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Petty AIBU but… sandwiches!

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Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 12:55

I make my partner sandwiches to take to the office most weekdays.

I do this in the evening then put them in the fridge for him to take in the morning.

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

This annoys me as it seems so lazy and I have sandwiches to make again for the next day. He could save the ones I made for the following day.

I’d love to know if this would annoy others too. It drives me mad.

OP posts:
ThisNameIsNotAvailable · 15/05/2023 13:25

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 12:55

I make my partner sandwiches to take to the office most weekdays.

I do this in the evening then put them in the fridge for him to take in the morning.

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

This annoys me as it seems so lazy and I have sandwiches to make again for the next day. He could save the ones I made for the following day.

I’d love to know if this would annoy others too. It drives me mad.

I’d be more annoyed if he didn’t eat them.

Ariela · 15/05/2023 13:25

Thebigblueballoon · 15/05/2023 13:05

Two-day old sandwiches go all soggy and the texture is nasty. I’d eat them on the same day. At least he isn’t wasting food.

Depends, if you use quality non-white bread they're fine. Often freeze and use later in the week too.

diddl · 15/05/2023 13:26

DanceMonster · 15/05/2023 13:24

Weird that he only decides in the morning if he’ll be working from home or in the office. Can’t he decide the night before, thus resolving the issue?

What if he decides the night before & then changes his mind in the morning??!!

watcherintherye · 15/05/2023 13:26

I love the MN partnership. It’s a special kind of marriage/relationship where nothing is shared, neither one ever does anything for the other and they live completely independent lives. Perfect!

ZeroFuchsGiven · 15/05/2023 13:26

NurseCranesRolodex · 15/05/2023 13:21

I recently came across a game changer tip, make in batches and freeze weeks in advance! Tbh it's no use now as dc left school 15 years ago but wish I'd thought of that and just lifted them out the night before. To answer your question, yes it's v annoying but maybe he's just used to his lunch being sandwiches and as its a workday it must be a sandwich day?! Less to think about which probably helps him in doing his work tasks he knows he can get it when needed.

That sounds utterly vile, Ive seen this mentioned on here before and I can honestly think of nothing worse than a defrosted sandwich.

mindutopia · 15/05/2023 13:27

You've made him his lunch (which is a bit weird, but that's another conversation) and he's eaten it. I like food hanging around for as short a time as possible and hate waste. So I would begrudingly eat them too, but wish I could have made something nicer without feeling like I was wasting food. I'd just leave him to it and he can make his own lunch. That way he can have something else if he doesn't want a sandwich wfh. And saves you the effort.

Bellaboo01 · 15/05/2023 13:27

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 12:55

I make my partner sandwiches to take to the office most weekdays.

I do this in the evening then put them in the fridge for him to take in the morning.

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

This annoys me as it seems so lazy and I have sandwiches to make again for the next day. He could save the ones I made for the following day.

I’d love to know if this would annoy others too. It drives me mad.

No this wouldn't annoy me as he is eating them!?

I make myself and both my Children's packed lunch.

My Husband as he is an adult can make his own lunch.

howdoesyourgardengrowinmay · 15/05/2023 13:28

What fillings do you use? That would have a bearing on whether I'd eat them 2 days later or not.

OTOH, 2 day old cheese or egg mayo make nice toasties. I pop them in little toastie bags into the toaster 😬

watcherintherye · 15/05/2023 13:28

watcherintherye · 15/05/2023 13:26

I love the MN partnership. It’s a special kind of marriage/relationship where nothing is shared, neither one ever does anything for the other and they live completely independent lives. Perfect!

Very similar to MN parenting post-16, come to think of it!

FriedEggChocolate · 15/05/2023 13:29

Just make a batch of sandwiches and freeze them. He can take them out and eat them as he wants to, and even add a bowl of soup at home if he's feeling adventurous.

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 15/05/2023 13:30

Yabu. I thought you were going to say he didn't eat the sarnies and you threw them out. I'd not fancy 3@2 day old sandwiches

pussycatinfluffyslippers · 15/05/2023 13:30

Either he makes his own sandwiches or you let him eat them while they're relatively fresh.
I wouldn't eat sandwiches I made on Sunday evening on Tuesday for example. They'd end up in the bin.

ChristmasFluff · 15/05/2023 13:30

Yeah, it's crazy on here! I always made the lunches because I was doing mine anyway - ex-DH ironed my uniform because he was ironing his shirts anyway. He got up before me and would bring me a cup of tea in bed before he went to work. When my hours changed I had his coffee and toast ready when he came down from his shower.

Isn't this just what happens when you care about someone? You do small acts of kindness for eachother.

Crunchymum · 15/05/2023 13:31

eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house

Who would be making / plating these options up?

If you are happy to make the sandwiches as part of your division of labour then continue to do so but don't put caveats on it.

TheyAreMyBhunasPete · 15/05/2023 13:31

Oh fuck off with the comments about making your partner sandwiches. Should I never cook dinner for my husband because he's a grown man? How about we use separate bins so he doesn't take my rubbish out for me? Maybe I'll get another laundry basket because god forbid I do a women's job for a man.
Do none of you ever do anything for your partners? Do you even like them?

DHiscookingalerttheworld · 15/05/2023 13:32

I do lots of nice things for my DH and vice versa but making each other's packed lunch is not one of them. Apart from anything else, I want to decide for myself what I fancy in my sandwich. I don't think my own packed lunch is a household chore to be divided, it's personal.

My mum stopped making my packed lunch when I was 10 at my own request!

Cazelet · 15/05/2023 13:32

Is this real?!

AffIt · 15/05/2023 13:33

Ugh, cold bread is the WORST (and that's even before we get started on the age of the sandwiches). 😞

NewNovember · 15/05/2023 13:33

YouWonJayne · 15/05/2023 12:59

Are you from 1940?

Why on Earth are you making a grown man sandwiches?!

This problem is easily solvable: he can make his own

How is it old fashioned to show love for your post what a strange post?

TooOldForThisNonsense · 15/05/2023 13:33

He’s not unreasonable to eat the sandwiches but you are unreasonable to make a grown man’s packed lunch. I haven’t made packed lunches for my kids since they were in primary school.

Coronationstation · 15/05/2023 13:33

YABU for 1) making a grown man his packed lunch and 2) expecting him to eat 2 day old sandwiches.

Cazelet · 15/05/2023 13:33

I'd make a sandwich for dh but I'd be more annoyed if he wfh then didn't eat the sandwich 🤷‍♀️

bobbysock · 15/05/2023 13:35

ChristmasFluff · 15/05/2023 13:30

Yeah, it's crazy on here! I always made the lunches because I was doing mine anyway - ex-DH ironed my uniform because he was ironing his shirts anyway. He got up before me and would bring me a cup of tea in bed before he went to work. When my hours changed I had his coffee and toast ready when he came down from his shower.

Isn't this just what happens when you care about someone? You do small acts of kindness for eachother.

Making your partner eat a 1 or 2 days old sandwich is the opposite of act of kindness tbf.

Lcb123 · 15/05/2023 13:35

I hate sandwiches that aren't freshly made. He should make his own lunches surely.

ffsnotagainandagain · 15/05/2023 13:35

haha no, I make my own sandwiches the night before and WFH so I don't have to make them on lunch. What are you the sandwich police. Either make them and be happy he eats them wherever he is or let him make his own.

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