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Comments about breastfeeding baby

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AlpacaMeBags · 07/06/2023 11:20

I'll preface this by saying I don't think I did anything wrong but I have crippling social anxiety & this is the kind of thing that I'll lie in bed thinking about for years to come.

At the weekend, a couple of friends and I went to the local pub for lunch. I was feeding DD (3 months) when a group of older women (maybe in their sixties) sat down at the table next to us. They were looking over a lot and muttering to each other but I didn't think it had anything to do with us until one of them said loudly something about "just trying to have a nice lunch and you get this type of thing" while gesturing to our table. Now, I don't know if we were supposed to hear that but I piped up with "oh, that's fine, she's just having lunch too" while pointing moronically at the baby still attached to my boob. They continued muttering to each other & moved tables a few minutes later.

I don't think I did anything wrong - didn't say it unkindly, just making a joke out of it - but one of my friends said I must have made them feel incredibly awkward to move tables. We live in a small village and other people definitely heard.

Was I being unreasonable to say something?

For context - busy-ish family pub, 2 layers & no boob on show

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Millie890 · 21/02/2024 19:44

Ponoka7 · 07/06/2023 11:40

Do you use the term moron out load? It was a term used by psychiatrists to mean someone who has mental/intelligence levels between 7-12, similar to using retarded, except it was part of the propaganda if the eugenics movement. It's a lot more offensive than commenting on breastfeeding.

Oh shut up 🙄

Biffbaff · 21/02/2024 21:08

Hats off to you OP!

I breastfeed out and about all the time - my dad got a bit awkward once in a cafe but it was my mum that relayed that to me after the event. He's a fussy ex-military type anyway but thankfully far too polite to actually say something to me, his headstrong daughter, because I would absolutely give him a dressing down if he did! And I set my mum straight too!

LadyWiddiothethird · 21/02/2024 21:18

I breastfed for 3 years and never once whilst out and about did I feed any of my babies without using a cover up of some sort! What is wrong with Mothers nowadays!

I would not have been muttering quietly,I would have walked up to you and told you I didn’t want to see your tits! Nothing about my telling you would be discreet either.You wouldn’t be doing it again that’s for sure.

Millie890 · 21/02/2024 21:23

LadyWiddiothethird · 21/02/2024 21:18

I breastfed for 3 years and never once whilst out and about did I feed any of my babies without using a cover up of some sort! What is wrong with Mothers nowadays!

I would not have been muttering quietly,I would have walked up to you and told you I didn’t want to see your tits! Nothing about my telling you would be discreet either.You wouldn’t be doing it again that’s for sure.

Dickhead 🤦. Can't believe that people like you are allowed to vote.

DrSeuss · 21/02/2024 21:24

Presumably, they would rather have spent the time trying to make conversation over the screams of a hungry baby?

Unless you affixed a tassel to the other boo b and danced for them, they can duck off!

Ponoka7 · 22/02/2024 00:00

Millie890 · 21/02/2024 19:44

Oh shut up 🙄

No, although it obviously applies to you, its taken you eight months to reply 😂

Millie890 · 22/02/2024 09:26

Ponoka7 · 22/02/2024 00:00

No, although it obviously applies to you, its taken you eight months to reply 😂

Well no, it's still a recent post as people were commenting on it last night. You've made a pointless woke comment about how people shouldn't use the word Moron...yet here you are calling me one? Intelligent...

takealettermsjones · 22/02/2024 09:45

LadyWiddiothethird · 21/02/2024 21:18

I breastfed for 3 years and never once whilst out and about did I feed any of my babies without using a cover up of some sort! What is wrong with Mothers nowadays!

I would not have been muttering quietly,I would have walked up to you and told you I didn’t want to see your tits! Nothing about my telling you would be discreet either.You wouldn’t be doing it again that’s for sure.

You wouldn’t be doing it again that’s for sure.

Quite apart from the breathtaking arrogance, you're dead wrong. I'd happily get my other tit out just to annoy you.

If you don't want to see breastfeeding women's tits... don't look. That was easy, wasn't it?!

Ponoka7 · 22/02/2024 10:16

Millie890 · 22/02/2024 09:26

Well no, it's still a recent post as people were commenting on it last night. You've made a pointless woke comment about how people shouldn't use the word Moron...yet here you are calling me one? Intelligent...

Edited

Do you still use retard? Are you in the UK? I think language matters, yes. To you it doesn't, carry on with using discriminatory language. I'll carry on explaining why it shouldn't still be used. Do you agree with racism? That's were woke sprang from.

Member869894 · 22/02/2024 10:22

I don't know know where these women are. I breastfed my three anywhere and everywhere 20 years ago and never once had anything but the occasional nod of encouragement from men and women . Sounds like you handled it very well

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