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Original poster

To be pissed of with this re sleeping arrangements?

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shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 22:20

I'm going to a friends hen do at the end of June. I have known this friend since I was at secondary school so we have developed different friends over the years so I'm only vaguely familiar with the other ladies going. The maid of honour has done all the booking and is now asking for the money for the accommodation she's booked except she's sent link to the air bnb she has booked and it's only got three bedrooms and three double beds for seven people. I questioned this if she had made a mistake or are we supposed to be sharing beds and she said yes. Aibu to not want to share a bed with a virtual stranger? Would you pay up or back out? I feel like I've been put in a difficult position now as if I don't pay the others price will go up so I can't even find my own accommodation. I honestly feel sick.

OP posts:
Doggymummar · 26/05/2023 22:21

I wouldn't share.

Thesunwillcomeoutverysoon · 26/05/2023 22:22

I would back out...
And don't feel bad.

Original poster
shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 22:22

I'm paying 200 pound to share a fucking bed .

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IhateJan22 · 26/05/2023 22:22

No way!

SweetStrawberrie · 26/05/2023 22:22

oh absolutely not

Hoardasurass · 26/05/2023 22:22

Assuming 2 to a bed what happens to the 7th person as there's only 3 beds?

SallyWD · 26/05/2023 22:22

I couldn't do that.

Cookiemonstersnana · 26/05/2023 22:22

Whe

LadyH846 · 26/05/2023 22:23

I would say no I'm not comfortable with sharing a bed. She should have asked you first.

bluechameleon · 26/05/2023 22:23

I would not want to share a bed with a friend, let alone someone I barely know. I'd drop out if it were me.

Cookiemonstersnana · 26/05/2023 22:23

Where is the 7th person sleeping

Beamur · 26/05/2023 22:23

YANBU. I wouldn't share a bed even with close friends. Tell her it's not acceptable - sorry.

SchoolShenanigans · 26/05/2023 22:24

I wouldn't share a bed. I'd feel uncomfortable sharing a room let alone a bed.

Where's the 7th person going to sleep? Can you sleep on the sofa?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 26/05/2023 22:24

Are the beds zip and link? Where does number 7 sleep?

bluebeck · 26/05/2023 22:24

Would you share with your friend? Is the 7th person sleeping on sofa? I would prefer that probably.

I wouldn’t share a bed with a stranger.

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shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 22:24

I don't even know where the 7th person is going to sleep 😬

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Missingmyusername · 26/05/2023 22:25

Three in one of the beds then? It wouldn’t bother me for one night, I wouldn’t sleep anyway, I’d sit in a chair. Will you be drinking all day/ night? How much actual sleep would be had…

But it’s your choice, I think it’s understandable that people wouldn’t fancy sharing a bed. She should have clarified before booking.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 26/05/2023 22:25

Maybe as you only really know the bride, the plan was for you and Bride to share? Worth checking.

PickNewName · 26/05/2023 22:25

I would back out

determinedtomakethiswork · 26/05/2023 22:26

One thing you do know, the person booking as it's not going to be the seventh person without a bed. I wouldn't go. It will make it easier for everyone in the end if there are any six going because they're only six spaces.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 26/05/2023 22:26

Tbh I'm well in the thick of work and young kids so I'd pay £200 for a weekend off even if meant sleeping in a lawn chair.

But I get it, it's not something most people would want - sharing a bed with a near stranger.

Clipboard007 · 26/05/2023 22:27

No way, I don't even want to share a bedroom with friends these days let alone a bed.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 26/05/2023 22:27

There's very few people I'd share a bed with.

She needs to confirm the sleeping arrangements fully. I can't imagine that everyone in the group is willing to share.

It's not your issue if the costs go up. You're not the person who booked half as many beds as needed.

Original poster
shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 22:28

It also says six people maximum, I think she's made a big error here but it also may give me the perfect opportunity to back out. It's 2 nights as well.

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goingtotown · 26/05/2023 22:30

I wouldn't share with anyone you're not teenagers. I doubt the others will be happy sharing,