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Who was BU here

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knicknackkarriewhack · 04/06/2023 16:09

Sorry this is long. Was in a (chain) pizza takeaway and witnessed this. Customer probably in her sixties came in with an assistance dog, clearly wearing identification as such. Dog extremely well behaved. Didn’t hear her give it any commands, it never took it eyes off her, sat when she stopped, was glued to her side when she moved. It obviously was well trained and knew its role. She ordered from the young lad and stood at counter. Then an employee approached and she quite aggressively said dogs weren’t allowed. Customer answered it’s an assistance dog. Employee said it’s not allowed. Customer said under the equalities act 2010, the dog is classed as an auxiliary aid, and offered proof. Employee declined proof and moved away. Then about two mins later employee came back and said seen as you think you’re allowed in here can you move over there. Customer said sure and moved. She sat on a bench, dog immediately sat beside her. Employee then came out into the shop and started shouting at the customer and told her that she was being offensive by coming into the shop, and wasn’t allowed. Customer kept her composure and said I don’t know why you’re shouting at me, employee said because of the dog. Customer said I only have the dog because of my disability, so you’re shouting because I’m disabled. Employee then said you’re not effing disabled. Customer replied thank you I’ll take that as a compliment, it taken me 5 years to learn to walk after spinal injury, and are you aware that neurological disabilities aren’t visible. Employee was very intimidating and kept shouting at her to leave, customer refused. Who was BU , the employee for shouting or the customer for not leaving when asked. To be honest I was so impressed by dogs behaviour and how the customer kept her cool. Customer collected her order thanked the young lad for being polite and left. I did see her wiping her eyes as she passed the window. It was all very unpleasant and unnecessary. Imagine being treated like that just trying to buy a pizza.

OP posts:
Growlybear83 · 04/06/2023 16:12

The employee behaved outrageously and the customer was extremely brave standing her ground the way she did. It's sad that it sounds like none of the other customers spoke up and supported her.

ForensicFlossy · 04/06/2023 16:12

You watched all of that and didn't step in?

Createausername1970 · 04/06/2023 16:12

The employee was being very unreasonable in my opinion and I would hope as you witnessed it first hand you would report it on their website.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 04/06/2023 16:12

And you sat and watched that instead of assisting the lady? It’s not enough to think oh that’s awful it shouldn’t be allowed-you should have stepped in.

KetoQueen · 04/06/2023 16:13

Shame on everybody present I think

there’s no way I’d let that go on

Ponderingwindow · 04/06/2023 16:14

Why would a customer standing up for her rights be unreasonable?

TTCNumberThreeUK · 04/06/2023 16:14

I can't imagine seeing someone endure such discrimination and abuse and NOT stepping in. Absolutely disgusting.

ColdHandsHotHead · 04/06/2023 16:15

Did nobody stick up for her?

2chocolateoranges · 04/06/2023 16:16

The staff member was being unreasonable, I would have stepped in and backed the customer in that situation,

Staff member needs training regarding customers with disabilities and their rights aswell as better communication skills

WhenImSixtyFour · 04/06/2023 16:16

I can not believe no one told the employee they were wrong.
Why are you even asking the question? Why aren’t you aware the employee was in the wrong?

I’d have stepped in and I would have left a shitty review detailing their behaviour.

Thesunwillcomeoutverysoon · 04/06/2023 16:16

I hope you also reported the member of staff op?

PaigeMatthews · 04/06/2023 16:16

Createausername1970 · 04/06/2023 16:12

The employee was being very unreasonable in my opinion and I would hope as you witnessed it first hand you would report it on their website.

This.

and i can easily believe people sat and watch that without saying a word.

funinthesun19 · 04/06/2023 16:19

I think it’s very very obvious who was being unreasonable. And I can’t believe nobody stepped in and stuck up for her.

He sounds like another loony takeaway employee like that Starbucks one from a few weeks ago.

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 04/06/2023 16:20

The store employees are so unreasonable they don't actually deserve to be in that job! Put a complaint in to head office on this poor woman's behalf as she may be so fed up with arseholes like this she doesn't have the mental space to do it yet again.

The staff at minimum need full training, I would like to see them sacked though for their ignorance.

EllaPaella · 04/06/2023 16:21

Why didn't you step in? I can't believe anyone would sit there and witness that and not step up to defend the poor customer.

HowcanIgetoutofthisalive · 04/06/2023 16:21

What the lady with the assistance dog said was correct. The employee was massively out of order and extremely rude and offensive. That poor lady!

Personally, I'd have told the employee to wind her bloody neck in and get educated about assistance animals as this will likely happen again during her working life.

And I'd be writing to the company owners to complain about that awful employee and leaving an appropriate review on their website/FB page.

Honestly, that's shocking behaviour 😳

parietal · 04/06/2023 16:21

Shouting employee should be sacked. Customer should get a massive apology

AllAboutTheTent · 04/06/2023 16:22

ForensicFlossy · 04/06/2023 16:12

You watched all of that and didn't step in?

Exactly what I was going to say. No way would I have spent money in that store. I'd be complaining to their head office. Totally unacceptable, disgusting behaviour.

Maddy70 · 04/06/2023 16:22

Another one who can't believe you just witnessed this harassment of a disabled person and didn't step in. !

Please write to head office and report what you saw

ClarissaExplainsSome · 04/06/2023 16:24

Surely you're not expecting anyone to say that someone other than the employee was BU if it happened like you said?

Also wondering how you didn't step in...

NewPinkJacket · 04/06/2023 16:24

I'm sorry but AIBU gets more and more ridiculous with every passing day.

Why on earth are you asking "Who was BU here?"

Ridiculous.

NewPinkJacket · 04/06/2023 16:26

And which 'chain pizza takeaway' was it, just out of interest?

Purplecatshopaholic · 04/06/2023 16:26

So you saw this and did nothing? Apart from post here! And no one else did anything either? Jeezo, I despair sometimes.

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 04/06/2023 16:26

The member of staff was awful, please tell me you said something otherwise you are an asshole

Servalan · 04/06/2023 16:26

OP - are you in fact the disabled person with the assistance dog but distancing yourself from that role in case you got backlash on here? If not, did you or anyone else stick up for them?