DH has RAN AWAY in foreign country.

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Away with our DC’s, I appreciate the need for downtime but every night I’ve sat alone in silence whilst he watches films.

Tonight i broached this and said I just felt really flat and lonely after 12 days of this, still 2 to go. He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful and said I really wasn’t starting an argument, I just wanted to chat of an evening. He kept on repeating that I can speak to him whenever I like, and I explained it would be nice to feel as if I wasn’t disturbing him and him to initiate conversation.

Then he ran away, it’s 12.32am here he’s gone. It’s really rough weather here tonight too and I’m scared. He hasn’t got a key as the fob for the electric is welded onto the key so I have no idea what to do.

aibu to phone the Greek police?

I bet you anything he had money in his pocket and he is in a bar right now.

good now you can sleep. And tomorrow everything will feel a bit better.

I think you won’t get taken seriously by police yet. I’d try and sleep. You’ll hear him knocking on the door.

Try not to worry OP. He's gone off for a sulk and I'm sure he'll be back when he's a bit calmer.

I wonder if he's got money worries ir something on his mind at home? Sounds like he's anxious about facing up to things at the end of the holiday.

Maybe he's keeping something to himself so as not to bother you, but when you want to have a conversation with him it's all too much and he's chosen a tantrum instead.

I hate to say this but perhaps he needed some " private time" out of earshot to talk to someone?
He wants to make out its all your fault

I smell a rat...

My gosh that's horrific I'm so sorry. He's been on the phone to someone else, that's why he went out in the first place I bet.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I'm 9w pg too.

Try not to think too much right now, it's late, just get thru the next 24h till you get back to the UK and then you can reassess (plan his murder etc)

So he does have a working phone?

He is a grown man. He will be fine.

I’m am introvert and also tend to prefer silence/ to switch off once DC is in bed; DP is the chatty one. If he isn’t used to be ‘on’ with a child all day and now on holiday he has to be, I can see why he needs to retreat at night. But disappearing is a bit much.

It's great that he's answered, even if he's acting like a complete arse, as you now know that he's safe. It sounds like a good idea to take the children home. This is the last thing you need being pregnant too. When he arrives back from your holiday don't let him fob you off with pathetic excuses, make sure he is properly taking responsibility for his actions!

Sleep now op. And please leave him. He is a horrible prick of a man

You're pregnant too? I wonder what have his feelings/responses been to your pregnancy?
Could he be returning to old addict habits (if alcoholism is why he stopped drinking)? Can't help but wonder as it sounds like it from his behaviour and wording.
Get some rest tonight and hold your little ones close. Sorry you are having to deal with this especially so far from home.

He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

Everyone needs chat and drama! He might be what they call a weirdo.

Are the children not his? I don't understand why he thinks it's OK to go off and leave them - presumably assuming that you'll stay with them/take care of them indefinitely? What if you'd also had a wild hair to take off at the exact same time he did?

Oh, so sorry, I missed your update.

Wow. What a complete bastard.

I'm glad that he is okay, but sorry that you have found yourself in this situation. Getting home is exactly the right thing, and I hope you are ditching him once you get there.

Busy tones? As in he was on the phone to someone else?

@chickawhoo I also instantly thought that he might not be dealing with the new pregnancy too.

OP I really hope you’re ok. Your feelings are completely valid, especially as you’re pregnant and alone with two young children in a foreign country. It’s really unfair of him to put that worry on you. Look after yourself.

Just for anyone who needs it - you don't need a working sim to call the emergency services anywhere in Europe. You just dial 112 and you'll be connected to the emergency services of the country you're in, including the UK.

Yes, what do you mean 'busy tones'.

You phoned 8 times and each time got a busy engaged tone?

Or you phoned once and it rang for 8 rings?

What an arse. You're there with little ones and pregnant and he runs off like a toddler wanting his own way. Hard to come back from this one.

Update -

He knocked on the door not long after my last update so cannot have been far.

He came in and said ‘Am I allowed to
go to bed or what’ I said I’ve never stopped him from doing anything I just wanted a conversation with him, he said of course you did.

I am crushed. This was a planned pg, and he actually asked to move ttc forward from our original planned dates to try.

I am in bed now having a little cry, I’m not even sure why but I’m just hurt.

I am SO lonely, every night sat in silence whilst he sits with his film and headphones in. He just doesn’t realize that I would love him to initiate just one bit of chat, it’s hurtful to think that he couldn’t care less.

Wow he's really twisting this all around, trying to make out you are to blame!

God he's an absolute bastard OP. I hope you do leave tomorrow - without him.

Is he the same at home OP? Are you lonely? He knew you would be worried sick, thats why he did it. You will think twice in future before you bring anything up. Is he an involved parent and partner?

If he needed time out why was he on the phone to someone when he's in an foreign country?