We’re eloping anyway so the wedding itself isn’t an issue. I’d love a hen do but I only have two ‘real’ friends, both live too far away and then I have a several more people that I vaguely know / have lost touch with, I would say we’re loosely friends but not close enough to invite to something like that especially where they won’t know anyone else but me. Minor thing in the grand scheme of things but I feel a bit deflated, hopefully you only marry once so it would be nice to have a special build up
AIBU?
Embarrassed I don’t have enough friends to have a hen do
taratatata · 02/06/2023 16:49
Am I being unreasonable?
279 votes. Final results.
POLLSuccessstory82 · 02/06/2023 17:01
Good heavens
trying to find out whether op knows why in order to tailor advise / response… has flared some people!
and I don’t think it’s minor and nor does the op so I wasn’t dismissing as such
Successstory82 · 02/06/2023 16:51
Not minor in my opinion. My friends mean the world to me.
Why have you not developed friendships?
Sunnyfeelgood · 02/06/2023 16:53
I once was invited to the hen do of a woman I vaguely knew at work. I was a bit surprised, but her husband had heard her say my name at home and he shared she didn't have a lot of close friends. She seemed perfectly nice, so I went along (wasnt a huge expense). We are now best mates! She had 2 close friends and a few randoms like me. It was a great night out. Invite the loose friends! The worst thing they can do is day they are busy.
This is not to devalidate how you are feeling. Big experiences like this make us evaluate our lives. But I wonder if your situation is all that unusual? It is hard to hang on to close friends the older you get, a lot of our lives are made up of the not so close day to day people.
Oysterbabe · 02/06/2023 17:11
I think it's weird to have a hen do at all if you're eloping and they're not actually coming to the wedding.
ssd · 02/06/2023 16:52
Och, don't be embarrassed. You've met someone special you want to marry, thats brilliant.
GeriKellmansUpdo · 02/06/2023 17:22
I wouldn't mind being invited to a hen do where I didn't know anyone else. I would just make polite chit chat and maybe make friends. Just invite them.
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