To want a flashy car to fit in?

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I currently have a small- medium sized EV. Not a premium or anything. Really could do with a longer range EV or go back to ICE. (We no longer fly so holidays are exclusively drive and EV is a bit tricky - current range is 120 miles but on motorway get less than 100) Also have 3 DC and two large dogs so it’s hard to fit in current one.

We live in an area where cars do matter. There’s a lot of premium brands in our area, on school runs etc. I would like to be seen in a big beautiful car (just being honest here because I can on MN!) however I like the fact that my EV is better for the environment. We can afford a big LR Discovery and it would be easier for the kids etc BUT should I really just buy one to fit in?

Lots of mums who lunch/ swishy hair/ large premium SUVs in my area. I work, and drive a small car. I can’t help feeling that I’d fit in a bit more (and, yes, find it easier to make friends) if I had the ‘right’ car.

Please be kind, as I’m just being honest and seeing what people think..

A bet all these other cars are just leased...

This is the weirdest thing for an adult to write.

Do you also think that people are "lieing" [sic] to themselves if they say they don't like a food that you like? I wonder if it is a general inability to understand that other people are not all you, or if it is restricted to a fixation with motor vehicles.

Children usually know that they are different from other people and have different likes/dislikes from others (early stages of theory of mind) at age two. I hope you get there soon.

My swishy car is on PCP, but what’s wrong with that? I hope you’re not making a judgement …

Well, when you realise they don't even own their cars, it gives you a better perspective!!

Reading comprehension and critical thinking clearly aren't your strong suits are they?

Maybe a visual form of social media will be a better fit for you! One with short clips that only give you a snapshot of content without much depth, that would be a perfect match!

Reality25, whereas your 'critical thinking' is top notch?

I very much doubt any of my friends would suddenly acquire a Ferrari but if they did tbh I probably wouldn't know that I was looking a Ferrari; to me a car is something that gets you from A to B, preferably in some level of comfort, however, that's as far as I care about them.

If a very close friend did turn up in a Ferrari though, I'd probably just say something like 'fancy car' and leave it that. I certainly wouldn't start asking loads of details about it. And if the person was just an acquaintance I probably wouldn't say anything.

I certainly wouldn't start making judgements about the car or the person. And I most definitely wouldn't think, 'ooh an expensive car I want this person to be my new best friend.'

In the same way, if someone I knew, be it a friend or acquaintance, turned up at my house in a beaten up old car I wouldn't make a comment or judge them on the age or state of their car, as frankly I really can't get that invested in what anyone drives, or how much money they have, come to that.

So thank you for the very kind definition of 'judgement' but I really wouldn't be moved to make any sort of judgement about anyone's car.

Some years ago I remember my exh going on at great length and with great enthusiasm about the very expensive car one of his friends has just purchased and all the latest gadget it had.

Lovely for him (the friend) and I'm sure he got a lot of pleasure from it but the guy was, and always had been, an arrogant knob. His possession of a pricey, fancy car wasn't going to make me feel any more tolerant towards him, let alone want to be his friend.

Ok, this is definitely a bot.

Yep. Certainly reads like it.

If @Reality25 is a bot then all my AI fears have been eradicated in just a few posts. Clearly a long way to go before they can actually imitate an actual living human. Or spell correctly.

I literally cannot relate to this at all. Round here we all drive old bangers and no one gives a shit. Thank god, that sounds like so much pressure.

Often the most sensible way, especially in the past few years with low or even zero rate PCPs. You’d have to be a complete moron to drop £50k or £100k of your capital on a car when it can earn more than your PCP is costing you.

PCP numbers generally work out similar to HP. It's for people who can't afford to buy a flashy new car.

This 👆

Upgrade to an EV with a greater range, ours does 300miles and yes we drive abroad, plenty of infrastructure to charge on journeys now. The SUV brigade don’t give a shit about the environment and I would stick to those people who aren’t so shallow as to judge you purely by what you’re driving. In my experience most of these women who gaze down from their SUVs aren’t the most happy in the world.