DH has RAN AWAY in foreign country.

[Greekrunaway23]

Away with our DC’s, I appreciate the need for downtime but every night I’ve sat alone in silence whilst he watches films.

Tonight i broached this and said I just felt really flat and lonely after 12 days of this, still 2 to go. He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful and said I really wasn’t starting an argument, I just wanted to chat of an evening. He kept on repeating that I can speak to him whenever I like, and I explained it would be nice to feel as if I wasn’t disturbing him and him to initiate conversation.

Then he ran away, it’s 12.32am here he’s gone. It’s really rough weather here tonight too and I’m scared. He hasn’t got a key as the fob for the electric is welded onto the key so I have no idea what to do.

aibu to phone the Greek police?

Sorry, I’m sure I do sound pathetic. But I’m nervous in a country I don’t know well with two small children, let alone with a husband gone walkabouts. I’m not going to be able to sleep knowing he’s locked out.

Just doze then. If its quite warm he'll be fine. And 2 hours isn't that long, maybe he had some food out.

It sounds as though he is doing it to punish you which is a pathetic and controlling thing to do. Try to sleep or at least rest as there is little that could be done.

I don’t blame you one bit for worrying, two hours is a long time in a foreign country in the middle of the night for someone who hasn’t got form. I hope he cools down and turns up apologetic. And you are then able to talk this through in the morning.

Do you think he might have gone to the bar to pull? I don't think the police can help yet im afraid. I'm so sorry.

*He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful*
He told you that he didn't want drama and you pulled the waterworks?

You are in a perfectly safe country. You don’t need to worry about your safety, however a man who gives you the silent treatment is a man who is abusing you. The walking off is controlling you.

it’s no relationship for you to sit in silence every night and his response is basically just odd! I think you need to leave him!

Make yourself a cup of tea. Watch a film and hopefully you’ll drift off to sleep. He’s gone off for a wonder. That’s his choice, let him crack on. If he’s not got any underlying mh issues I wouldn’t worry

Ok, but there really is nothing to be nervous about, Greece is safe,. It's a hotel/apartment your not any less safe than you were before he stropped off. He's not suddenly vulnerable to robbery adult etc because he's been a dick/you're in Greece. Honestly, it's unpleasant because hes an arse but you're not at risk.

He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful
He told you that he didn't want drama and you pulled the waterworks?

Are you ops dh? This is a dickish thing to say.

I'd go to sleep and not let him back in.
He sounds like an inconsiderate arsehole!

No, i am just an anti drama llama .

Yeah go to sleep and leave him to it; he’s a dick

Well said Elvis!

Yes unless he has mh issues I would go to bed.

I’m sorry you’re going through this OP. It’s something I can imagine my husband doing. I hope you manage not to worry too much. I’m sure he will be absolutely fine.

Wow, you're just so cool 🙄

Someone crying isn't "pulling the waterworks" unless it's something they do all the time. It's simply the bodies reaction to feeling sad and stressed. Don't make out like it's something contrived.

Is he definitely gone out and not just gone to bed or hiding somewhere?

He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

Sounds like he should start living alone as soon as you get back to the UK, honestly. What a twat. He is probably sitting at the end of the road hoping you are worrying.

Greece is very safe, he'll be fine

Has he taken his phone? If so, maybe he's got contactless payment on that. He's probably having a nice supper somewhere, he doesn't care about making you worried.

I'd try to go to bed or at least relax in the bath or something. And never go on holiday with him again!

If the hotel has a bar he could very well be there. He could then just be charging to the room. Please try to rest.

Did you fly with a tour operator OP? Also the hotel will more than likely provide him with a spare key card if he asks so don’t worry about that.

Let him stew i know you probably wont sleep but just try if he doesnt come home soon

he'll knock when he wants to come in