DH has RAN AWAY in foreign country.

[Greekrunaway23]

Away with our DC’s, I appreciate the need for downtime but every night I’ve sat alone in silence whilst he watches films.

Tonight i broached this and said I just felt really flat and lonely after 12 days of this, still 2 to go. He said that it’s proven that men don’t need ‘chat and drama’ hence they can happily live alone for years.

I got quite tearful and said I really wasn’t starting an argument, I just wanted to chat of an evening. He kept on repeating that I can speak to him whenever I like, and I explained it would be nice to feel as if I wasn’t disturbing him and him to initiate conversation.

Then he ran away, it’s 12.32am here he’s gone. It’s really rough weather here tonight too and I’m scared. He hasn’t got a key as the fob for the electric is welded onto the key so I have no idea what to do.

aibu to phone the Greek police?

@silverspoonsz I can contribute whatever I like,

OP's DH has actually had multiple opportunities on this holiday to communicate with her about his need for downtime. But last night he literally ran away from her!

They have DC together and she is expecting his baby which he has pushed for. How is the OP in the wrong for 'hassling' him?

He needs to step up for his relationship and his kids and communicate with OP like an adult IMO.

So can I. You're moaning about 'bitching', 'unhelpful' posts and contributing exactly the same.

LMAO if you wouldn't call the police when your husband disappears for hours into the mountains, in a foreign country, at midnight, with no phone signal, nowhere he could go at that time of night, bad weather conditions, etc then you must dislike your husband (or not have one at all). Situations like this aren't commonplace in most normal peoples relationships, so I think it makes perfect sense to call the police 😊

You quoted my post so it is my business. Some people have different opinions, learn to accept that. 🤗

Agree pillsthrills

Some people have different opinions, learn to accept that
from the person telling eveyrone else not to post. FFS,

Once again, thank you to all of those who have kind and thoughtful in their responses. I felt rubbish enough when posting this and it isn’t a situation I ever hoped to be in. Nastiness isn’t needed. X

Crying for you OP. This was me many years ago. It got to the point where I felt if I just didn't speak I wouldn't upset him, only then apparently the way I breathed, moved, walked etc annoyed him.

You shouldn't be ashamed of wanting acknowledgement, attention and connection. It's a most basic human need. Find someone who gets it. I have and I'm immeasurably happier.

@silverspoonsz you're literally just arguing with everyone and anyone at this point. Pathetic.

OP hasn't left the thread - so maybe just chill the fuck out and stop derailing?

OP - hope you're OK, sounds incredibly stressful.

I'm responding to people who are directly quoting me and belittling my posts if it's not clear.

I think you're the one who needs to chill the fuck out, you're the one who kicked off in the beginning over "bitching" posts. And you're still banging on about it now when I've stopped posting. 😂

OP, my heart goes out to you. He sounds like a horrible man and I really hope you find some way to resolve the situation that brings you happiness.

Dear Christ some people 😂

Again, back to the point - OP, I hope you're ok.

Yep.

What a loser!

Get yourself and your babies home. You don't need him.

I imagine the childish "running away" was meant to punish you into accepting his unreasonable behaviour without comment in future.

Frankly, if he's already opted out of family life, he may as well fuck off.

You're absolutely right to feel hurt ND confused. If this behaviour isn't normal, is it possible there may be something else going on? I notice you say something similar happened years ago. Is it times of stress?

Either way, what he did was completely unacceptable. He's husband and father with responsibilities, he can't just walk with no explanation. Your request to have a conversation one evening was not unreasonable. I think you are best getting home and then sitting down and having a conversation about his behaviour, would even suggest couples therapy. If he cares about the relationship at all, he should be willing to address this. If he doesn't, then I think to that sends a very clear message.

Ignore all the nasty comments on here. They reveal far more about their unhappiness, than offering any insight into your situation.

Wow op you can do so much better than this childish prick.
He's got you right where he wants you - frantic with worry when he sulks off so that he can keep control. It's abusive behaviour and you couldn't see it last night in the thick of the panic but I hope you can see how he's manipulating you now.

And agree with the below - he's a father he can't just go off grid whenever he wants to teach you a lesson. What If something had happened to you or the kids and he was uncontactable because he was busy not answering to 'teach you a lesson' ?

Any update on situation?

Years ago see a guy abandon parner/ wife at a tank/ gas station just left her there.
Drive off on his motorcycle with their luggage, she screaming stop, stop come back...

Thinking of you, @Greekrunaway23 . Please let us know that you managed to catch your flight ok, and got home safely?. 💐

So you think it's completely acceptable to ignore your partner every night?

How does reading or knitting stop you feeling lonely in a relationship?

@Sirloinwithlove try reading the posts properly, then consider them within the confines of a relationship with real humans. This isn't a fantasy story for your kicks.

Just read @Greekrunaway23 's posts.

Get yourself and your DC home as calmly and quietly as you can. Once you are home and settled in, take time to review your marriage and your life in their totality and then decide whether you'd be happier without your H (not so 'dear' in my opinion). Don't think right now of whether you can afford it or not, just think about your 'self', your 'spirit' or whatever you choose to call 'who you are', and the effect your H has on the essential 'you'.

Do you really want to live the next 30-40-50 years living with a man who only wants your 'obedience'? Where you are expected to be 'seen and not heard' and 'speaking only when spoken to'? If I had to live such a life, I'd rather choose my own version of 'silence'; in my own home and only when I choose to be silent.