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To be pissed of with this re sleeping arrangements?

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shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 22:20

I'm going to a friends hen do at the end of June. I have known this friend since I was at secondary school so we have developed different friends over the years so I'm only vaguely familiar with the other ladies going. The maid of honour has done all the booking and is now asking for the money for the accommodation she's booked except she's sent link to the air bnb she has booked and it's only got three bedrooms and three double beds for seven people. I questioned this if she had made a mistake or are we supposed to be sharing beds and she said yes. Aibu to not want to share a bed with a virtual stranger? Would you pay up or back out? I feel like I've been put in a difficult position now as if I don't pay the others price will go up so I can't even find my own accommodation. I honestly feel sick.

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caringcarer · 26/05/2023 22:38

SchoolShenanigans · 26/05/2023 22:24

I wouldn't share a bed. I'd feel uncomfortable sharing a room let alone a bed.

Where's the 7th person going to sleep? Can you sleep on the sofa?

This, I'd pull out.

Esjolaol1973 · 26/05/2023 22:41

Nope .I will only share my bed with grandchild and my dog !

Clementinesucks · 26/05/2023 22:44

I’d write back to the group chat saying “there are seven of us going and three double beds. I’m very confused as at no point did you mention sharing beds but even then you are short a bed?” See what she says.

username98765 · 26/05/2023 22:45

I'm more than happy to share a bed with a friend but no way with someone I don't know! I would back out or at least question it and say you aren't comfortable with it.

Cookiemonstersnana · 26/05/2023 22:46

I'm sure there is another bed and she has bagged that.

Otherland · 26/05/2023 22:47

Absolutely no way. This is on the moh.

OneLittleFinger · 26/05/2023 22:51

Did you question this in the group chat or privately? And does the bride know this is the case?

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shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 22:55

I've just questioned it on the group chat as the accommodation says a maximum of six people so she's actually breaking the rules. I have just pointed this out that one of us may not actually get in.

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TheCreamTeaWasFromMe · 26/05/2023 22:57

Absolutely no way.

Send a note to the group chat.

The accommodation does not appear to have enough beds for everyone going. Is there a plan to sort this? Appreciate if you can let me know ASAP as I'd like to know what's happening before I settle up. Thanks.

If you get some crap back about bed sharing then I'd respond and say no thanks, I don't want to share a bed so will bow out, hope you all have a good time.

CC4712 · 26/05/2023 22:57

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. The BM I'd never met organised everything, it was implied beforehand that we each had a bed, but were sharing rooms. Not ideal, but I went along. In hindsight, I should have asked more questions.

At the end of the night- it became apparent it was 3 girls to a bed!!! 2 beds per room- so 6 to a room! I slept on the floor because A) I knew no one other than my friend who was in the other room and B) I thought I might roll off the bed in the night.

I paid a ridiculous amount to park at this inner city hotel, plus the 'share' of the room charge the BM told me I owed! To this day, I'm sure I paid over the odds for my share of the room!

In your shoes OP, I would politely decline ASAP. Take your friend on your own night out or be honest with her.

BrieAndChilli · 26/05/2023 22:58

Also if she’s planning on someone sleeping on the sofa I doubt there will be enough bedding

Newspeaker · 26/05/2023 23:01

Be the first to solve the problem. Drop out now and there will only be 6 of them. Like hell would I pay for accommodation booked without checking sleeping arrangements with me first.

RampantIvy · 26/05/2023 23:03

I wouldn't go.

Borris · 26/05/2023 23:04

I’d share a double with a good friend but not a stranger, nor 3 to a bed.

Berlinlover · 26/05/2023 23:04

No way would I share a bed.

GrandTheftWalrus · 26/05/2023 23:05

Nope wouldn't be sharing a bed.

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shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 23:06

None of us really know each other it's just a collection of friends from different places, so awkward!

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shestakingtheurine · 26/05/2023 23:07

She keeps going on about ordering fucking matching pyjamas and I'm like erm we haven't even all got somewhere to sleep!

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Tailfeather · 26/05/2023 23:08

I wouldn't even share a double with a close friend. Maybe when I was 14!

Pixiedust1234 · 26/05/2023 23:08

I wouldn't share a bed with one person, let alone two.

I would back out.

Blossomtoes · 26/05/2023 23:10

I’d be happy to share with one of my friends. Nobody else. I’d tell her you’ll arrange your own accommodation as the place she’s booking isn’t big enough.

LouReidPark · 26/05/2023 23:14

I wouldn't like this either and I don't think many people would. I would be fine to share a room with someone but definitely not a bed!

Doggydarling · 26/05/2023 23:14

Yuck, couldn't do that. I'd think bad of sharing a room never mind a bed, wouldn't share a room with a stranger, gone way beyond those days. Matching pjs, shure why not just get three pair and share those as well??? Back out, have a dinner out with the bride before the wedding instead

Ellie56 · 26/05/2023 23:21

Nope nope nope. I wouldn't be sharing a room, never mind a bed.

CornishTiger · 26/05/2023 23:22

Firm no from me!