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Original poster

Petty AIBU but… sandwiches!

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Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 12:55

I make my partner sandwiches to take to the office most weekdays.

I do this in the evening then put them in the fridge for him to take in the morning.

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

This annoys me as it seems so lazy and I have sandwiches to make again for the next day. He could save the ones I made for the following day.

I’d love to know if this would annoy others too. It drives me mad.

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ShimmeringShirts · 15/05/2023 13:14

I wouldn’t eat two day old sandwiches either, the bread would be soggy/stale depending on what you put on them.

diddl · 15/05/2023 13:14

You think he's lazy & should save the sandwiches for (yet) another day?

Bloody hell!

midsomermurderess · 15/05/2023 13:15

Bread doesn’t do well in the fridge. The sandwiches would be pretty horrible after a couple of days.
This site is quite peculiar at the moment.

diddl · 15/05/2023 13:15

Surely it would be better to make the sandwiches in the morning then when you know that he's going into work?

PlacidPenelope · 15/05/2023 13:15

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:13

I like this idea a lot.

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So do it then instead of getting all annoyed about something so petty.

BillyNoM8s · 15/05/2023 13:16

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:13

I like this idea a lot.

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Well you say he makes up for it in other ways. So as long as you're willing to pick one of the things he's now entitled to drop 🙄

CraneBoysMysteries · 15/05/2023 13:16

Aside from him making his own sandwiches, YABU. I wouldn't eat 2 day old sandwiches

Original poster
Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:16

OK thanks for all the replies. Point taken that sandwiches need to be fresh that day.

I think honestly I don’t like making his lunch and to have done it for no reason if he’s home anyway just annoys me more.

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diddl · 15/05/2023 13:18

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:16

OK thanks for all the replies. Point taken that sandwiches need to be fresh that day.

I think honestly I don’t like making his lunch and to have done it for no reason if he’s home anyway just annoys me more.

You haven't done it for no reason though as he still eats them!

Would you rather he threw them away?

MRex · 15/05/2023 13:18

If the tasks on your house are genuinely evenly distributed then you'll have to ask him when he's home and plate up the quiche and salad or whatever you want him to eat. If the tasks aren't even then stop making his lunch. You can't opt in to only half the task though, it would be like if his task is laundry and he got pissed off that you wore a work dress at home because he ironed it instead of you wearing a home outfit; you were always going to wear something that day and ironing was always his task, so it isn't up to him to pick.

greennotepad · 15/05/2023 13:18

Stop making his lunch! Then he can do what he likes with it if he's made it, and you won't be annoyed anymore- everybody wins.

CoronationKicking · 15/05/2023 13:18

Why does it matter where he eats his lunch? Weird.

BillyNoM8s · 15/05/2023 13:19

Surely he knows if he's working from home the night before anyway? So why wouldn't you just ask him before you start slaving over a loaf of Hovis?

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Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:20

diddl · 15/05/2023 13:18

You haven't done it for no reason though as he still eats them!

Would you rather he threw them away?

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Hi @diddl no I mean if he’s home anyway he can make his own! I only make them so he can take them to the office.

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Notthisagaineh · 15/05/2023 13:21

bussteward · 15/05/2023 13:03

Stop making packed lunches for a grown man and divide the chores some other, less mad, way.

What on earth is mad about one partner making the other partner’s lunch every day? (Subject to division of labour being fair, which op has confirmed it is). I’m a grown woman and can mow the lawn and wash the car, but my partner still does it. He’s a grown man who can make his own lunch, but I still do it.

NurseCranesRolodex · 15/05/2023 13:21

I recently came across a game changer tip, make in batches and freeze weeks in advance! Tbh it's no use now as dc left school 15 years ago but wish I'd thought of that and just lifted them out the night before. To answer your question, yes it's v annoying but maybe he's just used to his lunch being sandwiches and as its a workday it must be a sandwich day?! Less to think about which probably helps him in doing his work tasks he knows he can get it when needed.

BarbaraofSeville · 15/05/2023 13:21

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:20

Hi @diddl no I mean if he’s home anyway he can make his own! I only make them so he can take them to the office.

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So why can't he make them to take to the office?

MrsDoylesDoily · 15/05/2023 13:21

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 15/05/2023 12:57

Stop making him any sandwiches

Your life will be happier and he can be a grown up

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See I don't get this sort of attitude.

I'm not sure if you're in a relationship but if you are, do you really never do anything for each other in case it makes you feel like you're not a grown up? Confused

Riapia · 15/05/2023 13:21

OP this is AIBU any views expressed on here are not necessarily those of the person posting them.
Any acts of kindness are particularly frowned on here

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Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:22

CoronationKicking · 15/05/2023 13:18

Why does it matter where he eats his lunch? Weird.

Not weird. If he’s home he has access to our Freud he, toaster, cooker etc
and can make whatever. The reason
for taking sandwiches into the office is that those things aren’t at the office.

I would have thought that was obvious. Maybe not!

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Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:22

fridge

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ChateauMargaux · 15/05/2023 13:24

Option A: Stop making his lunch

Option B: You make his lunch, he eats it, what's the problem

Option C: Tell him.. he probably has no idea that this annoys you and maybe would feel ungrateful if he didn't eat them so every day, he looks longingly at the salad, quiche, eggs but thinks 'No, I will eat the lovingly made sandwiches'

Also -- yeah.. two day old sandwiches - not sure..

Pressthespacebar · 15/05/2023 13:24

Mmmmmm two day old sandwiches, yum.

DanceMonster · 15/05/2023 13:24

Weird that he only decides in the morning if he’ll be working from home or in the office. Can’t he decide the night before, thus resolving the issue?

diddl · 15/05/2023 13:24

BarbaraofSeville · 15/05/2023 13:21

So why can't he make them to take to the office?

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Oh I see.

So he doesn't decide what he's going to do until he gets up?

So you making them the night before isn't really working so he might as well make them himself in the morning-or not if he is WFH?

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