DH has RAN AWAY in foreign country.

[Greekrunaway23]

Away with our DC’s, I appreciate the need for downtime but every night I’ve sat alone in silence whilst he watches films.

Tonight i broached this and said I just felt really flat and lonely after 12 days of this, still 2 to go. He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful and said I really wasn’t starting an argument, I just wanted to chat of an evening. He kept on repeating that I can speak to him whenever I like, and I explained it would be nice to feel as if I wasn’t disturbing him and him to initiate conversation.

Then he ran away, it’s 12.32am here he’s gone. It’s really rough weather here tonight too and I’m scared. He hasn’t got a key as the fob for the electric is welded onto the key so I have no idea what to do.

aibu to phone the Greek police?

I’m leaving at 6pm, I’ve spent the morning packing the case. Not a word has been spoken, I refuse to disturb a man who has made it abundantly clear that speaking with me is such an inconvenience.

How you feeling this morning OP x

Talking about phoning the police after 2 hours when their partner stormed off?

Oh this sounds awful OP. His behaviour towards you is completely unnecessary from the small detail in your posts.

Is there any background why he might be stressed or down? Sounds like he's not coping well with something.

And how does she 'check' this??

I might have missed it but did he eventually come back?

@Twiglets1

yeah ok that bit was
but speaking to her husband about feeling lonely cos he sits with headphones in every night was in no way drama llama
sounds proper dull

Safe travelling today OP. I hope everything works out OK for you in the end. Good luck.

Liorae why do you keep writing strange comments about my pregnancy?

It was a planned pregnancy as I’ve stated in my posts.

He didn't storm off from his own house though did he?

He stormed off at midnight into the mountains, in a foreign country, all local facilities closed, no working phone (apparently), in bad weather, etc.

Any normal person would find this cause for alarm and worry about their husband/partner. Strange you think otherwise.

He'll probably be thankful for the peace.

In seriousness sounds like you're both unhappy in your own way and this back and forth behaviour is pretty crap. I'm sure if he rearranged flights to travel home without you but with the children without telling you you'd be absolutely furious- why you think this is okay because you're sulking as he didn't give the answer you wanted is sad.

I'd leave this thread for now OP. There's a lot of strange people on here projecting their own toxic relationship issues onto you and your situation.

Do what you think is best moving forward.

I think OP sounds suffocating and controlling. I couldn't cope with the behaviour , he said he was fine to chat so he wasn't stonewalling he just wanted quiet time. OP completely unable to read those signs pesters until he thinks fuck this I need to get away from this person who keeps pushing. So he goes on a walk for time alone, his wife then thinks of reporting him missing, again controlling.

It would be my worst nightmare to be harassed like that. After we have had dinner and drinks me and DH will sit watching separate films , listening to music even on holiday.

If this is how he always is, you aren't compatible. He's not stonewalling he just doesn't want to have to constantly entertain you.

Thank you to the kind posters, I appreciate you all!

I am going to check out of this thread now as some of the comments are not helping an already upsetting time. X

I might be worried about his safety (or possibly not after him being like that all holiday) but I certainly wouldn’t be talking about calling the police after 2 hours. That is the bit that is overly dramatic.
What would OP expect the police to do? Organise a search party after 2 hours? A person walking out after a row is hardly a disappearance under suspicious circumstances

For figs sake OP, stop prostrating and victimising yourself to please the dick's abusive tendencies.
You'll never be nice and complacent enough for him to appreciate you. He only appreciates your pain - hence he's chosen an anxious worrier of a woman.
He'd be unable to pull this "run-away" stunt with me - I'd just kick back with a bottle of wine on the balcony instead of looking for my abuser.

Put your worries towards yourself and your children's futures. Think about the worse case scenarios if you actually keep that horrible husband for the rest of your lives. And then act in an appropriate way to avoid that doom&gloom.

He'll escalate his antics, trust me. The moment you don't cry and don't fret over something he's doing, he'll find the next bad thing to do to you.

Please, do the right thing for you and the kids. And therapy, get some therapy to help.

I think you need to have a frank conversation with him that last nights behaviour was unacceptable and you will be going home at 6pm today. If not, you will end up having to talk about it whilst trying to leave with suitcases and 2 small children which does nobody any good. Shouting at your partner whilst physically running away from them is not normal behaviour and he must know that. Ultimately it is up to you what you choose to do from here, I hope you have some support at home OP. Everything will be okay.

That seems like an overreaction. It seems like there's been some tension, something has been brewing and he's popped his lid. I think something is going on and he's not communicating with you. That's not a healthy relationship. If you choose to stay with him, communication is something you will need to work on with him.

And mine, I'd leave.

You're being obtuse. There are clearly communication issues between the OP and her husband. It's one thing to say you're going to watch a film and put your headphones on. It's another to just do that when you're on holiday abroad with no heads up about it and to the exclusion of the other person in the room. It's selfish apart from anything else. If I wanted space I would say so. I wouldn't expect to have to justify myself, but I wouldn't just go ahead and watch a film with headphones without a word to my partner about it. If I was already doing it and they came into the room, I'd pause the film and speak to them. It's only polite.

Wow some really nasty posts on here. It's quite obvious you're projecting.

Quite. So The Man has spoken, hence the woman needs to comply?
He didn’t want drama, but OP also didn’t want to sit by herself every evening. After twelve days of that I would feel flat and lonely too.
Surely there can be a compromise? Just telling your wife that you as a man don’t need to chat and would happily live alone for years is not really it.

Are you always such a twat? She's said it was a planned pregnancy.