We’re eloping anyway so the wedding itself isn’t an issue. I’d love a hen do but I only have two ‘real’ friends, both live too far away and then I have a several more people that I vaguely know / have lost touch with, I would say we’re loosely friends but not close enough to invite to something like that especially where they won’t know anyone else but me. Minor thing in the grand scheme of things but I feel a bit deflated, hopefully you only marry once so it would be nice to have a special build up
AIBU?
Embarrassed I don’t have enough friends to have a hen do
taratatata · 02/06/2023 16:49
Am I being unreasonable?
279 votes. Final results.
POLLBodegaSushi · 02/06/2023 17:27
I agree with this 💁🏽♀️
How people can find a partner but not a friend is a mystery to me
Successstory82 · 02/06/2023 16:51
Not minor in my opinion. My friends mean the world to me.
Why have you not developed friendships?
taratatata · 02/06/2023 16:52
I do have friends, 2 very close (but live far away and have busy lives) and another three or four, all of whom don’t know one another. I know them individually well enough to go out for lunch and so on but I don’t have an established group and I feel it would be awkward bringing different characters together.
Successstory82 · 02/06/2023 16:51
Not minor in my opinion. My friends mean the world to me.
Why have you not developed friendships?
ArabeIIaScott · 02/06/2023 19:33
Successstory82's post is a reasonable question, given the OP has felt moved to make a post about her lack of friends!
There is no set way to do these things, OP. You can do what you please, have no hen night, just have your two best pals, have a mix of random people you've met in the pub, have it on blooming zoom, etc. It really doesn't matter, so long as you are looking forward to it and feeling good about getting married.
I'm wondering why you don't seem as happy as you could be about your upcoming wedding?
I'm going to be blunt: Why elope? Are you feeling isolated? Is everything okay?
taratatata · 02/06/2023 20:03
Thank you everyone for your helpful comments! I worry everyone would have a rubbish time but you’ve helped me to see it’s probably expected by them that they won’t know everyone, so on the basis of that I might do a lovely meal with some drinks and hope everyone can attend.
Successstory82 · 02/06/2023 16:51
Not minor in my opinion. My friends mean the world to me.
Why have you not developed friendships?
Successstory82 · 02/06/2023 16:51
Not minor in my opinion. My friends mean the world to me.
Why have you not developed friendships?
Successstory82 · 02/06/2023 17:01
Good heavens
trying to find out whether op knows why in order to tailor advise / response… has flared some people!
and I don’t think it’s minor and nor does the op so I wasn’t dismissing as such
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