Letting children wee in the night yes or no?

[ToWeeornotToWee]

Do you let your children wee during the night? I’m talking school age children who are old enough to hold out till morning.

Imagine the noise of them using the toilet wakes up the grown ups in the house disturbing their sleep.

Does that change your opinion?

Edited by MNHQ to add that there's a bit of a vital update from the OP that should be read before responding later in the thread

if the wee wakes you up, there is no possibility you will fall asleep again.

OP what's yours alternative??
wee and a bit of noise or dealing with wet bedding and mattress in the morning??

Just tell them not to flush in the night.

This is seriously disturbing 😳.

Hopefully not real. Never has it occurred to me that people should police other people ( children included ) with regard to having a wee in the night.

Let me guess.

The OP has a controlling husband who doesn't want their children going to the toilet at night because it wakes him up.

Troll or not, I doubt the op will be back.

This is my guess too

Why wouldn't let a child have a wee in the night?
If someone needs the toilet then they should be able to go, regardless of the time, ideally. You'd risk them wetting their bed surely?

If you are concerned about the noise of the flush - just don't flush. Do it in the morning. Follow the old thyme "if it's yellow, let it mellow;...."

What the actual fuck. Let your children use the toilet.

In case this is a troll I won’t go into details but as children we weren’t allowed to go in the night and it was Fucking torture

I'd rather they go for a wee than piss in the bed, which, be realistic, is what will happen if you make them go back to sleep needing a wee.

An adult needing a wee will wake up and have to go. No one is old enough to 'hold out' all night if they actually need to go.

I'm wondering if this is the piss troll.

Abusive

Wtf. If you need a wee you go for a wee. FFS

Who the hell stops anybody weeing when they need it!?!

What's with the kids pee threads tonight?

Hello all,

I’m sorry I was ambiguous. I am no troll.

I wanted to gauge a feeling because I’m struggling to comprehend and deal with it.

My children are not allowed to wee at their Dad’s house at night. I have raised it several times and he will flat out deny it’s an issue.

Youngest (6) is having recurring tummy aches and headaches. Oldest (10) is experiencing really bad anxiety every Saturday night and Sunday morning before they go to his.

I know I need to take action and the responses here have confirmed this.

Obviously this is 100% unacceptable. I have just read your update- please, please do something about this for your children’s sakes. Perhaps involve the school.

I mean, even pragmatically I suspect it would take more energy and sleep disruption to prevent children from going to the toilet. Ditto when they inevitably wet the bed, much more disruptive than just going to the loo.

Emotionally, pretty sure refusing access to a toilet could stray into abuse territory. Yeah sometimes I hear my daughter plod past the door to the loo but it’s hardly a big deal, I just roll over and go back to sleep? Or go for a wee myself!

He is BVVU. They can be taught to be quiet if they need to get up, not flush and close the door quietly. It's your duty to speak up for them - stop them going there if necessary.

Is this real?!

Our DS often goes for a wee in the night and closes the door VERY loudly but it has never crossed my mind to not let him go! How could we stop him anyway, he’s in his own room and we’re in ours asleep?!

Jesus, just read your update. That’s fucking awful, your poor kids!

I have 7 kids, and I’ve never once stopped any of them using the toilet at night. Never even heard of parents that do that.

Stopping someone from going for a wee when they need a wee is abuse.