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DH has RAN AWAY in foreign country.

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Greekrunaway23 · 20/05/2023 22:33

Away with our DC’s, I appreciate the need for downtime but every night I’ve sat alone in silence whilst he watches films.

Tonight i broached this and said I just felt really flat and lonely after 12 days of this, still 2 to go. He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful and said I really wasn’t starting an argument, I just wanted to chat of an evening. He kept on repeating that I can speak to him whenever I like, and I explained it would be nice to feel as if I wasn’t disturbing him and him to initiate conversation.

Then he ran away, it’s 12.32am here he’s gone. It’s really rough weather here tonight too and I’m scared. He hasn’t got a key as the fob for the electric is welded onto the key so I have no idea what to do.

aibu to phone the Greek police?

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LuckySantangelo35 · 21/05/2023 18:35

Cherry85 · 21/05/2023 18:28

@LuckySantangelo35 yeah fair enough but I don't think anyone on here should be offering unsolicited advice like that on here. She came here for support and advice on whether to call the police for her missing husband - not for that!!

@Cherry85

agree

SchoolTripDrama · 21/05/2023 18:36

Greekrunaway23 · 21/05/2023 13:59

Once again, thank you to all of those who have kind and thoughtful in their responses. I felt rubbish enough when posting this and it isn’t a situation I ever hoped to be in. Nastiness isn’t needed. X

Have you left OP? Did he try to stop you? I really hope you and the kids are ok 🙏💕

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Aaaaandbreathe · 21/05/2023 19:27

LuckySantangelo35 · 21/05/2023 18:19

I think that would give me the ick

Definitely!

Aaaaandbreathe · 21/05/2023 20:32

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Read her posts, it tells you what happened.

MenoRageisReal · 21/05/2023 21:16

Parisj · 21/05/2023 09:46

I think he's stuffed his emotions so far down that they rarely surface and as a result he doesn't connect with them, with you or with anyone else. When you suppress difficult emotions the whole lot get squashed so he probably has a fairly flat emotional landscape. My guess is when beans on toast hit the wall, and when he left yesterday, he went off to have a cry or regain control by numbing things. He silences you to stop himself feeling. You don't have to live like this. Nor does he but he would have to do a lot of work to change it. I hope you are ok.

Very perceptive post

SkyandSurf · 21/05/2023 22:37

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He didn't shout.

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@Sirloinwithlove
@SkyandSurf

op said he did shout and the physically ran off
I would deffo get the ick

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Whatwasthatshow · 16/03/2024 22:36

I think about you and hope you’re ok @Greekrunaway23 x

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