Kid has no filter when it comes to wanting and requesting stuff

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Took my DD11 into town. Within the space of about 3 hours I was asked if she could have Pizza Express, subway, fish and chips, bubble tea, a trip to the American sweetshop, something from some random gift shop, ice cream, bubble tea again, something else from same random shop, mobile phone data...and those are the things I can remember.
All requests denied apart from lunch at pizza Express as that was what the whole family agreed on and an ice cream later at the park.
Kids have had a good half term, they are definitely not lacking but I am also cautious to not give in to every request. I am just so sick of being asked and asked and asked for more stuff. I constantly say no but the fact that I say no does not mean this stops any further requests.

In the end I said look- do you know what you have asked me for in the last few hours and listed it all off, to which she was very defensive and said I need to stop making her feel guilty and that I am always making her feel she is in the wrong. I said that she is not wrong to want things per se, that its natural, but it would be nice if she could think about the bigger picture sometimes. Like, if you've just inhaled an ice cream perhaps asking for a bubble tea straight after is not a good idea.

Aibu to point out the constant nagging for crap?

I totally agree with the pocket money thing.
As you're away for a day or two, maybe you could give her an extra few £s so she can buy the bubble tea or whatever, but I'd stipulate that once it's gone, it's gone, so don't bother asking for more.
From the age of 10, my son had £60/month allowance (he's now 27). It wasn't just pocket money per se, he bought computer games and his own (non-school) clothes from it to because he'd ask for a £40+ game every week when we were out at Tesco and constantly ask me for 'labels' when I was buying him clothes, so as a single parent, I decided to give him some responsibility and autonomy. He soon realised that his £60 needed to last all month, so a computer game would generally wait until he saw one in a sale or if he'd got enough money at the end of the month. He also realised that he was growing out of his clothes quite quickly, so a pair of £10 Tesco jeans and a £3 tee-shirt did exactly the same job as £50 and £20 'labelled' items.
Yes, he tried it on by not taking money out when we went shopping but I said I'd lend him money until we got home, and I made him pay up, not always the full amount he'd spent, but he knew he had to pay me.
Now, as I said above, he's 27. He does buy 'labels', but he looks for sales and voucher codes, he's really good with his money, and I pride myself in the knowledge that his (relatively) early introduction to a degree of financial responsibility definitely gave him the correct building blocks for a more informed financial future.

No chia and carob seed bars, orzo, oolong tea or shopping at Waitrose here. Just a desire that my DC aren’t selfish, self centred materialistic Veruca Salt types who only think about themselves. Constantly saying ‘I want, I want’.
Please elaborate on your successful strategies to assist and inculcate the value of money rather than sarcastic comments and assumptions.

I think how you answer these requests is key. If I was told I couldn’t have both as it would make me feel sick, I would think both were options if it wasn’t going to make me feel sick. Say what’s happening and make the terms clear. Today we are going to Pizza Express then you may choose one afternoon snack-you can use your pocket money if you would then like something else. Clear terms, and stick to them.

I also wonder if she's wanting connection and conversation with you and to share her excitement at all the cool stuff in the mall and she's not sure how else to do it- talking about the shops and cafes she sees it quite and easy way to start a convo.

Why don't you say, 'not today' re subway but then ask 'what do you like to eat in subway, have yog been there before? What are the best sauces?' Etc so she can still get that connection.

Yuk, tapioca, one of very few things I can’t stand 🤢