To think a lot of accidental pregnancies are actually planned without their partner knowing?

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I hear of so many contraceptive failures, especially when the man is dragging his feet in regards to ttc, that it makes me wonder if they're not so accidental after all.

Lots of women worrying about their body clock, wanting a specific age gap between their DC, wanting a baby with a new partner etc

How common do we think it is? Has anyone done it or known anyone to?

Obviously there's always the chance of a man taking a condom off without the woman's knowledge/faking a vasectomy, but I think that is a lot less common.

Sidenote: I appreciate a lot of pregnancies ARE an accident, I'm just curious about those who say it was an accident when in fact there was one partner ttc without the other knowing

I have differing views in this subject. I know of one friend who absolutely lied she was on the pill because she wanted a baby with her then partner. He ended up finding out, absolutely didnt want a baby and although they lived as neighbours (few flats away) he has nothing to do with his son. Still doesn't and that baby is now 21. They were teenagers though she was 16 when she did this. I think both parties are absolutely at fault here but they were young.

I have had an accidentally pregnancy. I wad on the pill, knew I had had a dodgy stomach so took the Map within 24 hours. My beautiful accident is now 16 but I wax horrified that 2 methods could fail so badly.
My second child was planned, fell within 4 weeks of stopping the pill. My last child came as another accident from the cross over from one pill to another despite doing all the right steps.

I also have had friends who were 'surprised' they fell pregnant despite not not trying. I.e not using contraception.

My current partner has an 19 year old daughter who he was very much 'baby trapped'. One night stand, used condoms provided by her. Few year down the line admitted they had been tampered with and he was the unlucky guy( there were a few who were potentially the dad) who had knocked her up. He has literally just stopped paying child support for a child she wouldn't let him even see. This was a career move for her, she did the same thing with another unsuspecting man about 8 years later so she didn't have to work. Despicable.

I have two friends who admitted to me drunk that they told they’d husbands they were on the pill, didn’t want more kids when they secretly did and had stopped taking it.

Of course the husbands (who didn’t want more kids) should’ve used protection, especially as they were the sole provider in each case, but the deception just blew my mind. I told them so and they just said they wanted another baby so shrug.

I think it’s more common than people think, unfortunately, because of the biological urge.