To have left this situation?

[Hollibobsmadness]

I’ve come to see a friend in Aus.

Left my husband behind with the kids for what was supposed to be a really fab girls trip that we’ve been planning for months.

At the last min, my friend told me another woman would be joining too. Totally fine for me, I get on with pretty much everyone.

I arrived and my friend has one single bed and one blow up single mattress (she just moved in) between the three of us. I had to spend the first night literally spooning with a strange woman in a single bed.

My friend (who I’ve come to visit) has met a man and has spend a lot of the trip locked up in her room with him.

The other woman is really hard work. I’m the most easy going person on the planet but I spent 2 hours in a single bed with her, while she showed me every photo on her phone.

After a night of literally no sleep, I’ve booked a hotel and gone there.

I haven’t even seen my friend to tell her as she’s been hidden away with this man (very noisily too, which was funny at first but in the end was quite gross).

All my belongings are in my friend’s room with her and this man.

I’ve come to this hotel in my pyjamas with nothing but my handbag.

I am the least confrontational person ever and so so easy going (even in this situation I’m not that annoyed, just tired).

I’ve booked the hotel for the rest of the trip. I don’t want to share a single bed with a stranger. I am 42 and I earn great money. I can afford a hotel.

I’m not sure what will happen when my friend finally emerges from her room though. She’s going to be offended, I’m sure. And there’s going to be an awkward conversation.

Am I being fussy/princessy? I am just utterly exhausted.

I think you sound great, and I'm going to try to take a leaf out of your book in my future dealings with crazies 😁. Enjoy your sleep, I'd say the hotel bed feels amazing!

Glad you got your stuff back!

I want to be as laid back as you, OP! Can anyone learn how?

I'm glad your friend had the decency to look worried -she's made some pretty shitty choices and at least she might seem to realise. You did the right thing not making a scene at the time. I'd say she was pushing it at adding a random stranger to your trip in the first place (I'd have been a bit 🙄at that) but the addition of the new shag joining you on trips etc as well as the noisy all night sex while you were stuck on a shitty single bed with a stranger you dont really like would have me steaming angry. Stepping away to take the edge off was the best way to handle it, now at least you can have the discussion when rested.
I really do hope you manage to salvage the holiday and enjoy the remainder. Probably will be a lot easier now you can step away into your own space.

Omg - this is horrendous and funny all at the same time. Sorry OP but you sound bloody fantastic. If I were you, I would bail and go for a trip of a lifetime around Aus and bail out of that friendship!

Yep!
Who wants to fly across the world just to have to hear a friend having sex. Fuck that.
I had to spend the first night literally spooning with a strange woman in a single bed.

That is gross too.

You will have a fantastic time OP. I've travelled loads alone. Beats putting up with weirdo selfish fuckwits.

I don’t understand why you didn’t bang on the door and get your stuff though……..

I think you're dealing with this brilliantly, OP.
You're cheerfully looking out for yourself in a sub-ideal situation while not blowing an outraged gasket.

Your friend sounds a bit unhinged. You’ve travelled halfway round the world to visit her and she hasn’t even organised a bed for you and is having a fling with a random guy instead of spending quality time with you.

And the sex thing?? Just Ewwwww 🙈

Go back and get your stuff, tell her that you didn't realise there weren't beds for everyone so you've checked into x hotel as you want a bed.

Tell her to give you a call when she's free for a catch up.

I think you made the right choice, enjoy your sleep

I can't believe you spent a night spooning a stranger but wouldn't knock on your friends bedroom door to get your stuff and even left before doing so. That's really fucking weird.

Which city are you in? Some of us on the Aus board could give you some pointers if things to do/ places to see so your trip is t a complete waste of time. If you're in Melbourne as an expat I'm happy to give you some suggestions!!!

I’ve had similar experience, but at least I was in a room with my son. It was hellish because of the interloper bloke - who I strongly suspect was a paedo - but at least I was only a couple of hours away from home not half a world a way.

Your friend sounds incredibly selfish.
I'm all for having fun after a few drinks and am no stranger to locking myself in a room with a random bloke but she's practically abandoned you.
Well done for getting a hotel! Go and catch up on some sleep.

I would sack off the friend and travel on my own in Aus.

You are dealing with this brilliantly @Hollibobsmadness!!! I don't think I'd have taken it as well if I'd flown all that way.

I've a friend in Oz and would be wary of going to see her, as, much as I love her, the chances of her having moved by the time I got there would be too high lol.

She and my other BFF came to visit not long after I'd had a baby. The pair of them fucked off out on the pull - one of them actually met her DH that night!!

I'm stunned what people class as friendship. Stunned. How badly do people have to be treated before they're willing to consider that someone who treats you like shit might not be much of a friend?

This!!

Your 'friend' sounds completely flakey and at that age she should have sorted her sh*t out!

I'm so sorry you've traveled across the world to realise this. My advice is to leave and spend the rest of your holiday doing your own thing. You'll probably have an amazing time, well rested from family stuff and ready to return home when the time comes.

She's not your friend.

I'm surprised that your friend didn't getter better sleeping arrangements organised before you turned up, for a trip you'd be planning for months!

Can I be you when I grow up?

How rude why bother inviting either of you at all?

Missing the point of the thread, but why on earth didn't you buy yourself a cheap air mattress and sleeping bag of your own on the first day when you didnt want to spoon a stranger?!

OP, I'm with @MzHz - let us know if you need tips of things to do / places to go. Hopefully some of us in Aus can help out with suggestions.
For what it's worth I think you're handling this wonderfully! I hope you still manage to have a wonderful time - it's a long way and expensive flight (and usually uses up a lot of the year's leave as it's rarely a quick trip) to not have fun. Good on you for making it still work for you.

A number of posters have said they'd laugh this off. I definitely wouldn't.

You've taken time off, paid for tickets around the world to spend time with her. And she's locked away with a bloke rather than spending time with you.

What kind of friend does that?

Totally disrespectful!

I wouldn't even let her know what hotel you've checked into. I'd enjoy your holiday on your own and leave without saying goodbye!

I'd be fuming at my friend! YANBU. Can't believe she ditched you for a man, let alone made you listen to it, gross. Not to mention being stuck in a room with the other friend. Unbelievable 😖