about the energy output of the people eating it... they may have just spent the day sitting on their bums doing nothing, or perhaps they've run a marathon and built half an office block.

So many generalisations in order to food police and competitively under-eat!

Muncha · 09/06/2023 22:07

I'm glad I don't live in the house where one pizza feeds 4 people.

Unless this is one of those threads where it feeds an entire family of 6 for 4 days then the leftovers are made into soup, then I'll happily play along.

HappyCatty · 09/06/2023 22:07

She should have gone halves but did you also serve your salad or was it literally just the pizza? A Papa John's large pizza is 14". I could easily eat 3/4 of that without blinking. Yes, I know, I'm probably greedy and have a big appetite, especially by MN standards, where even half a small piece of a small pizza is far too much for one and a 14" one would feed a family of four for the week.. But in any event, there was half for you and half for her. It's not her fault you wanted some cold for your son. That shouldn't have to come out of her share!

GiraffeLaSophie · 09/06/2023 22:07

I assume she’s going to pay you when you tell her how much it cost though? Surely nobody could be dense enough to tell you to have a treat when you ask if Papa John’s is expensive and then expect you to pay for it all…

I don’t see what the issue is in her initially taking half of the pizza though. If I was your friend and you said you wanted to save a slice or two for your son then I would expect you to save that out of your half. If you get one pizza between two people then you get half each!

nebulae · 09/06/2023 22:13

Dacadactyl · 09/06/2023 21:54

What?! A pizza in this house does 4 people (with garlic bread and salad).

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So a pizza doesn't do 4 people in your house then, since you're having garlic bread (which is like extra pizza really) and salad with it. A pizza partly does 4 people in your house.

Sallyh87 · 09/06/2023 22:13

Are you dissatisfied she had a lot of pizza and not the ‘massive salad’ you offered?

Florissante · 09/06/2023 22:14

SiL is obviously not a MNer or she would have fallen to her knees in gratitude for the offer of a 'massive' salad.

roarfeckingroarr · 09/06/2023 22:15

A bit mean; it's just a pizza

Falafelfiend · 09/06/2023 22:15

Florissante · 09/06/2023 22:14

SiL is obviously not a MNer or she would have fallen to her knees in gratitude for the offer of a 'massive' salad.

😂

LadyH846 · 09/06/2023 22:16

I wouldn't pursue this but I also wouldn't let it happen again.

Livingincanadaafter19yearsinlondon · 09/06/2023 22:17

She sounds like a greedy pig. What cheek!

cushioncovers · 09/06/2023 22:18

You invited her for lunch. You agreed to the pizza. You ordered and paid for the pizza. You ate some of the pizza. Yes you should have paid for the pizza as you were the host. Or you should have told her what you had bought in to make for lunch. What sort of salad were you going to make for lunch op?

ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 09/06/2023 22:20

You're a crap host for trying to feed a guest just salad.

She should have offered to pay half.

If you wanted leftovers for your kid you should have taken them out of your half.

You're very weird for monitoring the 7UP consumption.

ArgosKettle · 09/06/2023 22:21

So...let me get this straight...your SIL came to lunch and suggested you order a pizza after you suggested a salad. Pizza comes and SIL eats the whole thing and almost finishes the drink leaving crumbs and backwash for you and your DS to enjoy for dinner...and you paid for that???

LOL That takes CF-kery to the next level

roarfeckingroarr · 09/06/2023 22:21

This thread is eye opening. I didn't realise people got to upset with a family member/friend over something so trivial as a few ££ for pizza.

thanksroyalmaill · 09/06/2023 22:21

Was the lunch today? I don’t think it’s too late to message her asking for payment if it was. I’d say something like it was nice seeing her, you noticed she hasn’t bank transferred you her share just yet, no rush and your bank details are X. What’s the worst that can happen?

Falafelfiend · 09/06/2023 22:22

God, I missed the 7UP scrutiny! So odd. I mean, why have people over then?

rightioly · 09/06/2023 22:22

rainonmetonightnel · 09/06/2023 21:27

Hmm this is all very true

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Yeah I agree. It's too late now.

rightioly · 09/06/2023 22:23

Blackbyrd · 09/06/2023 21:22

One pizza between two is hardly generous anyway, let alone hoping for a couple of leftover slices. YABU

Yes it is! Its loads!

VisionsOfSplendour · 09/06/2023 22:23

AAAAABBBBBCCCCC · 09/06/2023 21:35

She's greedy..you're tight.

Not being able to afford something isn't being tight but not offering to pay your share is

SouthLondonMum22 · 09/06/2023 22:23

Did she eat more than half of the pizza or half of it? If half of it, I don’t understand why you couldn’t save your son some from your half?

She should pay for her half, though I’d probably just leave it now.