To ask for 50% of pizza cost from friend?

[rainonmetonightnel]

I had a friend over who's actually my SIL also.

She suggested getting a Papa John's when I said I could do us a just salad for lunch

I said that sounded nice, so ordered it from my app on the just eat app.

It came and I went to have a slice. She had plated herself up with half the pizza, despite me mentioning previously that I'd give DS a slice or two when he came home, as a treat (he really likes cold pizza!)

She hasn't mentioned paying me back, at all

When she was finished eating, all of it was gone

We ordered a large pizza

AIBU to ask for 50%? She also drank most of the 7UP

I honestly wouldn't care if it were my friend. But if it does, if juts say I'll make x, but if you want x then you order it. Problem solved.

So are you friends or not? If it was my friend I'd not even consider asking them for the money but if I couldn't afford it I wouldn't have bought it.

What was in the salad you offered her?

But the OP thought in this case they'd split the bill, she thought the problem was solved!

So what if for example you said if you want x then you order it but it was more convenient to use your card/cash so you did so and then she didn't pay you back?

You wouldn't think that was rude?

Maybe a little, but honestly if it's my friend and someone I liked I don't think I'd care. I generally operate on a you get this and I'll get the next one, or go halves basis I don't get hung up on money. I'd only get annoyed if I had a friend who always expected someone to foot the bill

I think it might depend on the exact scenario, but if OP is/was expecting her to pay, then she should just send her a text to say "x for the pizza". I think I would still find it a bit weird as it was at my house. Also, if I read it correctly I don't understand why SIL was expected to give a slice out of her half to the DC. I find the whole situation odd for people who are both friends and family

I think the moment has gone. You offered her lunch (presumably free) but she fancied something more substantial. You both agreed to the pizza. At this stage I'd have brought up payment options. As you didn't she's probably assumed you've treated her, or completely forgotten about it.

BTW, I don't think half a large pizza for an adult is particularly shocking.

Sounds to me like rudey asked for food, was offered a salad and then manipulated OP into paying for a pizza.

How weird! I would 100% expect to pay half in this situation. I went to my SILs for dinner last week and we picked up some food at the supermarket to eat and I paid half. Times are tight. The next week she brought over a load of food to share for DHs birthday meal. I did the other half and made a cake. Spreads the cost.

I don't get hung up on it personally myself and if it was my friend I'd let her away with it too and it wouldn't really bother me.

But it is still rude behaviour and most people wouldn't ever do it!

I honestly don’t see an issue, it’s a pizza.

I agree. I just couldn't get worked up over it if it was a one off.

So. Bloody. Rude.

If I was having a friend over for lunch, made a lovely salad (because contrary to some of the comments on here, salad CAN be a substantial lunch) and friend asked if we could add pizza, I would ABSOLUTELY expect that person to pay for it! I've invited them for lunch; I've made an effort and supplied a lovely lunch.

Such cheeky f*ery.

If you asked her round for lunch you should pay. When you were going to do her a salad you wouldn’t have made her pay half.

If someone gets invited to a BBQ and they get there and say actually I want a chinese, you're not on the hook for paying for the food seeing as you were going to offer them free BBQ food.

It’s too late now, @rainonmetonightnel but you’re ready for the next time SIL does this.
Lessons can be expensive. Be happy it was only a pizza.

So you buy a bottle of drink to share with a friend and when you go to pour yourself some, you notice there's only a dribble left - that's "monitoring the consumption" to you?!?! Yeah you sound like a CF

@ArgosKettle Jesus Christ! You can eat an entire large pizza to yourself?!?!?!?!?!?! I'm morbidly obese and can only eat half a regular pizza but an entire large one? Bloody hell that takes some beating

Its not about being asked though, it's more about being told what the owed amount is. Presumably the app told you what the full cost was, you should have told her (and still can just send a text) what half of that was so she can pay you.

Yes, if it was me, I would have asked and transferred before leaving but I hate owing anyone anything and some people do need to be told.

Typical MN competitive under eating at its finest 🙄

This should have been part of the original discussion when you were ordering.
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“The large ones cost £x is that OK, happy to go halves, do you have the cash.”
That keeps it casual.
Now it’s too late.

I'm fairly surprised that people think that half a large pizza is a "normal serving". My DH and I get a large pizza, and it does us two meals. He will usually have a salad with his meal (made at home), but 2 slices are all my body can handle without being ill after. And I am not a small person by any stretch.
I think your sister is a CF. If she had paid for half the meal, she had the right to take half the meal. But she didn't pay, so I do not understand how people can say she was "entitled to half" of the pizza. She was entitled to whatever OP served her and if she was still hungry, she could stop and buy herself something on the way home to tide her over.
"Entitled to half the pizza"? Mind-boggling.

THIS! 💯⬆ALL of THIS! 👏

A salad can be a wonderful lunch and a meal unto itself, hence why restaurants OFFER salads as a main meal. People don't order the $10-$15 salads AND a main course. At least, no one I know would ever do that. 🙄

Weird comment. So generally (ignoring the specifics on this), you'd not assume someone you're having a meal with are going to have half the meal or if there were three in total, thirds? You'd decide because you paid for it you'd divide it up how you wanted to, rather than equally by the number of people there? Do you actually socialise people in RL because that's extremely odd

According to posters here, who seem to think the OP's SIL/friend was totally in the right to take half of a pizza she did not pay for, must also think that if it had been a 5 lb roast or a 3 gallon pot of soup that the "guest" is entitled to half of it all.
I just can't even.

Good thing the OP didn't make a 5 pound roast or a 3 gallon pot of soup.

No, I do NOT assume that if I am eating at someone's house that I get half, or a third or a quarter of what is served. I feel "entitled" to what I am served and offered, and not half of anything. IRL, this is how MY friends/family are, because we don't have any sense of entitlement to other people's food.