DH has RAN AWAY in foreign country.

[Greekrunaway23]

Away with our DC’s, I appreciate the need for downtime but every night I’ve sat alone in silence whilst he watches films.

Tonight i broached this and said I just felt really flat and lonely after 12 days of this, still 2 to go. He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful and said I really wasn’t starting an argument, I just wanted to chat of an evening. He kept on repeating that I can speak to him whenever I like, and I explained it would be nice to feel as if I wasn’t disturbing him and him to initiate conversation.

Then he ran away, it’s 12.32am here he’s gone. It’s really rough weather here tonight too and I’m scared. He hasn’t got a key as the fob for the electric is welded onto the key so I have no idea what to do.

aibu to phone the Greek police?

Do you see parallels with this behaviour & his past behaviour OP? People that are abusive will often find a way to ruin holidays, birthdays, Christmas etc & always make out it's their partners fault.

It might be helpful to have some time away to help you find yourself again. He doesn't sound supportive in any way.

Um... the tabloid-type thread title? The fact that she was so very anxious about her husband having flounced off (couldn't sleep, kept trying to ring him etc)? If I had been her, I'd have thought "whatever", and would have gone to bed.

Why can't people understand that we don't all react the same way?

You would have thought 'whatever;. the OP didn't and I wouldn't have either.

Doesn't make you right and her wrong

but sitting in with headphones on…how BORING

In fact, I couldn't agree more. I haven't watched TV for more than 20 years, and I can't imagine living with someone so dull.

But that's a different thing from the OP and her husband both being drama queens. If there's a problem with their relationship, they need to fix it or accept that it's not fixable. But him storming off and her going into a tailspin is not the adult answer. It smacks of childishness and precisely the kind of drama that he claims he doesn't want (though his behaviour suggests that he enjoys it).

I wouldn't stay in a marriage like this. End of.
But when you are in this situation you can't see it.

Good luck, OP I hope you and the DC get home safely tonight without dramatics from him.

Where was a political debate mentioned?

Sitting with your headphones on watching films every night without a word is ignoring your spouse. He then went on to ignore her feelings when she tried to explain, bizarrely running away.

Can only guess you are either a terrible partner, or you're bored.

And that would be your choice. The OP wants to feel connected to her husband and when she explained that to him he made a dramatic exit. She won't be silly enough to try talk to him about her needs in the relationship but you seem to be defending this man.

Both people in the relationship should have their needs respect. He could even take the headphones out and want to watch a film with her.

We're concentrating on different things. You're concentrating on her just sitting there and I'm thinking about the fact he's ignoring her then ran away. Surely he'd just say what you did of it that was the case, not run away, swear at her down the phone and make a dig about being allowed to go to bed.

Anyway, we've both put our points across. No matter what it does not sound like a happy relationship.

"running away", ffs....the man went for a walk!

She said in a pp he actually physically ran.

What the actual hell is wring with you- what a truly horrible thing to say. So sorry you have to deal with this sh*te OP

A regular event yes. A very very rare one as this one is suggests a man at the end of his tether. And running out, shouting leave me alone, not taking phone or wallet - soo suggests desperation to me Either you haven't read all of the OP's posts or you're being deliberately obtuse. He has been ignoring the OP watching his films every night of the holiday, he frequently gives her the silent treatment if things don't go the way he wants them to and he's left in the past for an entire night in a huff. This isn't isolated, desperate behaviour from a poor brow-beaten man. It's emotionally immature behaviour from a man-child who stonewalls when his wife tries to voice her feelings to him.

I think that would give me the ick

@Cherry85
but some people would actually do that though?

@LuckySantangelo35 yeah fair enough but I don't think anyone on here should be offering unsolicited advice like that on here. She came here for support and advice on whether to call the police for her missing husband - not for that!!