To think my NDN should stop knocking on my door?

[Foly]

I live in a flat and there are 9 other flats in my building.

My NDN (I'm number 7, he's number 8) will find any excuse to knock on my door and ask me questions/ speak to me.

He's a man in his late 50's and I'm a woman in my early 30's, both live alone, just for context.

It started after I took a parcel in for him and he came to collect it. I genuinely don't mind doing this and I'd do it for any neighbour.

However, after this he came to my door to -

• ask if I was okay because he heard something through the wall..?

-tell me he could look after my cats anytime -tell me he could help when getting a sofa delivered -ask if I could hear his alarm in the morning -ask if we could swap flat keys in case of an emergency -ask if I want to do my laundry in his flat because he has a really good washing machine

It's getting worse and I am getting concerned now. He's just knocked on the door 2 minutes ago and I didn't answer. He knows I am home though. 😥

What can I do besides moving out? 😩

Stop answering the Door.

How about simply telling him to quit interrupting your work? WFH means working!

If he keeps coming back and back again when you ignore him, you either have to stay firm and keep ignoring him even if he knocks 100 times in the hope that the message finally is received (unlikely) OR you have to bite the bullet and say, “Look, it’s kind of you to try to be helpful but I really would appreciate it if you wouldn’t keep disturbing me for minor things. Please can you just ask me in passing and only knock if it’s absolutely urgent?”

I can’t think of a clearer way of wording it without saying, “FFS, you again?! What NOW!”

On my ring doorbell it’s has this really fake American voice that’s says. sorry we can’t answer the door right now .😂

you could get one but have it set like that so it just says you can’t answer the door

I had a non creepy but very demanding neighbour who started knocking on the door with 'emergencies' in the middle of the night. I do not do well when woken up, and lost all my normal 'be kind' polite doormattery at 3am. Very sternly said we were not leaving our house and did not want to be woken again. And shut the door.

Never had another knock since.

Stop being nice or polite. He'll be seeing it as an invitation / pleased to see him.

Well, I’m going to suggest something that irks me to my very core - do you have a boyfriend, brother, father, male friend etc who can be there to answer the door next time he knocks?

These kind of pests only seem to get the message if another male relays it.

Yes, it’s depressing but needs must. He probably thinks he has a ‘chance’ so you need to get the message across that no, you are NOT interested. He’ll keep thinking you’re shy, busy - fill in the blank - until your burly stand in man swings open the door and makes it clear you’re unavailable.

Yes I'm wondering this too 🤔

Next time you do answer the door be quite monotone and short, interupt ( men hate that ) and loudly tell him if he's not bleeding to death, notifying you of a fire or flood then he needs to stop knocking on your door or you'll report him for harassment and swiftly shut the door before he can say anything back.

Some kind of camera, like ring doorbell. When you see it's him don’t ever answer the door. If he approaches you nearby, you're on the phone. He gets zero acknowledgment, ever. Fucking creep. Big burly man might be a good shout also. But he gets nothing from you personally.

Unfortunately I can't even pause my audio for a few seconds as I'm an online teacher

Then there's your answer. Explain to him next time he calls, that you teach online and can't interrupt your lessons to answer your door.

Eww preying on a younger woman, what a creep.

He's a creepy pest and your politeness is being misinterpreted.

You have to be abrupt and irritated by the intrusion.

"I am working, stop disturbing my privacy"

A video bell is a good idea.

Sometimes a suggestion of a other burly bloke might be enough. My cousin had similar with her neighbour, but didn’t have anyone she could ask. She got a pair of men’s trainers from the charity shop and left them outside the front door a few times, couple of men’s clothes on her washing line and it all stopped.

Hellllo Jackie...

I think it’s dementia as it always trotted out here for people being arseholes.

Why do you keep opening the door to him? I don’t care if he knocks 50 times, don’t open door to him.

He wants to swap keys? At least you didn’t do that.

Telling him the unvarnished truth, leave you alone etc, does not work nearly as well as the big burly man, either naked or in a red buffalo plaid shirt with a hammer or ax or something in his hand. Just a fact.

You say you only have your dad. Well, you need to recruit a big burly man. There has to be someone you can borrow. Make it happen.

Because your weirdo neighbor is not going to stop and he’s going to get worse. Go online and read the book gift of fear right now.

But first borrow the big burly man and make the encounter dramatic. Whoever you can grab to do this. Boss’s son’s gay lover who works out, your mechanic or plumber, your spin cycle gym manager’s friend’s nephew, brother of 2nd cousin’s husband’s stepsister. Is the light beginning to dawn?

Next time he knocks ask who it is. When he says its him just say (thru the door). "I'm sorry now isn't a good time." And leave it at that. Just keep saying that every time.

Don’t worry about it. You’ll sort it.

-door chain
-ring doorbell
-be on your phone every time you’re walking to and from your car/front door so he can’t open up a conversation.

Dont answer your door. Your home is your castle. Enjoy your new home btw.

Put a sign on our door:
'Please do not knock or disturb at ANYTIME day or night. For urgent deliveries, please email or call the mobile 😀'

Neither of which I hope he has?

What a creep, that definitely sounds dodgy. If you live near me I’d lend you my boyfriend to answer the door!!

😂😂😂

Door chain, ring doorbell, ask your landlord and neighbours if there’s been issues with this wanker before, answer the door ONCE with the security chain on and someone else there (because men don’t take kindly to “no”) and tell him to stop knocking on your door or you’ll report him for harassment.

Start a log of date, time and excuses so you’ve got a record of how often he’s bothering you.

Never had another knock since.

I'm not surprised, they're probably dead now.

Just kidding..

Oh, one of them. He thinks you're single, and therefore fair game, and he's in with a chance.

Men like that only back off/give up if they see another man is in the picture. So you'll have to arrange for a male friend, if you haven't a partner, to show up prominently. Best chance of throwing him off would be for said male to open the door when over-friendly, invasive, hopeful neighbour knocks.

When I lived alone a left a giant pair of used men's work boots outside my front door. Could you get to a charity shop and invest in some?

Otherwise, id be clearer with him. And use a chain on the door so you're not opening it the whole way when he knocks.

'I'm working during the week, I can't chat.'

'If this isn't an emergency I have to go'

Don't smile etc, be very serious and boring but not rude.

I'd feel creeped out as well.