Am I ruining the holiday?

[jasmine92]

DP has not said as much but I just feel bad.

We spent a lot of money on a much needed holiday as we’ve been super stressed - we booked a really remote, hot location with the plan being nothing but sunbathing.
We’ve got here and it’s freezing cold, and it’s expected to be until we leave. I feel gutted because a) we spent a lot of money, b) there’s literally nothing else to do and c) he suggested other locations that I said no to because I have been before, and I should’ve gone for them as they’re really hot right now.

I keep mentioning the weather, DP keeps telling me to “make the most of it”, “it’s done now”, “it’s out of our control” etc but I just hate being cold and there’s literally nothing else to do. He told me off for looking at the weather and told me not to look again. But I just am so annoyed. Also gutted as I packed only dresses.

Also, I really wanted a holiday for us to just get away from everything as we’ve been so stressed. I said let’s just put our phones down for the week, and let’s not talk about anything going on at home that’s stressful, and let’s talk about different stuff, but he keeps scrolling each time I even walk 2 metres away. He said I put too much pressure on the holiday by saying this.
I then got upset during breakfast as he wasn’t really saying much and he said he felt pressured to make conversation. He also said he’d had 3 hours sleep and I wasn’t being understanding.

I just feel like a misery guts but I can’t help but be upset, and I don’t feel like he’s understanding. Am I unreasonable?

You're in Greece. GREECE!!!

Mad rampant sex all week 😜

I know the feeling op - I’ve spent money on a family holiday to Turkey for half term and the forecast has made quite a downturn .
Im hoping it’s not !

We have just returned from Turkey which was okayish during the day and blooming cold in the evening.
We went and bought a couple of bad boy hoodies for the evenings and during the daytime we explored places we wouldn't have considered if it was hot.
We ate more
We drank more
We saw more
We spent more
I wanted a bit of a tan and instead had a riot.
Once we had accepted that it wasn't going to be the best weather we relaxed and had a ball.
Loads of laughter albeit drunken

@Hadenough2022 tell me about the day trip to Albania please

Is it only me that would rather sit on the beach in the pissing rain?

This is a lesson to be learned about life. Some things you can't control. The weather being one. Sometimes you have to make the most of what you have and get on with it. When I'm on holiday I just like being in the company of those I love, doing whatever there is to offer, no matter the weather. I would even get out for a walk in cold weather. Coming back and getting cosy after that would be the best. Just a warm coffee or tea can bring joy. Being able to adapt in any situation and be positive shows a strong character.

Some of my best holidays have been the ones where the weather turned bad and we had to entertain ourselves. Your attitude sounds really difficult to be around. I get you are disappointed, but you are making it much worse for yourself and for your partner. What do you want him to do? Be miserable too? Maybe he does understand but doesnt want to wallow in negativity. Buy a jumper, borrow a deck of cards or watch movies or read a book - focus on what you can do instead of what you cant. It is not what you expected - but that is not a catastrophe unless you make it one.

First time I went to Greece was same time of year weather was horrendous first few days, storms etc but then warmed up , weather can change quite quickly , see if you can get a bus , great experience. Might as well get your phone out or a book

I think you need to switch your focus from being upset at dashed hopes to looking for opportunities to have a good time. I am sure there is some shop with cute clothes for low cost you can purchase so you can be warmer. Ask around or search the internet for fun indoor things to do in the area. It sounds like you wanted to lounge around in the sun. Okay, so is there not some sort of ferry ride or boat trip that can be taken? Or if you are inland, some dinner train or sightseeing train or bus that can be taken? Do they allow fires on the beach? Or is there some sort of heater that you can use? Like a patio heater, but designed for the beach? Ask your hotel for help, especially if you chose one close to the water. Right now instead of being upset you could be on some patio/balcony/beach with a hot drink, wearing a cute coat, a warm blanket on your lap or wrapped around you enjoying the stars or people watching or enjoying some other sights and sounds. Or reading that book you never have time for or making new friends if you are someone who enjoys that.

Think yourself lucky you didn’t book for Italy where it’s been torrential rain since we arrived. We were here same time last year and it was 28C. Yesterday 12-14C in Tuscany. Hotel pool is looking very sad and cold. Same forecast for the rest of the week.
So we are sightseeing, eating a lot and relaxing in the room. Still a holiday.

Highly recommend. We went with TUI so booked through them. You get a hydrofoil from the port it takes 30 minutes to get to Sarande.
the tour then took us to Butrint National Park which was lovely lots of ancient ruins but lovely scenery and wildlife. Then went to a viewing point up in the hill’s fantastic views. Then back to Sarande which is a pleasant enough resort but not a lot there tbh.

Yes. You are ruining the holiday. It's disappointing but you're not a child. Buy a couple of jumpers and get out for some long walks

We had this the other way round in 2019. We went to the South of France for 10 days in July. Planned to go to a music festival in a town by the sea and spend sone time on day trips to nearby towns and cities.

It was an insane heatwave. It was 45 degrees the day we travelled down. The first night of the festival was cancelled as it was 38 degrees at midnight. Some of the afternoon beach events at the festival were cancelled and it was too hot to do the planned day trips (trains were delated and cancelled). Mr Monkey got heatstroke on the second day.

We spent a lot of the day time in our aprtment or in air conditioned public buildings (I saw a lot of the small local museum and town hall foyer!) and basically became nocutural for a few days. Things improved half way through as the temperature dropped to the high twenties.

It wasn't what we planned but we made the best of it.

Do some meditation.

I work in travel and believe me there will be tons to do! Why not make some memories together by booking a local hiking, cycling, kayaking trip, you don't need to sit around feeling miserable about the lack of sun!

Cold weather holidays are great for getting you exploring and out and about. Lovely walks in Greece which you probably wouldn’t want to do if the weather was too hot so make the best of it and be positive not so moaning Minnie.

Anyone else wondering how op is getting on?

Frozen solid

Or enjoying daytime activities...

We went to Majorca years ago and it lashed all week and we had to do that.
It’s one of the stand out holidays for me.

I hope OP is having a decent time of it

I'm hoping the lack of a reply means she's getting on with it and just enjoying time with her DH somewhere other than being at home

Unfortunately it is what it is! Weather cannot be controlled. Try and make the most of it and make happy memories. All tourist shops sell umbrellas/cheap ponchos. Go to the local kafeneon chat with the locals. Greeks are great conversationalists and love to talk about their local area. They also love to hear about yourself too. No doubt they will advise you where to go in the rain.

OP, speak to the hotel staff about a beach that has a cafe or bar and go and sit in there and watch the sea and read your book. Loads of Greek beaches have this sort of thing and the food is usually good too.
Or ask them if they can help you with car hire as a previous person suggested, smaller local Greek businesses don't always have websites or online quotes for hire and the car hire through them is probably cheaper than the big companies, particularly if you can ask the hotel for help. Otherwise definitely ask about public transport or taxis. Getting out of the hotel will help.

If you're willing to say where in Greece you are we might be able to help with some suggestions.

@MarrymeJM

Nah

Why not? Have you tried to before?