Petty AIBU but… sandwiches!

[Flyinggeesei234]

I make my partner sandwiches to take to the office most weekdays.

I do this in the evening then put them in the fridge for him to take in the morning.

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

This annoys me as it seems so lazy and I have sandwiches to make again for the next day. He could save the ones I made for the following day.

I’d love to know if this would annoy others too. It drives me mad.

I wouldn't want two-day-old sandwiches. I'd be making my own lunch. HOWEVER, if this is the division of labor you have decided on, and he pulls his share in other areas (and you have said that he does), then you make his lunches, and he eats what you have made. It shouldn't matter where he eats them, office or home.

I would not eat 2 day old sandwiches. At least he is not wasting them.

A day later is the absolute maximum for sandwiches for me. Not two days. If he'd eaten them at work anyway I can't see the issue for him eating them at home instead.

I make hubbies lunch because otherwise he’ll buy lunch out & we’d both rather have the money.
& yes he could make his own, but he’s supported me both financially & mentally with a career change after I left teaching & I haven’t worked whilst I’ve retrained, so I think it’s fair that I do almost all of the housework. I do have a side hustle, but that basically gives me spending money.
I also have fibro & on the days where I’m not up to making him lunch or cooking him tea, he never complains.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with op making lunches as long as that’s what’s been agreed by you both. I don’t think it’s fair to vilify her other half & call him names, like a lot of other posters have. What works for 1 couple won’t work for another & vice versa.

But op, if it bothers you, you should tell him how you feel. It isn’t worth feeling resentful over sandwiches. Then discuss together what you’ll do on the days where he wfh.

DH used to make smoked salmon bagels the night before for me to take to work.

Can't imagine anyone saying why make them for a grown woman, tell her to make her own.....

Our schedules have changed now and I make his sandwiches for him to take to work.

I batch make about 10, put them in ziploc reusable bags and freeze them.

I use Bertinet sourdough which keeps well.

Can't understand people who don't do little things for each other.

Doing something nice for a partner doesn't mean you're chained to the sink or that they don't do anything for you.

I think it’s sweet you make him sandwiches.
I think it’s sweet that he eats them.

If it annoys you, stop doing it.
Then he can stop doing the thing that annoys him.

He was still working, he still needed lunch and the sandwiches are made and fresh waiting. How strange that you would begrudge his eating them!

I generally make my DH sandwiches, but i wouldn't expect him to eat 2 day old ones. I make them because i don't work and he does.

If you didn’t make them then he more than likely would have something else. You provide, he takes. Simples!

Thia wouldn’t annoy me!

what did used to annoy me was when ex H used to make his packed lunch for work the next day but never once in 7 years bothered to make our DD’s packed lunch at the same time… leaving that for me to me to do between bath times, reading, spellings, times tables, bed time etc.

🙄of course all the 'why are you doing something nice to show your love and appreciation for your husband brigade are here' she's said they have a reciprocal relationship where this is how they divvy up the things that need doing. I cook chicken breasts etc the night before to put in the salads that I make my husband every single morning before I iron his work clothes people on here would be telling me I'm oppressed and need to LTB STAT. Honestly her making a sandwich for him doesn't mean he's not a grown up. Obviously if OP doesn't want to make them and resents it she should then be a grown up and say so it's not rocket science it's a sandwich!

In response to your actual question OP no it wouldn't bother me I would feel like I'd made him the lunch for that day what difference does it make if he eats it at the office or home?

Freeze them, in batches, if he goes to work he can take them out, if he's at home he can have what he wants. Unless he works on Siberia they defrost by lunch. Don't put salad in though. I've been doing this for 40 years. I do prefer nice bread though.

I’d see it as a waste if he didn’t eat it. I wouldn’t want 2 days old sandwiches. They wouldn’t taste as nice. I’d be flattered he ate it when he could have had other stuff :)

I used to make my lunch and at the same time made my husband's sandwiches...pre kids. I'd never put anything wet like tomato in it, he had to add that when he was going to eat them so they didnt get soggy...anyway one day he said he didn't like them made the night before and would prefer if I made them on the day....I stopped making his sandwiches that day and never have..thay was 12 years ago. I wasn't going to make mine in the morning so why would I bother with his?!?! He now makes his at work, takes bread and filling and actually constructs his lunches on his break lol.

To answer your question, I'd be more annoyed if he didn't eat them and had something else.. and who wants 2 days old sandwiches anyway?!?! Also like others said, he can make his own, leave it to him them you don't he to get wound up if he eats them or not...win win.